Ive been dating my bf for 5 months, and 3 months ago he met a girl at work who he carpools with everyday and studies with. But when she goes over to his house to study, she ends up just swimming in his pool with him and his brother. He invites her to the beach with us, and today I found out she went over to his house just to hang out for the day when I was my house studying.
Im so mad! When we went to the beach with about 7 other people, I walked off with a friend to go for a walk, so he followed us and left her with his other friends. When we got back, her and her friend had left. Is this a sign she wants him?
I am so jealous and mad... but don't want to say anything. Do I have a right to be angry? Does it sound like she wants him? She is 24 and he is 22.
My close guy friend (who I dont hang out with much anymore cos I have a bf) asked me 2 go 2 his xmas party for work - free alcohol n accommodation. I wasnt gona go cos of my bf, but he hangs out with that girl. Should I go
2007-11-11 10:25:06 · 12 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should talk about your feelings with your boyfriend. Men and women CAN be friends without ulterior motives, but you should let him know that it bothers you that they spend so much time together, so that you can at least be reassured that there is nothing going on.
2007-11-11 10:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone gave me some advice that would really fit well for your situation:
Your car is like your boyfriend/girlfriend...you don't lend them to anyone.
Your BF should not be study buddies with some girl, and he has no business swimming with her in the pool. She should not be going over "just to hang out." Like my wife says "Think the worst, and your probably right." There's more going on then meets the eye.
Why are you going to the party? To get back at your cheating boyfriend? Two wrongs make it right? It sounds like both of you should NOT be in a committed relationship right now. Learn to be faithful to your guy and go find a guy that will respect the fact that he has a girlfriend.
2007-11-11 10:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely go and hang out with your guy friend because when your bf is not there for you then who will? It all sounds a little fishy to me but you never know maybe he is truly just hanging out with her but with her leaving and just showing up sometimes at his house...I would keep a look out just in case and if he gets all defensive when you talk to him about her then something is seriously not right. But don't give up your guy friend for you bf trust me you will regret it in the long run if you lose him just because of a guy who may not last all that long.
2007-11-11 10:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is interested in your boyfriends brother. Your boyfriend is dating you right? He hasn't taken this girl out on a date has he? Why don't you ask him if his interest in this girl is more than just a friend? I would advise not going to the party with your guy friend until you know the status of this present relationship.
2007-11-11 10:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you deff. have a reason to be mad. its only natural to feel jealous too.
it sounds like hes spending a lot of time with that other girl. i think she deff. wants him. but hey, atleast he followed you and your friend! thats good.
i say go to that christmas party. but tell your boyfriend you got invited and dont want to bail out on your friend. and if he gets pissed, just tell him how you feel. it may be a little argument. but i hope everything works out.
oh and you may also want to tell that girl to back off. show your man that you care about him! fight for him. lol
but dont worry...feeling angry is a normal way to feel right now.
2007-11-11 10:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by hannah l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about how you feel. Perhaps you could try telling him that you are uncomfortable with the situation, and explain that people are starting to get suspicious about her and how much time she is spending with him.
Sometimes guys just can't see it - he may be totally oblivious to the situation.
I'd feel exactly the same way if I was in your situation.
Goodluck.
2007-11-11 10:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by miss_tinkerbell_fairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably likes him, and you haven't given any indication on whether or not he could like her back. i think since he followed you and just left the girl there, that he likes you and not her.
i don't think you should neglect your friendship with your guy friend because you have a bf. he's your friend! you trust your bf, so he should trust you with your guy friend. if he doesn't trust you, is it because he feels guilty himself?
just tell him you love him and trust him, but think the girl could like him. if it makes you mad or uncomfortable, tell him. tell him that if he loves and trusts you that he'll be ok with you doing things with your guy friend. it's true!
good luck! i hope you get a lot of answers.
2007-11-11 10:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and go, what is the worst thing that could happen you fall in love with the guy friend. Well if that does happen, you will always know the new guy will always love you.
2007-11-11 10:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by cadet_sam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that u should be mad at that ***** and you should go to that party with your close guy friend
2007-11-11 10:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by crazy gurl :p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i think you should go. think she likes him and kinda sounds like he likes her to. get rid of him and find someone else. girl move on.
2007-11-11 10:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by jalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋