My sons Holden and Alden started kindergarden a few weeks ago but are in 2 different classes and every day they cry before school because they dont want to leave each other. What can I do to make them feel more comfortable with being spilt apart?
2007-11-11 04:48:55 · 7 answers · asked by Lakesen Family 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Get a couple of those keychain photo holders and put in a photo of the two of them together. Attach one to each of their backpacks or lunch bags. Remind them that they will be together again after school, and that they can look at their photos if they feel lonely for each other during school. At my daughter's kindergarten, there is a family photo board that the kids can look at whenever they feel the need.
You could also encourage them to draw pictures for each other during the day, and give them to one another after school. Before school, you could have each boy 'write' the other a little note or wrap up a little treat to sneak into the other boy's lunch bag or backpack. Make a game out of it, so they look forward to finding their 'surprises' once they get to school. Talk to their teachers about other ideas.
Good luck!
2007-11-11 05:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by daa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They'll get used to it on their own. Once they see that they're okay alone they won't be so upset about it. It's like when you take a security blanket away from a kid. They cry at first but then they eventually realize that they're okay without it.
I'm a twin and I still have a hard time being away from my sister sometimes because we were together so much when we were little. It's better to do it earlier on in life. Twins will fight more if they have the same friends and then they'll get sick of eachother and never want to be around eachother or even acknowlegde the fact that they have a twin.
Once they make friends they'll be a lot happier. They're just lonely now because they don't have that constant friend.
2007-11-11 06:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Oryx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually someting very normal called Twin Seperation Anxiety. I think the link i put below will help some. I guess the main idea is try telling them it's ok to want to be with each other all the time but you will also be ok without being together all the time as well.
2007-11-11 05:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by doanut_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it can go either way. I know many twins who do better apart and I know some twins who absolutely did better being together.
You just have to know your kids and do what's best for them - and if separating them is better - I suggest giving them each something with their sibling's photo on it.
2007-11-12 00:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to introduce more friends afterschool and what not, I'm guessing they have less interaction with other children because they have, built in friend in a sibling there own age
2007-11-11 04:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if my sons name was holden i would want to be with alden so that i can maybe be called alden bc holden is a horrible name..
2007-11-11 06:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mom here... Don't feed into it. They got your attention didn't they?
2007-11-11 06:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋