As many of you may know from my previous questions, I am a "regular" here in this section of Yahoo answers, but I am posting under this account because I'm way too embarassed to use my "real" account to ask these questions. The reason for this is I have developed a HUGE crush on a fellow regular and it's getting kind of out of control and I'm not sure how to handle it. (see my other q's for details.)
anyway my question for you now is, how to approach something like this. she is my friend, and also considers me her friend. Both of us have been on here awhile, and have struck up a friendship apart from Y!A also. I really want to bring it up, but don't think I should just throw it at her all at once. any advice to help a fellow R&ser out?
2007-11-11 05:46:08 · 24 answers · asked by Embarassed R&S Regular 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
sherl: I'm not religious and she is (although I won't say if she's Christian, Pagan, etc)...so there's a hint for you.
2007-11-11 05:58:57 · update #1
Oh, how sweet!
I've been involved with an R+S regular for over a year now. He's my dearest friend, and means the absolute world to me. When I first spotted him in the forum, I was intrigued, and I followed him around like a lost puppy. Actually, it was probably more like stalking. Little did I know that he felt in a similar manner towards me.
We struck up a friendship, and eventually it became apparent that we both held deep feelings for each other. I was thrilled that he made the first move, because I felt embarrassed about this, just as you do. I thought it odd that two people could fall for each other without ever having met, but a year later we are closer than ever.
You may want to tell this person that you are developing feelings for her. It's entirely possible that she feels the same way, and is waiting for you to say something first. I know it can be awkward, but if you don't discuss it with her, how will you ever know?
For the record, I have a 22 year-old son who is engaged to a woman he met on-line. They have been together for 2 years now, and are very happy. Sometimes, these things really do work out. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-11 06:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not mentally deranged and she's not a stalker, go for it. If both of you are one or the other, it's a match made in heaven. Dude, it never hurts to try, but I would say only 25% expectancy that it may carry further, but if you value her as a friend first and foremost let her know, and if she dosen't feel the sameway maintain that friendship. Eventually they crush will fade, that's why it's called a crush. Like me a nd Johnny Depp in Edward Scissor Hands, it just didn't work out.
2007-11-11 05:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would say just keep getting to know her as a friend. Don't tell her yet. Be yourself and act normal, but keep a journal about how you are feeling. Therefore you will have an outlet for your emotions, and if you end up getting married someday you could give that journal to her as a wedding gift. What a wonderful documentation of your love for one another? I met my husband online and we married after 6 weeks, and we have been married now for almost 4 years. It can work. Be careful.
2007-11-11 05:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by MNM 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel truly when you speak to her, you know don't just tell her immediately I Love you without paving the way to tell her this. Start by saying when I speak to you I feel happy or something like that, you are special to me and I admire you so much, and flirt a lot, then tell her in the end I love you and wait for her reaction dude. Hope I helped a little.
Advice: if you will stay hesitant all the time, then you will never catch a chance to see if this love will be fruitful.
2007-11-11 06:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Don't publicly create a persona this publicly. When you get the courage these questions will stand against you. Just be bold and honest. Steel yourself for rejection, but be bold enough to ask directly. Wishy-washiness is not an endearing quality.
2007-11-11 05:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by novangelis 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are going to miss his smiley face for the next few weeks, and that it would be great to go skating, sledding, or to a movie over the holidays. Ask him for his phone number so that you can call him after checking with your family onwhich days you will have available. Enjoy your holiday ----- Ahhhhhh to be young & in love again...
2016-04-03 07:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for coffee and conversation! Keep things light and go from there. Don't overwhelm her at this stage. And if she's only interested in friendship, keep in mind that friends are always good to have!
2007-11-11 06:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Redwitch vt 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My step-son and his wife met on the internet by accident (not through a dating site); they didn't meet (or see) each other till they were well & truly in love!
They've been together for 12 years now (married for 11) and have a beautiful 6 year-old girl.
So it can work, you just have to make that first courageous move.
GO FOR IT!!
But please tell us who she is too.
2007-11-11 09:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Grotty Bodkin is not dead!!! 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have found only pain on here when it comes to romance.
It might be best to just leave it alone to spare her any pain.
I keep coming back to this question.
If you are sincere and honest than you have to tell her.
If you are only playing games or just looking for friendship do not lead her to believe otherwise.
Be prepared for her own fear of being hurt.
2007-11-11 06:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Meh... as long as both parties have no prior commitments... have at thee as it were.
My wife was a close and dear friend fo years before we even dated. A relatioship that come of a friendship is oft times the most enduring.
Shhhhh... did ya here that? My kittens snoring... tehehehe
2007-11-11 05:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋