I have been having problems with my maid of honor for the a while. The other day we were talking about what the girls were going to carry. I said one red rose and a poch that would hang from the wrist.(that i am paying for) She aske why all the girls woud have one? It is not like we will be wearing make up that needs to be fixed. And I said Um yes your will be.I am not asking you four to wear pagent make up but a little press powder and some color for the lips and some thing to bring out the eyes like liner or some thing. But why do we have to she said. And i told her that we are having pictures done and i would like to have them look good. Not shiney faces. And I have some one to come do the make up( my treat).
Is it to much to ask the girls to wear make up to my wedding. Am i wrong?
2007-11-11 10:05:15 · 16 answers · asked by movievixin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She is not allergic. she wears make up when she goes out. So do the other girls. So that is not the problem. It is like she want me upset over this wedding. We have fought of the price of the dress. She wanted a dress that runs 139.00 plus shipping.The dress i wanted for the girls is under 100.00.
2007-11-11 10:26:41 · update #1
Oh how i love how some one will say that you are a bridezilla if you ask for anything. I did not demand that make up be worn. We had all ready talked about the make up.i said i would like the girls to wear powder and some color of the lips and something to bring out the eyes. And She was cool about that. Now 2months later here were are.
2007-11-11 11:51:14 · update #2
I don't think it's too much to ask. Especially since you're not expecting more than a little powder, lipstick and mascara, AND you're paying for it. Sounds to me like she's just trying to be a pain. Go somewhere, just the two of you, and nicely ask her what the problem is. Maybe she'll tell you what's up, and you two can work it out.
2007-11-11 11:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The issue is obviously not the make-up. For some reason she is upset w/you and fighting you on all the details. She must be someone who you consider very close or you wouldn't have asked her to be your MOH. I think your offer of having someone come in to do the makeup is wonderful, I would be very excited about that if I was in your wedding party. Maybe what you need to do is ask your MOH out to lunch, somewhere quiet and private, just the two of you and have a heart to heart talk. If something is bothering her and she is able to get if off her chest all these other problems might just disappear. Good luck, hope it all turns out well!
2007-11-11 10:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by LiLiJo 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what makes you happy...it is your wedding afterall. I was my best friends maid of honor in her wedding...we had been planning to be each others maid of honors since we were kids. Also if you have more than one sister a best friend might be a better way to go so you don;t have to hurt one sisters feelings. Maybe you can find some other "honor" for your sister so she does not feel left out. Is either one married? One could be a matron of honor (who is married) and a maid of honor (an unmarried attendent)
2016-05-29 06:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's too much to ask someone to wear makeup. A wedding is a special event and I understand that you want everyone to look their best.
Not saying that your friend is ugly. But, even beautiful models can benefit from a little foundation and powder. Especially if you are having professional pictures, you don't want your friends to look shiny.
I think it's a bit selfish of them not to wear makeup, after all you're paying. If they don't have any medical reasons that prevent them for wearing makeup, they should just do it. Wearing a little bit of makeup for one day isn't going to kill them, give them wrinkles or make them sell their soul to the beauty industry or whatever their reason against it.
Sounds like your friend is being a bridesmaid from hell. I mean, you want dresses that are $100 and she wants them to cost more?? What's wrong with her? Most bridesmaid ***** about dress being too expensive.
2007-11-11 10:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by J'adore 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow - is this really who you want standing up with you? I would honestly (and be nice about it, not like a bridezilla) ask them if they want to be a part of your wedding or if they want you to choose someone else now, while you can still get a dress for someone else.
More than likely, they will either bow out (better now than later) or straiten up. Since you are having makeup professionally done, and are paying for the things that need paid for, it sounds like the girls should just go along with it.
Good luck.
2007-11-11 10:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No its not wrong. You poor thing. My MOH is fighting me too but not that bad. If they keep it up ask them if they really do want to be in the wedding, and make sure you have a backup in mind in case they say no or keep treating you like crap.
2007-11-11 10:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong. I think make up generally comes with the territory of being in the bridal party! At my sister's wedding, she even put on my make up for me! Yes! On her day! I think your friends need to support you! Good luck!
2007-11-11 11:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing about weddings that I often have trouble with. Your celebrating your life as you live it and your future life. You choose a maid of honor because of who she is not who you want her to be. Therefore, I think it's wrong to make her feel uncomfortable. I can see wanting to pick out the dress, but I truly believe that all women know how they like to wear their hair and what kind of shoes they are the most comfortable in. Therefore, if she doesn't like wearing makeup, perhaps you could just give her some pressed powder, lip gloss, and mascara as a gift. Remember, a wedding isn't worth a single ruined relationship.
2007-11-11 10:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋
It is YOUR wedding so what you want is what you should have. but now just something to consider. I dont know if she is like me, but i dont wear make up at all, not just becuase i am against it, but more importantly that i am more beutiful without it. i dont look good with make-up. i was naturally blessed with a face that does not need at and then looks horrible with it. just something to consider.
2007-11-11 10:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Cyrus The Great 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your MOH is being a (b)itch, no doubt about it. I would say having her wear makeup is wrong, except that she wears it when she goes out. Ask her why she wears makeup to go out but doesn't want to look good in your pictures?
2007-11-11 10:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋