I work with toddlers on a daycare centre and I have my practicum coming up and if the kids does not want to listen to me then I am afraid I will fail it. the problem is they just do not want to listen to me like i do not take them seriously> help! i cannot control because of that.
2007-11-11 06:31:21 · 6 answers · asked by marsh 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
With all due respect, you shouldn't be just starting to control them because of your practicum. You should have started to control them when they first got out of control. This is something you're going to need throughout your career, not just for a test.
That said, when one of them gets out of control, get down on their level, take them aside and tell them what is expected of them. Tell them that if their behavior continues, they will have to have a time out in the corner (one minute for each year of their age). But also catch them behaving, and give them praise for it - if one child who usually has trouble keeping still during story time sits nicely and listens, compliment him on it afterward. If another tends to run around wildly and not follow directions, compliment her when she does follow your directions. Positive reinforcement and consistency are very important.
2007-11-11 06:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
After our second was born the pediatrician told us it would take up to 6 months for the older child to adjust to the new baby. Luckily, for us it was less than that. But, it does take time and your daughter may be acting out, which is normal. Make a rule "no tantrums" and if she has one put her in time-out while she's having one (yes, even in the store. Find an empty isle and set her in time-out. She will learn it's not allowed anywhere). Time-out begins when the tantrum ends (crying is allowed but, angry screaming, kicking etc. is not). For us, that has solved the tantrums almost completely. Our kids had about 1 or 2 tantrums in a week when they had been having several a day before this rule. Try it, it works! Also, around this age nightmares (and the memory to remember them) will begin. At the same time she is at the age where the line between fantasy and reality is uncertain (do monsters really exist? Will scary things in the closet come 'alive' at night..). That could explain why your daughter is waking up in the middle of the night and she could be scared to go back to sleep if she's afraid of having a bad dream or scared about being alone at night etc. It's a phase, and it will pass. Just do your best to comfort (make sure there's a nightlight, security object etc.) her but, make your visits to her room short and sweet and she will get past this soon. Also, the candy just needs to come to an end. Tell the grandparents it's creating problems and then don't offer it any more. She might not eat for a day or two but, after that I promise she'll eat like a trooper and it will be REAL food. With my kids, I insisted at that age that they still needed "quiet time" where they sit or relax quietly in their rooms for an hour when they stopped willingly taking a nap. I told them they didn't have to sleep but, they did need to be quiet. I would allow them to read books or play quietly in their beds and most of the time they would end up falling asleep, which meant they were happier and more cooperative when they woke up. To me, it also meant that they were protesting the nap but, they still needed it. So, you could give "quiet time" a try and see if it works out.
2016-05-29 05:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you are able to work with toddlers all day long and they don't listen to you. If they aren't taking your seriously I suspect you are either pretty young or very mild mannered.
I would get down on there level and make eye contact with them when you are speaking to them, also talking in a lower calm voice forces them to listen whereas talking loud they won't listen to as much. You also have to sound like you mean what you are saying and be confident. Toddlers are smart little buggers and can sniff out someone who they think they can get one over on or are not sincere.
2007-11-11 06:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
compromise with them: tell them that if they behave, they'll get a nice surprise (a toy, time outside, candy {if allowed})
this stage is very hard to control, because toddlers are learning their environments, so as far as CONTROL is concerned not possible...more like compromise with love and plenty of patience!
2007-11-11 06:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Zhinita Linda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i worked in a nursery am now a nanny...
when i was training... i learnt that you should destract the children in something they are interested in, calm and soft voice and lots of praise, you cant false a child to listen to you but depending on the age of the child talkin in a calm voice and descraction and lots of praise should be the way to do it... it worked with my children they are 2 years old
2007-11-11 06:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by xsunblockukx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
read the Happiest Toddler on the Block, its an easy read
2007-11-11 06:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋