to be dating for 2 months and already talking about marriage? he says he is going to propose next june/july. we already picked out the ring. and hes getting me a promise ring for christmas!
what do you all think
2007-11-11 08:50:05 · 14 answers · asked by luckyirishchic87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you're still in the 'honeymoon' phase of your relationship - when everything is sunshine and roses, and the sun and moon rise on each other - if the relationship's worth sticking around for, it's worth waiting to get married. You haven't begun to really KNOW each other yet - why rush? If it's right, a year won't change anything, but will give you the time to adjust to things other than the elation you are feeling right now of being newly in love.
2007-11-11 08:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Fluff S 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
For some people, it can work. There are many people I know who knew they'd get married after a couple of weeks or so. Personally, my parents got engaged after two months, and though they're still married, it's a marriage of convenience now.
How old are you? Do you guys have lots of schooling left (high school or college)? Stable incomes? While talking about getting engaged is great and wonderful, make sure you're talking about things that marriage will involve, OTHER than the wedding.
It's okay to be happy about the big dress, and the ring, and the proposal. But how do you guys feel about kids? Chores? Jobs? Vacations, expenses, bills, family problems? There's still alot of topics to cover. I'd recommend not buying anything yet until you've gone over more things than ring.
If you've already started on those topics, great! Make sure you have support from friends and family because it's very important to get your loves ones to support you. And because you want to get married, start acting like a committed relationship. Don't let disagreements end badly, don't walk out in fights. Communicate, love one another, and know that you guys are taking the right steps to having a happy life together.
2007-11-11 16:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Evoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not to early to WONDER if you two will get married some day, but it IS to early to make the decision. Before committing to be lifetime partners you have to find out if you two are good WORKmates as well and good PLAYmates. If you really want to test each other, then take on some unpleasant long project, like keeping house for an elder in your neighborhood, like preparing, planting, harvesting, and preserving a vegetable garden. It should be something that takes up at least half of the time you two spend together, something like a 5 hour commitment for every weekend or 2 hours on 3 evenings a week. Whatever it is, make sure it's something is just no fun at all -- grown up married life is like that a lot of the time, just work and bills and home upkeep and responsibilities and no fun at all. If you two can support and honor and cherish each other through a full year of teamwork at some demanding and unpleasant task, THEN it's time to think about making a lifetime plan of it.
Marry in haste, regret at leisure. Take this guy for a "test drive" and I don't mean sex.
2007-11-11 18:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a little odd that there's a time you know when he'll propose. My fiance and I were talking about marriage after about 6 months but it may have been sooner if we lived closer together (we're 900 miles apart). We like to have discussions like that in person. We had some serious discussions and I knew he wanted to ask my dad permission but after another 5 months he proposed. First we wanted to make sure we were right for each other and truly were ready.
2007-11-11 17:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rockit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, no. I got my promise ring... about a month after we'd been together, and we'd been talking about marriage (not seriously at that point) about two months in, just like you. We've been together almost two years now, we have the ring, and he'll be proposing within the next year. :)
2007-11-11 16:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lady D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad went on 1 date..and have been married 35 years.
I was engaged after 2 months.
2007-11-11 17:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by jen_rlk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no thats not crazy, my fiance and i started talking about marriage about 2 or 3 months after we had been dating, he knows your the one and sometimes ppl just know those kinds of things right away.
2007-11-12 16:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My EX did that to me too and he made me pick out the ring and then purposed in a restaraunt...He was psycho. It took me 6 mo. to figure out how to get away from him. be careful.
Any guy who has you pick out the ring first then purposes is a moron anyway, I can see purposing then going in together but thats pushing it. Look for signs of him being psycho. How does he treat his mother??? Does he anger easily?? stuff like that. But yes two months is way to soon to propose anyway.
2007-11-11 17:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe he knows you are the one. I got enaged after 4 months.
2007-11-11 16:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, way to early, and an obvious warning sign of someone that is insecure. He seems to be more in love with the idea of being in love and married then he actually is. End this relationship or at least slow it way down before its to late.
2007-11-11 16:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Brian F 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋