We have been together for about 5 months, but she has cheated on me recently. So we agree'd to end it, not that she cared, she was glad I think... I love her though...
SO today, I find out she is on the phone with the guy she cheated with, booked a ticket to go and see him and stuff...
I can't take it!
I want to forget about her but I can't.
I have never been in a relationship that lasted more than 2 weeks, I am 18, only had a few girlfriends in the past... but she, she was serious to me.
2007-11-11
06:51:06
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I'm only 18 and will have many girlfriends, alot say... I don't like that...
Seems, the next girl I find, I will already be wondering, waiting for the time she will cheat on me, and we split...
Any relationship now will be over before it even starts...
2007-11-11
07:23:32 ·
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Move on.Don't look back, you well find true love in your future.
2007-11-11 06:59:17
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answered by daark 3
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I feel your pain man. The first serious girlfriend I had cheated on me. Twice! We had been dating for 2 months when the first incident happened. We talked about it and I decided to forgive her and we stayed together. About 5 months later she did it again. Its a hard fact to accept but human nature really doesn't change very easily. I know its tough having that happen with your first real relationship. You are going to still have feelings for her, I understand that, but truth be told, the faster you find someone else the faster you can get over this cheater. I'm not saying go bang the first girl you find either, that's just not healthy. Just keeping looking for the right girl and try your best to get over the cheater. Also, don't let this effect your perception of women. I've been with my current girlfriend for 2 years and I have absolutely no reason not to trust her. One last thing and I'm done. Remeber how much this hurts, that sound weird, but I'm serious. Next time you're in a relationship remember how much this hurt you and never do it to anyone. In time you will realize that this is a valuable experience, just for that reason. I
2007-11-11 07:09:37
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answered by Anonymous
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:( Im sorry about that. Wouldnt it be nice if we lived in a world where everyone actually thought and acknowleged others feelings?
When I was 14 I met a great guy online that I waited all thru high school for. I never really dated anyone. When I was 17 we started meeting in person and dating. I eventually moved to be closer to him and from the time I was 14 til now at 20 he has cheated on me quite a few times. I know its hard to let go, believe me.
Thank god eventually something snaps in your brain and you realize you deserve and will get something better. And you cant say that she is the best because....do you really think someone who will cheat and break your heart is the best?
Plus you are 18 so you and people around your age are still very young. I never believed this so it might be hard for you to want to listen to it. But when you grow up and mature a bit more you and other people your age will understand a little more about relationships.
There are opportunities coming. And they will blow you right off your feet and treat you way better than this girl could.
Be patient, enjoy time with your friends now, and before you know it the one will be there...feeling everything you feel for her.
Best wishes
2007-11-11 07:00:38
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answered by Anonymous
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it's usually that way when you end a relationship. it's hard to forget that person especially when the reason it ended was because of what the other person did and you really like them. you gotta move on though because it's not right to place your hopes on someone that cheated on u. she's obviously moved on and ur only eighteen there will be other girls even if u might think it looks bleak. u've got a lot of time (the rest of your life) left to find someone else. use this time now to hang out with friends, do hobbies, or join a club for something. who knows, maybe u'll meet a new girl when doing these things. treat urself with the respect ur ex didn't and do something that makes u happy :) (PS-if the ex tries coming back into ur life she's probably just using u and i hope u don't take her back but that's ur call) have fun with singledom!
2007-11-11 07:05:01
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answered by Anonymous
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If you stay with her she will do it over and over again. How many billions of people are there in the world? Do you honestly think that she is the only one you will fall in love with? As you say you are only 18, you have loads more girlfriends to get through yet. Have some self esteem and dump the cheating cow - yes it will hurt for a while but it damn well feels good after a while. You will read this back and think how sad you sounded and how glad you are that you got rid. You won't give a toss about her in a couple of months, believe me.
2007-11-11 06:57:18
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answered by ¸.•*´`*♥Kates ♥ Game11 ¸.•*´`*♥ 5
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Hey Man, It seems that you love her a lot. But don't become an emotional fool. Just remain out of touch from her for a week. You told that she was serious to you so if she comes back to you, she is for you. And if she doesn't come back then its best for you to realize this fact that she doesnt deserve you.
You are 18, you will surely find another one whom you can trust and love. You cant love someone who is a cheat. Hey try to make her feel that you feel OK whether she is in your life or not. Try to make her feel jealous too if you can do so. Jealousy and insecurity creates more love. Right now, you might be feeling more desperate love for her coz you have been put in strange feeling of insecurity/jealousy by your girlfriend.
2007-11-14 15:40:11
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answered by Robin Ray 1
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It sounds like this is a one way love relationship. It will be hard to get over her but you need to, you don't deserve some girl that is more willing to fly on a plane to go see some guy then try for once to be faithful. You need to exclude her from your life all and all. delete her number from your phone (although i bet you have it memorized), it helps, cause when you go and try to call her, you see her number is not in your phone so that should remind you to LEAVE IT ALONE! I know you love her a lot still and it will suck,, but go out more with your friends and try meeting new people! (but just in case you still believe you guys havea chance of working, ignore her, once she realizes you dont have her attention, she will come crawling back for it)
2007-11-11 07:00:43
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answered by Kat 2
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To be honest you are only 18, plenty to come in the future and i am sure you will find someone who will not cheat on you, do you really think low of yourself? forget about her, i think you should get on with your life, good luck and move on, there is lots of women who would like a nice guy.
2007-11-11 06:58:44
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answered by missey01_uk 3
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LET HER GO! It is time to move on and be so glad you weren't 5 years into a marriage with her and with three kids. This is a sign to you that she is not for you...You have a whole life ahead of you and you don't want to spend it with someone who can't keep their pants on with everyone else. Find someone who truly loves you...
2007-11-11 07:02:13
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answered by *DestinyPrince* 6
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You're only 18. Trust me, you have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of more girls are out there. Just work on letting her go mentally, and in the end you will thank yourself. You don't want a girl you can't trust and makes you miserable.
2007-11-11 13:35:16
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answered by Jeremy 2
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You don't need her, it sounds like she done this to make you dump her, she hasn't even got the guts to do that herself. You're only 18 you have years ahead of you and a lot of girlfriends. So just enjoy yourself for now, you can forget about her, you're worth so much more don't sell yourself short.Good luck.
2007-11-11 07:09:39
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answered by Bezza 5
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