How long should you date someone before expecting a commitment?

Question

This question is really geared toward experienced people looking for a serious relationship, and/or marriage.

Answer 1

after 3 dates then the people involved should have enough to go on to know if they want to be in a commited relationship with each other or move on.

Answer 2

I think you need to experience at least 4-5 years before deciding to commit to a person for marriage. You need to test how long they are willing to stay with you first and if things will go well after long periods of time. In serious relationships, you can just decide to be in one if you feel that the dates go well and you see this person can be in a long term relationship with you.

Answer 3

Its not a time issue. Some people can fall in love and be married inside a week and spend an entire life together happy. Others may date for years before going for the big "I Dos" It all about when you feel ready. when you do thats when you need to have a talk with your partner and see if they feel the same way. Just take it from there either they will or they wont. Just because they don't doesn't mean anything bad. It just may take them longer to commit.

Answer 4

I know I may get flack for this, but I think that anyone you seriously date should know by one years time whether or not he/she could be with you long term/marriage.
I would never date a guy for 4-5 years before he put a ring on my finger......frankly none of us have that much time, and if in 4-5 years he still hasn't figured out if you're the one...he never will or you are not!!!
You don't have to get married right away, but if he isn't sure after a year with you.......he isn't sure about you....which doesn't bode well for your future together.

Answer 5

Give it a good 6-8 months so both of you can see each other under many different scenarios and circumstances before making a serious commitment. This gives you enough time to get to know each other.

Answer 6

after 5 years

Answer 7

It really depends on what you mean by commitment. I'd say 3 to 4 dates if you are talking deciding to date exclusively and for marriage I'd say dating at least a year, to a year and a half.

Answer 8

It depends on the couple. Some are two weeks and others several months as long as its with the same person and not dating here and there.

Answer 9

I dated my husband for barely 6 months before we got married. I have been married for 33 years now, all my kids grown-up with 2 grandchildren.

My friend dated his husband for 8 years but they separated after 3 years.

The length of period doesn't really matter. What matters is "know whom you are marrying".

Answer 10

I think 2 years is acceptable. The first year is most likely a time when he or she is showing their best behavior.