Girlfriend Help..?

Question

I need help geting a new girlfriend. No, im not that nerd who has never had a girfriend..i've had had 9 and a few really hot ones. I was pretty dang popular in at my junor high. Now im at highschool and it's just not working for me..i have no clue why. I dont condsider myself ugly, im not fat, i do have a tiny bit of acne. Just a little on my nose. So far i havnt asked any girls out in high school..i duno i still talk to girls alot. Idk why but i notice myself being a lot more consertive in high school. I used to get girlfriends alot, it used to come naturly it would happen by itself..now idk. I like a few girls but i feel kinda like a nobody at high school,im not thogh i play football and talk to many girls. Im just kinda afrid of being rejected now, and of what everyone will talk about and say. I really enjoy haveing a girlfriend and talking and spending time with them. I just need to get my love life started again. Girls and guys can you give me any tips to get a girlfriend again?

Answer 1

well, look around you... if you are as fine as you say you are, i am sure there are plenty of girls who would go out with you... i mean really, if all those girls you talk to didn't like you or want to be around you, i am sure they would find something better to do. i know how you are afraid of rejection, but how do you think we feel? most girls do not feel confident about themselves let alone their appearence or what boys think of them. now throw in some really great guy, and we become even more unsure of ourselves.... coming from a 16 year old, this might mean much, but sometimes you have to just take the first bite yourself. find someone who has interests similar to yours. if you are into football, take notice of the girls who are there at EVERY game, and even some of the out of town ones... if you were into music i would tell you to look around the choir... there are lots to pick from. trust your instincts, if there is something that says that the best looking girl you talked to is not the smartest animal on the planet, she probably isn't the one for you...
everyone needs someone who is on the same level as them... why do you think it normally works better for the guy to be older than the girl? duh, because girls typically mature sooner than guys. pay attention, i am sure there are girls staring and you just haven't noticed yet... good luck : )

Answer 2

What you're feeling is normal - you were Big Man on Campus in junior high, and then you go back to square one in high school. And guess what...even if you become Mister Macho in high school, you'll become a nobody again as soon as you start college. :-) so it's good to get used to and not let it get you down.

Instead of trying to go out and get a girlfriend (or wait for them to come to you), why don't you develop your group of friends, including guys and girls? I've found that I'm way more likely to consider dating a good friend of mine than some guy i dont' really know.

Put yourself out there as a friend everyone likes to have, and the girls will take another look at you and wonder about the possibilities of more.

Also - being girlfriendless could be really good for you, especially if you're a serial dater. If you're really comfortable with you who you are when you're single....well, that's hot! Maybe being alone for a while will do a lot of good for you and when you're ready, you'll choose a girl because she's right for you, not just because you've been alone so long you can't stand it. :-)

Good luck!

Answer 3

The ball's in a new court homy. High school is a far cry from Junior high. The girls are maturing, and looking for more mature guys, play it cool. Be suave and funny, but not stuck up and arrogant. Girls love confidence, so seem it even if you don't feel it. Tell yourself you could land any girl in the school and believe it. No way you can get a girl unless you try. So jump in the ocean buddy, plenty of fishies in the sea.

Answer 4

Maybe you got so use to girls coming to you when you were in the Jr high, but now its different now that youre in the highschool. Girls expect guys to come to them and ask them out so they wont face rejection or worry about what others might say. I think it would be tougher for a girl to be rejected by a guy because girls occasionally gossip more. So I think you should put yourself out there and take a few chances and follow what your heart says. I mean seriously, what's the worse that could happen? She'll say no? That's her loss, just move on. Good luck!

Answer 5

Buddy, you gotta lose that cocky attitude. Girlfriends in junior high mean nothing. You're in the big league now. There's 3 things you can have that impresses girls. 1. Money 2.Nice Car 3. An attitude. But those things only lure in retarded girls. If you want a girl that's right for you. All you can do is wait and be less shy. Usually the right girl will match about your level of attractiveness.

Answer 6

You need to understand that high school is different than gradeschool. You don't need to rush finding a girlfriend because you usually get one when you're not looking plus you don't want to seem desperate. It'll be ok You'll find someone just be patient and start to hang out with girls more, maybe ask a few to see a movie with you. You may not have a girlfriend but you can have almost as much fun as hanging out with a girl as a friend.

Answer 7

Just start making friends with the girls you think you might like. Get to know someone you like and don't worry about being rejected, any halfway decent girl would let you down gently and if she doesn't, then you made a lucky escape as she was probably mean! And don't worry about a little bit of acne, most girls don't care about just a little bit.

Answer 8

Quit looking for one. concentrate on your education and football. Relationships happen when you do not really look for it. when you think about other things you seem much more relaxed , more yourself. If girls are all you think about, you will come across as nervous or perhaps desperate. Girls like confidence and they also like a challenge.
The acne on your nose will clear up , drink water instead of soda and it will do so allot quicker. I know as for myself the more i get to know and like some one the less i see the flaws in their appearance.
This can be the best time of your life, being a grown up come all to quickly.
Enjoy it!

best of luck ,
Krissy

Answer 9

Dont worry just means your growing up and your relationships will mean more to u now then when u were younger.
I thik its a good thing cuz with u being selective u will be able to find a better girl
But i would just try be open and confident
girl love that
i would just go for it
I would rather been rejected
instead of living my life wonder "what if"

Answer 10

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Focus more on becoming the right person than trying to find the right person.


I don't want to judge you for being one of those F Tards who use girls like objects just to make themselves happy, prove me wrong. I wish you could.

Anyway, you don't really know love so until you learn that, there is no point in helping you get a girlfriend, since I dont want my own daughter to go out with a person with that kind of attitude.