My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and he stays over my house a lot. I tell him all the time to go out with his friends but he always tells me he'd rather not. Whenever he does decide to hang out with his friends, which is hardly ever, I don't get mad because I usually have one girl's night out a week with my friends. Last night, however, he was online talking to one of his friends and his friend asked, "are you over at what's her name's house?". My boyfriend asked him what the hell that meant and I guess the conversation ended in a "F-YOU". I don't understand why his friend would say that. I really don't hold my boyfriend hostage here...he does what he wants. I try to get along with all his friends but they just don't seem to like me...or have given a chance to like me.
2007-11-11 05:12:26 · 3 answers · asked by bri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He knows my name. All his friends know my name.
2007-11-11 05:23:32 · update #1
i get this SAME treatment. it drives me nuts. one of his friends even got on my bf's AIM screen name to try to break us up by saying "it isnt working out between us, i love someone else..." when my boyfriend found out, he said he told this friend that he was being an a** but the friend just thought it was funny. another friend always has smarta** things to say in the background while i'm on the phone with my boyfriend.
my boyfriend is such a people pleaser, and is ridiculously forgiving, which is good for me when i upset him, but it drives me nuts how he just blows it off that his "friends" are jerks to me. honestly...i think the friends are jealous. i mean think about it, do you honestly think your bf is going to tell his friends that he would rather spend time with you than them?? so his friends are left to just conclude that you are making him come to your house so often.
so what ive done is basically just try to ignore it. i know it's easier said than done though. like, i wont talk to my boyfriend if he's around the friend that has comments for me while we're on the phone. i dont even let it happen again, i make my boyfriend go in another room to talk to me. just show his friends that youre confident and that youre not going anywhere. honestly, i'm sure his friends are just jealous.. but guys arent like girls, his friends arent going to come crying and b*tching to your bf saying that he should spend more time with them. they will just continue to be jerks to each other so they dont look like softies. your bf is still with you for a reason, just be glad that you dont have to hound him to hang out with you. lots of girls have to! show his friends youre confident though...good luck!
2007-11-11 05:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by niugirl1114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do stuff like that. And in a way you are the reason he isn't haning with his friends anymore, because he is always with you. The details matter very little when it comes to guys and their buddies....they all think he is getting domesticated and settled down which isn't necessarily something males feel comfortable with.
2007-11-11 13:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not really see what he said that made him such a jerk.
Maybe he did not know your name?
2007-11-11 13:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋