2007-11-11 07:56:40 · 8 answers · asked by bunnystach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, all I had on was casual slacks and a top since it wasn't at a church and the bride told me it was jus a big party but when I got there everyone was really dress up some of the women even wore long dresses - I had a good time cause some people that I knew asked me to stay and sit at there table but I felt bad when the bride saw me and gave me a hug - I use to do volunteer work for her and I would like to still use her as a job reference when I am done with my classes. It was at 3:00 p,m. should I have known? I got my invitation via email from her.
2007-11-11 08:05:57 · update #1
----It is someone I see all the time and she told me about it then sent me the email and said I should come -- I have a bad leg so it is long dress or pant anyway so I didn't want to seem over the top since I wasn't a main guest - plus I have nothing nice anymore that fit since I just had a baby and my husband is deployed - this was at a military base and the last wedding I had went to half the guest wore jeans - yep I know yuck- I almost didn't go anyway but finally decided to that afternoon so I wore what I had-
2007-11-11 09:22:09 · update #2
Hi. Please don't feel bad. You were given an invitation via email and the bride herself told you it would be causual, so what you wore was perfect as far as I'm concerned. The others (in gowns) maybe were family? In any case, don't feel bad, and certainly use your friend as a reference. There is no reason not to.
2007-11-11 08:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. I always dress up just in case. Next time, either wear something that can go either way or keep a change of clothes in the car, etc. People sometimes tell us the wrong thing, so these things happened. Just be prepared either way.
2. If people asked you to stay then you did the right thing.
You can always apologize later if necessary if you want to make sure they understand it was a mistake and you weren't being careless at all but just didn't know and you are sorry if it caused any embarassment. An honest mistake is what it is, and years from now I think the bride would be happier you were there than what you were wearing. If photos were going to be taken, you could ask to borrow someone's formal jacket and stand on the second row where you blend in.
3. If no one saw you, and you had time, I would have been tempted to run nearby and get something to change into.
Clearly this was a one time slip, and it will not happen again.
Next time you will know to be overly prepared, just in case.
2007-11-11 16:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nghiem E 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You couldn't have known. who sends an invite via e-mail? next time you go to a wedding wear a skirt or dress pants just in case. always better to be over dressed than undr dressed.
2007-11-11 17:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have fun? Did anyone treat you any differently? Don't worry about it - if you are that concerned about it, explain your situation to the bride - apologize if you feel that's what she wants - but what she will mostly want to hear is how great she looked and that you enjoyed yourself - that's what a wedding reception is supposed to be all about!
2007-11-11 16:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Fluff S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
generally, when u get an invite via email it means casual. some people just enjoy dressing up. don't be so hard on yourself! âº
2007-11-11 16:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Solicia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i always consider a wedding to be formal but only a skirt,dress or suit unless black tie is stated. this particular wedding just sounds hastily planned and unfortunately described. not sure i would have attended a wedding with an email invite.
2007-11-11 16:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by mups mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No - enjoy the wedding and reception. You weren't invited for how you'd dress. You were invited to celebrate the marriage of your friend(s). The attention isn't on you so enjoy. . ..
2007-11-11 16:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Share 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No? Why would you?
2007-11-11 15:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋