I feel so horrible about this, please help?

Question

I think my girlfriend can do better than me :( I'm 17, tall, handsome (not bragging), and in shape. When I say I think my girlfriend can do better than me, I mean she can find someone with more experience :( I don't even know how to make out, she would tell me how her boyfriend would make her laugh and how he would make out with her. I have no experience at all, and I think she can do better than me. She is always anxious to see me, that's what she and her family tells me, but I don't know how to make her happy or how to feel comfortable around her enough that I could make out with her or just to do things with her.

Answer 1

Just going by what you have written here, and hey, what else can I go by? I am 100 percent sure that YOU are too good for HER. Why is she telling you about what her other boyfriend did? If you aren't being made to feel happy and cared for then why are you in a relationship with her? If it is making you feel like this, that she can do better than you and you think she needs someone with more experience, then my advice is to move on. You will, I promise you, find someone who is a better match for you. Good luck.

Answer 2

STOP RIGHT NOW. firstly you need to get over this quickly because your lack of confidence is not helping what so ever. you must learn that there is so much more than making out in life, so you haven't got much experience? how do you ever expect to get any better if you are always going to feel like the girl that you are with is too good for you! every girl is different you may be great with one, not change your style whatsoever and be completely dull for the next girl. She will know how experienced you are already, girls can tell. you need to tell her how you feel, don't tell her about how you think she can do better because that could com across very badly, seeing how girls read far too much into everything, she may feel that you are undermining her choice in you. Instead just let her know that you are feeling a little intimidated by the fact that she has been out with someone more experienced and that you want her to tell you if you do anything she doesn't like.

Just be yourself, see what happens and don't listen to everything she says and take it as the truth, she may just be trying to boost her own confidence. No one is too good for anyone!!! Hope this helps and take care. x

Answer 3

You need to ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship at all or not... It seems to me that you might be better off single because it sounds like you have better things to do in your own mind than spend time with her and her family.... If thats the case... Then your not evenly yoked in this relationship and that leads to major problems down the line.. If you feel you can give her the same amount of attention she gives you... Then things will be just fine.. You have to get experience somewhere-- and honestly.. Experience isn't the most important thing in the world... If you really care for her and she really cares for you... You should have no major problems... Good luck- hope everything works out!

Answer 4

oListen bro, do not feel like that. Some girls like the unexperienced guys. Also dont stress it, just go with the flow. Go out and do fun stuff, bowling, movies, arcade games,parties or whatever she like. Also if you know what she likes, learn a little about that subject so you guys can talk. If she is anxious to see you it means she does like you. And be honest that you don't really know how to make out, she will appreciate it and it will happen. Most of all be confident and be youorself. NEVER SAY you think she can do better.

Answer 5

Stop beating yourself up. A girl usually appreciates a man that's not too experienced. Being too experienced means that you're probably a user whose been with a lot of different women and therefore won't hesitate to kick this girl to the curb to move on to the next one. She'd be glad to know that you're not like that. If this really is bothering you, talk to her about it. Tell her that you want to be with her but you want to be able to satisfy her too. And then you two can work on it together. Besides, making out isn't all that hard to do. Let her lead you into it and then, trust me, you'll know what to do. And one more thing, stop comparing yourself to her ex-boyfriend. And don't let her do it either. You're not him and you're never going to be him. All you can be is you. Besides, there's a reason he's her ex.

Answer 6

Shyness and inexperience can be very attractive in a guy, especially if he is willing to learn what satisfies his girl friend. I wouldn't worry about it too much, just pay attention to what she enjoys when you are with her. Does she escalate the kissing when you begin, or draw back? That tells you a lot. I have to say that her talking about an ex-boyfriend is not a confidense builder and is not a good idea at all. Maybe if it occurs again you can redirect the conversation gently to let her know that you don't want to know those things. Something like, instead of talking about him, why don't we talk about what you enjoy in our relationship...etc.

Answer 7

You obviously have a high opinion of yourself, which is awsome. Sounds like you can do a lot better than her. It's fu.... up that she talks about her ex. This is coming from a girls perspective!! I'm 31 and not too bad looking my self. I like to work out, sounds like you do too. Look in that direction for a new chick that can appreciate you and respect the fact that you have "not been around the block". I sure would. My husband loves the way I do anything! From smiling, to my sense of humor, witch is kind of silly and gross! Good luck, handsome!!!!

Answer 8

Aw, come on dude!

You don't need to know how to do anything or TRY to make her happy, you obviously already do. She's just mentioning about what her boyfriend did cos she wants to do those things with you. Just let her lead you then with the kissing.

Also you must care for her if you think she deserves more, but if you really cared about her you would know that what she wants is you, and no one "better".
Many girls get hurt when their boyfriend leaves them because they say that they deserve better. Don't be that guy.

Experience means nothing, she likes you for who you are.
Just ignore that fact and have fun being together.

^^

Answer 9

The fact is that .... she is with you.. so enjoy this time.. if you feel bad.. then talk to her.. talking to her will bring you closer and help with that making out problem.. and are you shy around ? you should be able to touch her and just hug her and stuff.. making out isnt a big deal.. just close your eyes and just go for it.. :P dont think about it.. just do it.... and be confident.. if she is with you .. then she is with you.. forget that she can do better.. and dont tell her. "you can do better" if you like her.. the keep her... all i think she wants you to do is try..but if you think she wants more from you or wants things your not able to give.. then move on.. and dont feel horrbile.. no one is perfect.. all i ask is you talk to her... about these things. i am sure she has experiance.. and she can help you.. i hope it works out :)

Answer 10

If she likes you, and it sounds like she does, then don't worry about "experience". You should just try to be yourself, that's the person she likes and started going out with. She doesn't care what you can or can't do, just try to relax and have fun with her. Think of her in terms of being friends, and that may take some pressure off of "going out". If you like being around her, just be her friend and do things you both enjoy.