There is a guy at work, much older than me around 12 year older. He is successful, accomplished and a gentleman. I was new at work and was really interested in him. I thought he was too as we both would look at each other all time. He never made a move on me. In the meantime i started to like another guy around my age and in a different office. Now this older gentleman started to show interest in me. He showers me with attention. gave me tickets to a show. I just mentioned to him that I had lost my leather gloves and the next day he bought me a very nice pair of gloves. He says that he cares for me and will do that always and that there is nothing beyond that . His actions are otherwise. He must have gifted me stuff for nealry USD 700. Then he invited me to dinner and i accepted, no harm in that I think. He wrote me an email saying that he misses my smile and he wants me to be happy always. What do i make of this. I am just torn. I think I love him. Pls help.
2007-11-11 05:22:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 30 and he is around 42. he is a very nice guy, I have checked him around and he is liked by many at work
2007-11-11 05:38:21 · update #1
Sounds a little fishy. I don't really have a problem with age differences, justs depends on the peoples age. Suddenly he is showering you with gifts? Why buy you gifts when he is not involved with you? What are his intentions? Are you in love with him or the idea of him? Is it him personally, or what he has to offer? Security and all of that? It is possible, but I would be a little nervous about a man who showered me with gifts just to buy my attentions. well, I would take the time to get to know him better. Much better. Try not to get too inovolved. Older men have alot of issues, not that it is always a bad thing. They are older, they have been around more, they know how to work a situation. Like I said before...it really depends on what you ages are. I am basing this on the thought that you are probably in your early 20's and he is in his mid 30's. Just keep your eyes open, and your heart a little closed until you know more about him. Good luck.
2007-11-11 05:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by DENIECE R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say how old you are, but if you are like in your 20's you are old enough to enjoy and understand what life is about.
you might ask around, quietly if anybody has had a problem with him, if not enjoy a dinner with him, see how it goes.
keep a open mind, sometimes age difference just isn't a big problem
my grandparents were 13yrs apart
my in-laws were were 11 yrs apart
my best friends are 12 yrs apart
so i know it can work, but not with out problems, but ever relationship has them, you just have to work though them
all depends on how much you care for each other and learn to tune other people out
2007-11-11 05:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is the problem? The age difference? I am 22 years older than my fiance and it's no problem at all. If you love each other then go for it.
2007-11-11 05:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo u said u were new in job so your earlier interest in your boss must be temporary ar out of insecurity or if not then why you said you started to like another guy if your interest him was true.Now if you please think clearly it would be better to sort out what you really feel...don't say you think.....?when you say you feel for him...then go for it by all means....
2007-11-11 05:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tehseen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know how you feel. Dont beat around the bush be upfront about your feeling.
2007-11-11 05:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by catrice h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him more passion. Let him know you're interested, otherwise, tell him you're not interested. Don't leave him hanging!
2007-11-11 05:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by The Beast from the Middle East 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, please don't go there! To me, it looks like sexual harassment but in a different sort of way, since you were interested first. Please, be careful with older guys, usually they are married or in a relationship and are users!
2007-11-11 05:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by B T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋