My friend had suffered from bulimia in high school (or so she has claimed), but has since 'recovered' in college. Now, she eats so much! Seriously, a couple of times she's eaten 15 pot stickers and a BIG (we're talking soup bowl) helping of friend rice. When one of our other room mates commented on it, she went flying off the handle about how she doesn't want to share her food. She bakes cakes and eats half of them in a sitting, and eats out almost every other day. If she was a stick (like room mate #1) or ran 30 miles a week (like me--I'm training for a triathlon, so she's not alone--I eat a ton too), I suppose it wouldn't bother us. But she eats a lot, and then she has the nerve to lecture US about eating healthy! She made a comment to me about how I spend too much on food per term (about $380 for 10 weeks: she 'claimed' she spent $130 for the same time!), and to our other friend that she's only eating 1200 calories a day! She's gained a ton of weight, she's in denial what can we do?
2007-11-11 13:01:27 · 7 answers · asked by Áine 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
She is also a compulsive shopper, a bit of a pack rat, and is planning her wedding--maybe it's stress relief? Her fiance is a wonderful man whom we all like, and her treats her very well. We have tried involving her with our activites, but she often blows her room mates and former friends off, saying we're 'below' her, because we're not engaged. PS--How does a room mate who trains all the time encourage a girl to have an eating disorder? I am not thin--I have a swimmer's body; huge shoulders and big muscles for a girl--so accusing me of giving her body image problems is not going anywhere. I have never not been civil to her, so I find it unhelpful being accused that her eating disorder is strictly MY fault.
2007-11-11 16:44:47 · update #1
As her friend, it is your duty to make her realize that she is fat.
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You realize that you're going to hell, don't you? It's girls like you that drove her to bulimia in the first place.
2007-11-11 13:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is quit talking about her behind her back & start being a true friend. Yes, she has an eating disorder. No, you can't fix her. All you can do is accept her as she is & be her friend. She got help without your help when she was bulimic & she knows how to get help now. You are not qualified to help her & will probably do more harm than good esp with your wonderful attitude.
2007-11-11 13:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by kokochin01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chum is thoroughly conscious that she is obese. supply up pointing it out. the fact that she criticizes you with regard to the load you're dropping shows you that it bothers her. So be there for her while she's waiting to drop extra pounds. you will no longer be able to stress it upon her. dropping weight takes a lot of self-discipline and she or he's probably no longer waiting to make those alterations in her existence style. Be that place-style for her. Ask her to workout with you yet while she does not want to bypass do no longer push it. while she is waiting you would be the desirable one to assist her on the grounds which you have been there. As you alter, she might get so uncomfortable that she would be in a position to unconsciously attempt to renounce you from being healthful and drag you down. it would desire to truly be on your ultimate pastime to no longer communicate approximately it a lot along with her. while she's uninterested in being obese, she'll do what's necessary to alter. meanwhile, have self assurance in her. Be sort to her by utilising giving her the area she needs.
2016-10-02 03:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she had bulemia. Now she is eating too much. She still has an eating disorder, and being confronted by thinner friends probably won't help.
I would say, if anything, encourage her to eat healthily (with you... I assume you probably eat well, as you're in training) and maybe refuse cake when she offers it, etc. lead by example, but dont make it an issue.
2007-11-11 13:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by kari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do to get someone to voluntarily change their eating habits, most can't even do it after being told by a physician if their health is in jeopardy. lifestyle changes have to come from within they can not be forced and especially when it comes to the diet.
many people care more how food tastes vs the effect that is has on the body and short/long-term health. free will isn't a good thing for many people.
2007-11-11 13:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by lv_consultant 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try setting good examples for her to see that eating this much foods and being in denial will change her life forever. Try confronting her but in a way that would make her see her mistake in eating this but and maybe it might get her on the right track to being healthly and out od denial
2007-11-11 13:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by diva 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
confront her about it, and she will soon realise that your right
2007-11-11 13:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Big G 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋