Are the godparents responsible to give the donation to the church or is it the parent's responsibility? What donation amount is customary?
Also, as the godmother, I am buying my godson's outfit (shirt, pants, tie) and helping pay for the dinner. Am I obligated to give him a gift, also?
If so, what? I know that he is already receiving a cross and a bible.
2007-11-11 08:10:33 · 18 answers · asked by rene t 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I always thought it was the parents responsibility to pay the donation. The amount is ofcourse up to them but I would think no less than $50 would be reasonable. It depends how much they can afford.
I would also think you should still give your godson a gift, as it is a personal gift from you to him, not just helping pay for necessities. I am going to be a godmother next week and I am giving her a framed print of Mother Mary to hang in her room. There are many online stores selling a huge range of prints, and I think this is a beautiful and timeless baptism gift. Hope this helps.
Congratulations!
**EDIT**
Just a quick mention that the gift does not have to be expensive. The print I bought was only $3.50, then I just have to buy a frame. I am in australia, and the online store was www.divinemercy.com.au.
2007-11-11 08:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baptism Etiquette
2016-10-06 22:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents make the donation to the church and $50-$100 seems reasonable for a half hours work.
You are already doing more than necessary. You are not required to buy an outfit or help pay for dinner. That is the responsibility of parents or maybe even grandparents.
You could purchase a nice frame and put a photo of yourself and your godson in it as a keepsake.
2007-11-11 08:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baptismal candidate's parents customarily make a donation to the church. The godparents do not.
It sounds to me that you are already giving the child a lot. Another present should not be necessary.
The most important thing is not the money. The most important thing is to be a good godparent.
The role of godparent is very important. You must be a firm Catholic believer, able and ready to help the newly baptized—child or adult—on the road of Christian life.
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, section 1255: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2.htm
With love in Christ.
2007-11-11 13:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never heard of a donation to the church. In our huge family we see about 5 different Catholic Baptisms a year within the family and I don't think anyone has ever given a donation. We're members of the church so why would we donate? We're giving a child to the church. But with all you're putting in already I don't think anything else is expected of you. If you do get a gift, a savings bond is a nice one.
2007-11-11 08:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is the parents responsiblilty to pay for everything but the gift including the dinner .....If you offer to pay for the outfit that is good but It isn't really up to you to do so..as for the dinner,,,unless they are poor ,,it should be up to them to pay for it all...
As for a gift I would give what you want,,remember the kid won't remember a thing , so give something that he will have later on to help them like a bond or something like that,,,but since you are paying for more than your share already maybe just buy a nice picture frame and take a nice photo of you and your Godchild for him to cherish later on or a make a scapbook or write a small journal of what His special day was like and tell feeling and maybe have the people that were there sign it .....GOOD LUCK!
As for the donation to the church,,,They all are different,,,I would ask the priest right out,,,believe me they will let you know,,When My kids got baptized in the 70's and 80's I think we gave $25.00 and we the parents gave that...All the Godparents gave was a gift ..You are too kind ,,,good for you!
The kid will love having you as a Godparent...
2007-11-11 08:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Eileen J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents usually organise and pay any costs involved with the ceremony. You are the child's spiritual guide if the parents die or can not look after the child's religious education. The monetary aspect should not come into it. If you wish you could buy the child a small memento of the day, possibly a set of Rosary Beads or a Prayer Book. You could check with the Church if there is any local customs associated with their particular church. Enjoy the day.
2007-11-11 08:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by rustynail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not obligated to do anything other than to promise to bring take over his Catholic upbringing if something were to happen to the parents. Also, to keep him on the path of Catholicism. You could buy a gift if you wanted to. Everything else is up to the parents. Me: godmother of two Catholic children
2007-11-11 08:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Italy the godfather/godmother pays for everything outfit, dinner and any other expenses but we never donate any money to the church!!!
That's why they ask you if you'll like to be the godmother.
One of my friends grandmother had a lot of money therefor she was costly being ask to be the godmother she even had a list of wait.(death serious)
2007-11-12 14:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that most Catholic Baptism cost a lot, hints to why I went to Mexico!!
I think that you as the grandma have already done your part. I would give him a gift of something like mabey a photo of Pope JP2 praying to the mother, to hang on his wall.
The costumary amout to pay for the chruch in South Texas is $100.00!!
2007-11-11 08:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋