Can I stop my son from going over his dads house because his father has sex with is gf?

Question

i dont get along with my sons fathers girlfriend at all. Anyways I was arguing with her and she told me ohhh well i was effin him while your son was at the house. My son never told me he heard anything and we were going back and forth talkin crap so i know why she threw it in my face...I told her she messed up because now i have evidence to bring into court...I think she ws stupid to give me that information. Is it ok for them to be having intercourse while my son is at thier house? can I do anything because of this for him to not go there anymore and not be around the girfriend

we were never married and they live together for the past year. My son is 5

Answer 1

So youre saying you never had sex in your house when you were married to him with your son in the house?
Unless the boy was in the room with them your argument will be laughed out of court.
For your sons sake you need to get a handle on your anger. Whether you like it or not his dad is going to have relationships. Its his right. He also has a right to see his son.

Answer 2

I think the first sentence says it all, "i don't get along with my sons fathers girlfriend at all", and that's what's this is really about.

Transitions like these are not easy for all parties involved, but mainly the kids. Adults are often selfish and miss the fact that while you're cussin and fussin, the poor kid is caught in the middle and hurting!

His dad having premarital sex is wrong in of itself, but both you and the father are going to move on with life and have relationships that the other may not approve of; you just have to figure out ways to work through it for your son. I have to say, I don't think that either party should bring "boyfriends & girlfriends" around children, because you shouldn't want your children getting close to just anybody. Then, what happens if and when you drop that relationship and move on to someone else?

It's a lot to think about, but better for both parents to consider ALL factors involved, then to be paying for it through the child who will one day become an adult down the road.

Answer 3

Whatever the issue with your ex and his gf, you should not bring your child into it. He has the right to see his father and children should not be used to gain points between warring spouses. If you were with your son's father after he was born, you probably had sex while he was in the house (i.e. while he was asleep????). The only issue would be if they were doing it in front of your son, which I doubt.

Don't fill up the family court system with custodial hearings involving your ex's gf .... will only serve to make you look like a jealous, manipulative cow and make matters worse.

If the shoe was on the other foot, how would you react if your ex applied for sole custody based on the argument that you have a live-in bf/partner?

Answer 4

Not unless you change the divorce papers to read that he cannot have a girlfriend stay the night at his house, of course, it works both ways because the judge will stop you from having boyfriends stay the night at your house.

Of course, his lawyer is going to ask you if you had sex with him when you were married with the boy at home...if you say "yes" then you're being hypocritical. If you say "no", then you're a liar.

Plus, if your ex marries her, then she gets to live there all the time and there's not a thing your little vindictive, drama stirring butt can do about it.

Your best bet is to keep your mouth shut, stay out of your ex's business, don't talk to his girlfriend (you don't get to choose them) and concentrate on your own life for a change. You gave up your right to make decisions in his life when you got divorced.

Answer 5

what's the problem here?
there is a bit of jealousy and that's all! Are you saying it is wrong for your ex to have sex? it is not like they are doing it in front of him...so i'm pretty sure you did have sex with your husband when you were living together...there is nothing you can do about that, unless it bothers your son, then he can decide if he still wants to go or not! you can't do nothing about them having sex but unless they are doing it in front of him, like on the couch at night or things like that where he could see them...
You just don't like his gf and you want to get revenge on your husband? not fair for your son!

Answer 6

your son is your 1st subject!!! If he do not supply up seeing the different lady then why are you dealing with all that moving. If he want then you definitely permit him make the flow the place you're. supply up settling for much less and have a time-honored

Answer 7

I can't say that the courts would see anything amiss with a couple having sex, even with a kid somewhere in the building - there's just no cause for action there.

Answer 8

you don't say how old you son is if he is 14years or older then he has a voice and can say what he wants if younger then no you have no say if the courts have said when he has contact that stands
think you need to look at you getting your life back

Answer 9

No .. as long as they don't include him or ask him to hold the camera ......

Try alittle age appropiate education for your son and try real hard to envolved Dad (Not the Daddy main Squeeze) .... tell him of your fears and concerns ... he may not like you, but if he loves his Kid he will listen ... communicate ....

And leave that woman along ... she's just trying to rile you up !

Answer 10

They're not doing anything illegal. Perhaps if you'd had some sense when choosing to breed you wouldn't have this problem.
As long as they're not doing anything illegal there's nothing you can do.
Screw around too much and he'll sue for custody and YOU will be the one visiting.