what do you do when someone close to you lies to you?

Question

how do you react? how do you handle it?

the person was doing something they shouldn't have been doing...and then lied about it when caught.

the lying is what bothers me most.

((cattie-brie)) i don't like liars either.

and this hurts more than i thought it would.

(((moon)))

(((((N)))))

(((redwitch)))

Answer 1

It depends on the type of lie, and on the reasons that that person had to lie (fear, for example, is something easy to understand). It's hurting and confusing, but I always try to understand and, as much as possible to forgive.

Just to make things clear: Every time I talk about my being understanding and forgiving, people think I'm saying they can do whatever they want to me, and that all will be well. That's not always the case. To forgive is one thing, to want that person around me again is another different thing, that may happen or not.

((((((Sherl))))))

Answer 2

Lies are lies and people seem to need to lie at times. This sounds really silly.
Mom did you eat today? " yes." Then where are the dishes you ate from?
Mom did you sleep in your bed or on the sofa. "the bed."
I don't think so. what is she doing? Trying to stay out of a nursing home thats all.
My nephew called me the other day and said my friend gave me 10 bucks. and then I asked his dad If I could borrow 10 bucks for some smokes. This kid took the money and went home. Did not return the change. The next morning His friend shows up and says if I gave you 10 bucks why did you go to my dad and ask for the same amount. It made it look like I refused to give the money to you. Oh says my nephew. I forgot to give your dad the change. Well said his friend I will take it to him now. Oh says my nephew I spent it, because I forgot. Hmmmmm The two then get into a fighting match because my nephew looks like he is lieing. My nephew phones me and explains all. I do not believe it. What should I do ditch my nephew? I think not. I will continue to help out when I know there is no other way for him to survive.This is all unfortionate but I am not the judge........ I may be a fool though.
But in my mind God tells me to care for my family.
Best wishes.

Answer 3

It depends on the type of lie, and whether or not what the person was doing was malicious.

If the deed was malicious, then I'd would stop trusting that someone. If the deed was not malicious, and the person was trying to rectify it with a lie, then it depends on how bad the lie was. Did it hurt anybody? Was it over the top?

Answer 4

People lie for a variety of reasons. To make themselves look good, or to protect the feelings of others.

It depends on the reason for the lie. Since you say they got caught doing something they shouldn't, then I would guess the lie was of the first sort.

I would hope that someone close to me would not lie to me and realize that no matter what their choices, I will still love them. Maybe you need to reassure this person of that.

Answer 5

Well it depends, if its my mom, I call her out on it

my boyfriend, Call him out on it, yell at him, threaten him with breakup and slip into indifference till he says sorry and buys me something

A friend, my friends dont lie to much but if they did I would back off after calling them out and not answer there calls for a few days

coworker...stern stone look with the eye....even if they dont fess up they know you know, therefore you are smarter and better than them

child, tell them god knows when they are lying....works every time


Princess cattis answer is actually a really good answer.

Answer 6

do no longer hassle to be sure why. Please seek for expert psychological medical care as there are some deep seated problems inflicting you to conceal in the back of lies to look and sense reliable. mendacity gets you nowhere yet down the slippery slope to disaster and mistrust by employing all of us to boot hurting people who have self belief and believe in you. Your occupation will ultimately go through while mendacity will become recurring and you will finally end up nowhere in existence. you're already seeing the end results of your mendacity habit, so please seek for help as we talk.

Answer 7

When someone close to you lies, it ALWAYS hurts. You are the only one who can decide what to do next. You might try to talk it over later when things are not as raw - this only works with SOME people!

(((Sherl))

Answer 8

Well, it depends. If it was something no big deal, i make a mental note of it and let it go. But I do let that person know I know they lied to me.

Now in your case, i would totally confront them. I hate liars. But wait until you aren't mad, and express how disappointed you are in them. don't let anyone think they've played you for a fool.

(((sherl)))

Answer 9

Depends on what the lie is and what their feelings are towards me.

I have been lied to plenty, especially on the computer. I don't give second chances.

Answer 10

Go to them and ask why..........the Bible teaches to restore one back...........so first we must forgive....and then allow them to make it right if they are sincere........and if they do we are to restore them and let it go...........and if not we are to have no part with them...that will show them thier error will no go accepted....it sounds harsh but it is for thier benifit........one must follow the scripture and do accordingly.........if not one doesnt learn by it...and if done once and get by they will again..............
Be Honest with them and yourself............and do that which is Right in Gods sight and not mans.....