ok.. im 14 and my boyfriend is 17 almost 18.. and my parents are overprotective of me.. but if i dont tell himn about my BF.. im not gonna be able to go out with him.. and specially cuz his almost 18... how and what should i tell my parents about him to make them trust him and feel comftrable so they let me and him to go me places in his car and even go out somewehere... if u read this please answer.. cuz i need help!!.. thanks :)
2007-11-11 09:06:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps you shouldn't have hidden him from them in the first place, so they could have gotten to know him as an underage kid, instead of it being where their little girl brings home a man to play house with.
2007-11-11 09:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to think about the reasons you two are together.
When I was 14 I was with someone his age as well. I thought we were crazy about eachother. Then as I got older I realized the only reason he wanted to be with me was because I was young, innocent and naive. Your parents have reason to be worried. When your that age, there is a big maturity difference. He might just be looking for sex, I hate to say it but why else would an 18 year old boy want to be with a 14 year old girl..?
Just be safe
2007-11-11 17:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Parents will be parents, and since your only 14, they are automatically going to think you are too young to have a boyfriend, especially one that is 18. If I were your parent, I would probably freak out because I know what boys that age want, and I cannot even imagine any boy looking at you in "that way" at such a young age. It's going to be very hard for both of you, but it's best to be honest, and have your boyfriend come over and meet your folks so they have a better idea of who he is.
2007-11-11 17:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by yayaquack 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow I applaud you because I would have never told my parents (typical teen) but you’re making a plan to. Make sure it’s a time where both of your parents are home and set them down at the table. (This is what I said to my parents) mom, dad you both know me very well in fact I’m your child (they smile) I get good grades I’m a fantastic kid (they smile again) I am very mature for my age and I found someone that I deeply care about and he feel’s the same way about me I’m sure you’ve felt this way before your married! The ting is he is some what older than I am. (LMAO be very mature a sophisticated)
2007-11-11 19:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cherish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just trying to understand why an almost 18 year old male is dating such a young girl. You're young and you have a lot of time to grow. Yes, date, but don't date a guy who'll be called a pedophile because he's dating you.
2007-11-11 17:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell your parents. take the guy with you and have them meet him. 3.5 years age difference isnt much, but at this age it can mean the difference between dates and jail for him. i highly recommend that you have no sex with him until you are at least 17, and 18 is better. understand also that he is at the point in his life where he might be going to college in another city or state. in this case i side with your parents for now. they should be protective of you, but they should allow a little freedom as well. if you approach them like an adult, and offer respectful and cogent reasons why you should be allowed to date this guy, they will listen to you. if they tell you you cant date him, then be respectful of their wishes, and prove to them that you can handle their decision. and dont date him behind their backs.
2007-11-11 17:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by richard b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really he is too old for you and I know how your parents feel but you have to be very care full cause you never know how much trouble you can get into like getting pregnet or something like that.But if you two love each other then you have to be Honest with each other and wait till your a certain age or just go right on and tell your parents the truth cause the truth never hurts at all.If you were my daughter I want you to tell me the truth about yourself cause I would love you very much.And I'm sure your parents dose love you they are just worried about you that's all But the wise thing to do is WAIT till your about his age PLEASE be care full.
2007-11-11 17:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by mike k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to take it easy - youre only 14!! Give yourself some time to grow and mature! And hes 18... you need to ask yourself why he wants to date a 14 year old? If its not to marry you, and seriously marry you - in which case he should be fine with being introduced to your parents - and if hes not, you should re-think your decision to be with him!
2007-11-11 17:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur parents that u have met someone.Invite him over to meet them and see what kind of response u get from them when he meets them.That way they will see what he is like and get to know him so that they will be comfortable with him being around u.
2007-11-11 17:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent myself,I suggest you talk with your parents at dinner,& tell them that there's a boy you would like them to meet, & because he's a few years older than you,you feel you want their opinion,& you think they'll like him if they meet him..
2007-11-11 17:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋