quickly and things were good for about the first year. Right off the bat he hated all of my friends- thought it was completely wrong to have any friendships w people of the opposite sex. At the time I complied. I lost of good friendships. We fought often throughout the 2-4 years of our relationships- sometimes getting physical (from both of us.) Ive consistantly been full time employed while taking classes at night. He works most of the time- but does not share my work ethic.The last two years have really quieted down- but now in the past three months our old issues have resurfaced. I am now almost 27 and think it's compeltely ridiculous not to have friends. I've been making a real effort to be more social and he's compeltely lost it (holes in doors, walls- broken lamp.) I hate to end something after so long and so much effort but i do not want to be so isolated. Is this issue something that can be worked on or is it OVER?
2007-11-11 10:36:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's over. i don't think that you guys have that much in common anymore now that you learned about his real side and personality. don't worry about anything but your health. and if you do want to break up with him, say that it's for the best and that everyone will be happier this way. good luck. don't make him hurt you like this.
2007-11-11 10:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by DCD4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow reading this question makes me think this will be me if I don't end my dysfunctional relationship soon....
Anyways I think that it's just a matter of breaking away. I've been with my bf for 3 1/2 yrs living together for 3 yrs. He doesn't like my friends and thinks me wanting to go out and have fun is "childish". When he gets mad at me he punches inanimate objects and screams.
You say things have "quieted down" which makes me think it might be like in my case that dysfunctional has been your normal. You are accustomed to this lifestyle of isolation and dysfunctional relationship.
You might feel like you don't want to end "something after so long" bc it feels like it will be all that effort for nothing but at the same time you have to look at it that you've missed out so much and the longer you put it off, the more living you're missing out on. You only have one life to live, make it count.
You sound like an independent, hardworking woman. It may be hard to break away but you can do it. Good luck with everything.
2007-11-11 10:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really think about going to relationship counseling to see what the root of the problems are...
I think that would make more sense than to just end a 6 year relationship.
Best of luck!
2007-11-11 10:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by What's good? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's over.
Dump his *** before the control freak really hurts you or worse kills you.
2007-11-11 10:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by bakerone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋