There's this guy I like, he's pentecostal, I'm agnostic. I'm afraid that if he knew I wasn't a Christian he wouldn't even want to speak to me, but at the same time, if it did happen, I'd rather have it happen now than later. So, should I tell him, or not?
2007-11-11 13:21:02 · 15 answers · asked by nunovyorebiznis 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He's also a good friend of mine, and I wouldn't want the friendship to end either...
2007-11-11 13:21:39 · update #1
Guess what, Christians have friends who are not Christian all the time. It's not like it's forbidden or something. Kind of silly to even imply that.
2007-11-11 13:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus_the_great 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you afraid of learning why he is pentecostal. He is a person and you could still get to know him. Let Him know you are agnostic which is the belief that there maybe a God out there but you are unsure. An atheist is one that adamantly denies there is even the remote existence of a God. I am a Christian and would still talk to someone who is atheist, scientologist or other. I have no qualms about sharing my faith and respecting others. As long as both parties can remain respect full. You can work out the details later.
2007-11-11 13:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to know now for two reasons. First, you want closure on whether the relationship can continue or not. The second has to do with the fact that you might be surprised at his reaction. He may be open to you as a friend.
When I was in high school many moons ago, I was a practicing Catholic and fairly devout. My two best friends were agnostic and atheist. We had lots of other things in common that maintained our friendship for many years. We talked about religion, but we never pressured each other to join the other side. I'm still Catholic - and now they are as well - not because I worked on them to do so. It just happened on its own in the course of their own lives.
So, give it a try and see what happens. Remember this phrase: "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, then it is yours. If it does not return, it never was yours in the first place." That was on the back of a U2 album many moons ago.
2007-11-11 13:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jude & Cristen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a good friend that doesn't know your views of religion or faith, and you want to bring this up - WHY?
Very rarely is talk about faith or religion a means to base an opinion of a person, but you want it to. Usually the issues of trust and honesty and fairness/compassion of others - override religion or faith when forming a friendship.
Maybe I'm too old to understand why you need to crack this egg, just ignore both your religious views and be happy you have a friendship. Seems like a mess for no gain.
Whatever you do BE HONEST no half truths. Clean pure honesty rarely causes misunderstandings.
2007-11-11 13:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with being friends, but it's better to be honest. The longer you wait, the more it's going to hurt when the truth comes out. But he may very well respect your beliefs and still be friends.
Why not ask questions about what he believes and discuss it? After all, the term "agnostic", by definition, means "without knowledge" (from the Greek, "a", a particle meaning no/not/without; and "gnosis", knowledge).
2007-11-11 13:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Brother Jonathan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a true Christian he should not stop talking to you... Unless of course you have been lying to him and pretending that you are a Christian... That is not the way to have a friend... He must be a nice guy for you to be afraid to lose his friendship...
2007-11-11 13:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mutual respect for one's religious beliefs should be the norm. You both are not so different, you just practice different forms of worship. Agnostics have a belief in a god. It usually is money, clothes, people and you worship, adore it. He does the same. Look for commonalities, not differences. You both are on a religious journey that has only begun and can only grow.
2007-11-11 13:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by hmmmm 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, if you tell him, he will not date you. The Bible prohibits the marriage of Christians to non-Christians, and Christians usually date for the purpose of marriage. However, you may be able to keep him as a friend. Be prepared to be witnessed to, asked to church, etc.
2007-11-11 13:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by frenzy-CIB- Jim's with Jesus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you're an agnostic. If he's a true friend and a true Christian, he will remain your friend.
2007-11-11 13:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chantal G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he stops talking to you just because you're not a christian then you don't need him as a friend or anything more.
2007-11-11 13:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋