I feel like God doesn't love me, help?

Question

Ok, my life is "bad luck". When I was young I was molested by my dad, but never told. I was molested again at a babysitters house, but never told. The reason I never told was because I absolutley did not know if someone did sexually acts to me I was suppose to tell. Well in school, I was always teased and called ugly, mostly behind my back. And I have always been pushed around by my family and others and I just feel so weak. Well now I'm in college and I am doing bad. I'm on acedemic probation and if I don't make 2 A's and 2 B's I'm out of school. This past week has been the worse. I made a F and a D, my grandma and mom told me a need work done on my teeth-I hate my looks. And just random "bad' things to add to my already "bad" luck. I just feel like God doesn't love. I believe in him, but I don't believe he believes in me. Or am I just overreacting? Help, I'm at my end. I don't see why I should keep going if nothing good ever happens to me. I work hard and nothing ever amounts to it.

If you don't believe in God, please don't answer.

I have been saved since I was 8, and I got baptised 2 months ago

Answer 1

I'd Like you lend you my 'Rose-colored' glasses for the sake of an opportunity to view your circumstances from a different perspective. Here goes, I could probably 'trump you' about having 'unfortunate and unfair' things happening to a person. However, that's not the point here. Although many awful things have happened to me, I can honestly say, "I am thankful for the great blessing in my life that has come from it all." The rejection I faced from my own mother, brought God's gracious acceptance and compassionate mercy into my life. He responded to my desperate need for faithful love with Himself, not religion, but the living God! I am not any more special to Him than you are. He does not play favorites. He does in fact love you very much! Nothing you could possibly do could alter that in any direction. He can't love you any more, and He won't love you any less. When you feel depressed, it will affect your mental and emotional energy to do anything, let alone college. So, let's see if we can't lift up your countenance..... First up, satan is a liar. It is his priority to make sure you believe without a shadow of a doubt that God does Not love you. Because, he knows once you discover just 'how much', (beyond your comprehension) you will become a threat to him and his oppressive activities in your life. The Word of God says' "You can do All things through Christ Who strengthens you." Including suceed in school, forgive your family and those that treated you poorly, overcome your negative self-image, and most importantly, have the faith that is needed to trust in God's Faithful love for you. I'd recommend speaking out loud to your soul and satan how much God does love you, according to His word. That He does have a destiny for your life. He does'nt give up on you because you may fail your own or other's expectations. That is all some things in life are, expectations of pride. or fear of failure. To God, You are precious in His sight. Our society looks at the 'external shell' of the soul to determine someone's worth. God Who created us, knows where the real treasure of a person is. Within the depths of our heart. I'm encouraging you not to be fickle with your love towards Him. Don't allow you feelings to run the show. They are meant to be enjoyed and expressed, not put in charge! God does have a desire to grow a garden of His love in your life. The best way to cultivate that growth, is to spend time in His Word, talking to Him, and being thankful for the little things along the way, praising Him for His goodness. Don't be afraid to ask Him to reveal Himself to you in a way that you'll be forever touched by. He wants to restore what you've lost, your sense of innocence, and ability to trust adults, especially those that are either male or are in a position of authority over you. He wants to heal the wounds of rejection and ridicule. He knows all about the kinds of suffering we go through, He endured a bit of it Himself, for our sake. This is your 'New Beginning'! God is calling you to forget what is behind you and to look for the New Things He wants to do in you and your life. Once, long ago, I told Him, "IF you loved me, you would make these warts on my hand disappear". Since you haven't, that must mean.... You don't love me?" Once I believed without reservation, then the warts miraculously did go away! I had to demonstrate trust in God's love first. It was like opening a double sided door to Heaven. Jesus already opened Heaven's side from the cross. We have to open our side and let Him into the depths of our souls hearts and lives. Luck is for the superstitious. It is time to become a young woman of faith. believing in God's best for your life, in such a way that you are literally looking for it! When God is for you, no one else can stand against you. God intends to redeem every painful aspect of you past, as you release it into His hands. I was wonderin' if you thought of gettin' help from a tutor? Well, I can't think of anything else at this time. I would have emailed you, however you don't except them. I pray God's supernatural blessings upon you whole life! Sincerely, Rose P.S. I hadn't really intended to write that much. Hope it doesn't overwhelm you, or put you to sleep! My intentions to help are genuine and I believe from the Heart of God. If you take to heart the things that Sandy, above me said, you will overcome and be victorious in your heart mind and soul.With The power of the Holy Spirit of God that is in you. God bless His Word of truth in her and you!

Answer 2

I don't believe there is a God...but if there was a God, of course s/he could be loved. If you had an open heart and good intentions and were flooded with the warm feelings of wanting to be the best version of yourself, worthy of the other "person" as you do when you love someone, then of course you could love God. I don't understand how this is even a question? As to whether God could FEEL loved? This is beyond my scope and that of anyone else here. Can an all powerful deity "feel" anything? Is it aware of you as an individual? I don't know these answers. It seems unlikely, though. A being of that power wouldn't have lowly human emotions, I don't think.

Answer 3

I won't claim that I've ever been through as much as you have, but I have some grasp of how you're feeling. When I'm in a bad place, music invariably speaks to me better than anything else--I think God designed many of us that way. So if it's okay, I'd like to quote from two songs for you.

This first one you'll never hear anywhere, because I wrote it.

In the eyes of my Beholder, I'm more beautiful than tears
And he should know. He's cried enough for me.

The second is one called If I Could Look Through Your Eyes, and if you can find a copy I think you'll like it.

And I would see that I'm precious.
And I would know that I'm prized.
I'd see your love never changes
If I could look through your eyes.

One of your other posters suggested counseling, and I think that's good advice. You need to work through what happened to you as a child with someone, because even if you already know it wasn't your fault, it's very difficult for us not to internalize the things that happen to us as children.

As for your grades--they may be related. You may just not be in the right emotional place for school right now.

For what it's worth, I believe that when you emerge on the other side of this, God is going to use you in the lives of other people who are struggling. What an important ministry you're going to have!

Answer 4

You might not want this answer but...

Stop holding out your hand, or nothing good will happen!

You get bad grades, because you do bad work.

You can't fix the molestation, but you don't have to let it effect you today.

You are a coward, and it is far worse to be pushed around than to stand up for yourself and fight!

I am ugly, butt ugly, Pug Fugly, and have a beautiful woman, why? I am confident! It isn't luck either, I made it happen.

You can too, stop looking for a shortcut, and start working harder and smarter!

My parents are dead, I went through college on my own, you can do much more with what you have.

Now, get up, dust yourself off, and get in the mix! You might not succeed the first try, but you will then know what will not work.

God has given you the tools, use them!

Answer 5

Dear one,
God loves you. People do bad things to other people because there is evil in the world. God cares about you, and wants you to love Him, too. Have you ever asked Jesus into your heart?
I am sorry so many bad things have happened in your life. Many bad things have happened in my life, too. Too many to mention, but it is what you do with your life that matters. If you live for the Lord, you will reap rewards. You say you don't feel like God loves you. May I ask if you are a Christian? Do you even acknowledge God in your life, or do you just blame Him when things go wrong? I am asking this because Jesus wants to have a personal relationship with you. But, he can't if you don't allow Him to. It is up to you to "open the door"
I think you should get some good Christian counseling by a Pastor. He can explain things to you. One of life's biggest questions is "Why do bad things happen to good people?" I pray that you will seek counseling in this. You're in my prayers. God Bless.

Answer 6

God loves you. He created you and He knew you before you were born and He'll always love you (Psalm 139). When you're so broken you feel you're beyond healing, He wants to heal you. When you're so hurt you think no one understands you, He feels for you. It's when you have nothing to offer and nothing and no one to rely on that you come face to face with Him. It's when life has knocked you to your knees that He can come in and save you. It's when you cry out to Him in utter desperation that He'll hear you and answer.
You are beautiful in God's eyes and nothing you do will ever keep Him from loving you. Don't give up. He loves you more than anything and although it's hard to feel Him at times, He's always there. He sees your pain and He'll heal you--all you have to do is ask. Open your heart to Him and tell Him everything, He listens and He'll answer.
I'll be praying for you.

Answer 7

First of all, do NOT listen to what Joshua said -hog wash!

I'm so so sorry for the abuse you have suffered. It was NOT your fault-it was NOT bad luck. It was the sin of the men not yours or your luck.

I also was abused (not severely but bad enough) by an uncle. AND was approached by many men and older boys. This is why I watch my daughter like a hawk and would never let her go with people I don't know VERY well. And I question her. Not to excess but I know this happens.

But I know and you should too it is NOT luck-it's SIN and the fault is theirs and theirs alone. This sin has caused you to have very low self esteem. This is making you depressed and is prob. the reason you aren't doing well in College.

GET Counseling ASAP. Talk to a school counselor and he/she will help you find what you need.
It is time you did this for YOU. You are worthy of help, you are worthy of love.
God loves YOU! You are one of his favorites.

Romans 8: 35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36As it is written:
"For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered."[l] 37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[m] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

God bless you, I have prayed for you dear.
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Answer 8

Wow, it does in fact seem that God does not love you. You need to read the story of Job, the whole book.

Job was a great man, honored God, yet God choose to allow him to suffer as well. He took away all his wealth, his children, his health and then his friends turned on him. Yet through it all he did not "curse" God.

I too have had maney of the simular expereinces as you. It makes it difficult to keep a good attitude.

You need to remeber, that God does not let anything happen to you unless He wants it to. The lessons you learn, the expereinces you go through are to shape you so that you can serve him better. Someday you may find another person is experiencing a simular life, and you will have the expereince to help them.

Read Job! Its a great story. There are others, but that is a good start!

Answer 9

He does love you but there is a devil and as long as you don't live in God's Kingdom.......you are subject to him. Have you given your life to Jesus? If so great if not please do it now by telling him out loud he can have your life and ask him to come and live in your heart and save you. Begin to stand on Promises like Psalm 91 (he will give his angels charge over you to keep you in all your ways" You see my dear getting saved in Jesus' name is like being adopted by a new family......the protecting and blessing goes with that as a child of the King but you have to believe or Satan will tresspass on you much like the bandit he is.........the bible says "satan comes to steal kill and destroy"........Jesus came to destroy the works of satan........study the bible and ask God to protect and help you. If you wants you in college you will succeed if he doesn't, you wont. Hope this helps and I went through many of the same things. I am a Christian. since I gave my life to Jesus nothing like that has ever happened again.

Answer 10

Dear Totallym,
That is something many people have had before. We think God is not there when He is working behind the scene. Call on His saying, Oh Lord Jesus. Don't worry about what other may think. You cannot satisfy everybody in this world, but I tell you that the Lord is behind the scene, working Himself into you. I know it is not easy what you say about the grade, but you can pray to the Lord about that. You can say, "Lord, I belive in you, but I feel You don't love anymore. I want you to love. If you don't love me, I am nothing."
God be with your spirit.

Answer 11

You have been through way too much! You need to get some good counselling from someone you trust! Life does get better.