My best male friend at college and I got close and eventually something happened between us despite him having a girlfriend. I said that I did not want to be in the situation where he was seeing me secretly and that I would rather we stayed friends as before. He agreed saying that though he had feelings for me he'd been with his girlfriend a long time etc. We talked a lot on the phone after this and everything seemed normal but now that we're back at college he is really horrible to me, he shouts at me about silly things, and ignores me the rest of time. I haven't told anyone that anything ever happened. Also he has started really flirting with other girls (but not his girlfriend?). He still calls me though and then he is completely normal and nice to me, he denies that he behaves in this way, but other people having been asking me if we've fallen out so obviously he is acting differently. My main issue is that we used to be friends. Why is he like this to me?
2007-11-11 10:04:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants you like crazy, but he doesn't want to admit it because he is frightened of rejection. He is also frightened of admitting he's got feelings for you (in public) that's why he disses you in public. You need to talk to him. Good luck.
2007-11-11 10:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to give you the answer, before I give you the explanation. I think it's time to move on from this friendship. If he sees fit to change his ways it's up to him to make ammends.
Now, for the explanation. I strongly feel that it is difficult to maintain male/female friendships without some sort of attraction being involved whether it be one party or both (I find this is mostly true for men.) I know it's an unfair statement. There isn't anything wrong with this. It's just the way we are built. I think it further complicates things when you act on the attraction. Your friend, realizing that the relationship wasn't headed in a romantic direction, is slowly pushing you away. It's up to you to realize you deserve better.
I hope this helps!
2007-11-11 18:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being an immature fool, you're best off staying well clear of him, if the friendship he had with you meant that much he wouldn't treat you like this, NO EXCUSES, you deserve better than this, there's no way you should be his seconds, if he wants you so bad he should break up with his girlfriend instead of messing her about as well, he's a loser and doesn't know how to treat a lady right, he doesn't like the fact that you weren't prepared to continue being "his bit on the side" too right, if he keeps trying to show you up in front of others stand up for yourself and humiliate him, he'll soon get the message that its not worth messing with you and stop, good luck!
2007-11-12 09:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a pig. Do you know his girlfriend? I would tell her what he's really like only for the fact that he may lie his way out of it, she'll blame you and won't talk to you ever again. So I'd just ignore him. He's not a real man if he cheats on his girlfriend and is not a real friend if he behaves like this to you.
Just explain to your friends that you've seen another darker side to him and you have decided life's too short to waste time on untrustworthy people. Let them make their own assumptions. Hopefully if he spreads himself around enough someone else will make his seedy side come out into the open for all to see!
2007-11-11 18:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same old story, if this was junior school he would be pulling your hair and throwing stones at you, so he hasnt grown up much since then has he.. bottom line love, hes in love with you and hasnt a clue what to do about it, he wanted more, then you said you wanted just friendship, so hes probably treating you like this to relieve his feelings, you will either have to tell him to take a hike, or sleep with him again and take him on as a boyfriend, it depends what you want to do really.
2007-11-11 18:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by magpyre 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in his position i really liked a girl but because she went out with someone else i tried to ignoring her thought it would make it easier it didn't.
2007-11-14 17:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dave Computer Cleaner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously has feelings for you and is condfused about what to do and the flirting he might be trying to make you jealous
2007-11-11 20:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by niknak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he likes you. And he wants you.
He's just a bit mad and sour because you rejected him, and although you're thinking "I didn't reject him" you kinda did, when all of this happened.
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2007-11-11 18:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by r3alrage 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is just being a jerk.
2007-11-11 18:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Dollebabie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a ****
spunk all over him!! that'll teach him! RAHAHARARARGGHHH
2007-11-11 18:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋