and well this is my situation I'm in love with my ex of 3 years and we broke up last month and also adding i'm 18 years old. and well a close guy friend since i went to middle school we were friends and well i found out he likes me alot and started to tell his parents about me and well he knows i'm still in love with my ex and yet still wants to be with me. and as for me i don't feel the same. but my friends said i should give him a chance. what should i do?
2007-11-11 06:51:17 · 45 answers · asked by Red K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give yourself time. You shouldn't rush into another relationship if you've only been broken up for a month. You deserve some you time to help clear your head, especially if you're still in love with him. Good luck!!!
2007-11-11 07:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you have to do two things. Firstly, if you don't feel the same way about the new guy as he feels about you, you have to tell him that. It will be hard, you might upset him or break his heart, but that's the way it must be. He'll survive and move on. If you don't end it now, you're only giving him false hope, or else you're setting yourself up for a more complicated situation later. Secondly, you should let go of your ex. If you broke up, you broke up for a reason (or many reasons), maybe they're his reasons, maybe they're yours -- but there was a reason! So let that go. You're 18, you spent 3 years with him during a very emotionally-charged time of your life. It's natural to be very attached to him. But you will learn and grow in new relationships, and have a better sense of what's out there in the world. The world is rich and beautiful, and there are so many people out there. Explore. That's what life and youth are all about. You can stay friends, but if it's too painful (for either of you), you have to let go. Trust me, life is wonderful, the world is a huge place, and there are many many people out there. Live it to the fullest, and you will have (and get) more love than you can imagine.
2007-11-11 07:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by ozxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to sound like your "love life" is not a big deal...because it is really a big deal for you. BUT at your age, (and you are probably beautiful and smart..with so much ahead of you) that you should just date people and have fun. Now I am not saying "do anything" other than "date", but enjoy being young. If you do not ever get back with you ex...I can promise you that life will go on and you will be better because of it. If the young man doesn't think that you are the best thing since sliced bread....THEN FIND YOU ONE THAT DOES. THEN FIND ONE AFTER THAT, and after that and so on. Then, when you have finished school and decided what you want to do.....you will surely be blessed with that "perfect guy". Have a good time for now! You deserve it!
2007-11-11 06:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to recuperate and get over your last relationship before getting into another one. This is only fair to you and your friend.
If anyone tries to make you feel bad about waiting, tell them you need time to really move past your previous relationship and you care for your friend, so you don't want him to just be the rebound guy.
If a relationship is meant to be with the new guy, it will still be there after you have given your heart some time to heal.
2007-11-11 06:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dominique P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not in to the guy, and not likely to be into him, it is very unwise for you to date him and get his hopes up. And if you're in love with your ex you should deal with that first. In about a month or two you should have a throw away 'rebound' relationship just for fun and to help get over your ex. This guy probably doesn't want to be the rebound if he's telling his parents about you.
2007-11-11 06:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should only give him a chance if you don't love ur ex anymore...
It will be unfair to him (although giving him a chance will make him happy at first)...and soon, you and him will face lots of heartache due to your emotional 'baggage'.
It doesn't help to just solve things fast but on the surface...
You need to heal and let go first (i know its hard)..then maybe accept someone new in your life...
Hope this helps...and good luck...
2007-11-11 06:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you only like him as a friend, tell him that. I don't give him a chance for two reasons: you're still in love with your ex (so your not ready) and you don't have those same feelings.
good luck
2007-11-11 06:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by L c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him a chance, had a month you broke with your ex ,He did not do something to get you back so ,move on
2007-11-11 07:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by sandy3azul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let ur friends control you. If they keep tempting you and you don't feel the same way tell them that if they think you give him a chance then they should date him. It's ur life not theirs. As for ur ex you should let him go. He's not right for u. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-11-11 06:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by ^^Kpop sweetie ^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back fro everybody, from all relationships for three months. If you're still confused, do another three months.
The only way to get your head straight is to think things through for youself, and have plenty of time to do it.
It seems like a long time, but compared to how long the wrong decision will hurt, it's a drop in the bucket.
2007-11-11 06:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋