This is a repost, wasn't getting any answers:I work 60+ hours a week and I haven't been feeling well so I haven't had the energy but I still did it. I'm beyond baged this weekend and all I want to do is relax by myself. I just want to be by myself today and tomorrow. My boyfriend is upset because it's his sons birthday and there's a party at his parents. I don't feel comfortable there and I like I said I'm beyond tired. My whole body hurts. I'm still going to go to the dinner at a resturant for his birthday next weekend. There's no way I'd miss spending a birthday with him. He's very important to me. So I will still be making his son happy, my boyfriend happy and me happy. My bf doesn't see it that way. He thinks I should attend everything his family does together. I just can't do it this weekend. If it was another and I didn't feel how I do, then I would most likley go. But today I need to take care of myself. Does anyone see it the same way I do? What can I say to make him understand
2007-11-11 05:58:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will you said it all but I think it would be in the way you will say it, it will do the trick so he can understand. Just show that you are really tired and you badly need a day or two to relax. If he doesn't understand dump the guy, he doesn't deserved a girl like you.
2007-11-11 06:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by ojiban 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said.... I don't feel comfortable there and I like I said I'm beyond tired................
Your bf may know that you are uncomfortable and would rather not be around the family, if so that may be why he is upset.
Some men (and women) feel that spending time away on your own is a complete withdrawal (I sometimes have the problem myself when a bf spends a night with guys etc.). They equate it with total rejection.
It is hard to feel empathy sometimes, because we are a bit self-centered. Seems he is a little short in that department at the moment.
You may need to honestly discuss the problem without being accusatory. You do have to set limits but sometimes you need to compromise also. Ask him how you can compromise to make both of you happy. If that doesn' t work you just have to keep repeating your point until he gets the message.
2007-11-11 14:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!
My bf works split shifts and yeah, he gets tired but i work in an office during the week and i work nights in a pub on the wknd so i get really tired because of the completely different hours.
He tries to do the whole guilt trip thing on me, but it doesn't work because when I'm tired, I'm tired!
You need to get yourself some rest and relaxation before you burn out, so go to bed and get some sleep, have a nice warm bath and go back to bed!
Spend time with him next wknd but if he continues to complain say that you won't come with him next week either and see what he says then.
Stand your ground and don't go if he continues to be funny with you or he will think he can walk over you all of the time and won't listen when you say anything like that again.
2007-11-13 08:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to understand the week you had and the rest that you need. Everybody needs space and that time to take care of themselves or do the things they like to do for themselves. You're only human and you can't do it all and, at the end of the day, the only person that can truly take care of you is YOU.
It's not like you're not going to do anything with his son so he just needs to give you the day off that you so desperately need
2007-11-11 14:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Soul Brother #1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋