Do you keep going back?

Question

only to get your heart broken again,,,I am so angry right now.
why do I love her so much,,despite everything she has done,,I cant not love her,,its really taking its toll on me,,together 11 years,,this crap has been going on for the last 2 years,,,If anyone has any advice for me,,please let me know before I do something stupid,,,Im sorry if I sound out of line,,but f**k,,I am really,,,,REALLY piss*ed off,please help,,,something,,anything to calm me down,,,,I am gonna go off big time!!!!!

Answer 1

Hi mate, the fact that you asked this question means its time to move on, as hard as it is you have to, time does heal all wounds

Answer 2

I know how you feel. It is so hard to care deeply for someone who doesn't feel the same, or can't make a permanent committment. The roller-coaster ride is hard to take for years at a time.
I don't think we ever really stop loving someone, if it was genuine to start with. The old feelings are there waiting to be rekindled when they return.
Be aware that this pattern can continue forever if you let it. It has happened recently to me, a man has returned, again. It is the 4th time he has done it and it has been going on for years and years. I don't know why he can't accept that we should be together and just stay to work on the relationship, but he keeps leaving to find others.
I think some people are too good. Does that sound nuts? We put up with too much, accept bad behaviour, forgive and forget too often. I've tried to take a hard line, find others to date etc. But eventually I lose my resolve and agree to see him again. I always think I am over it, but never quite get there.
You are like a wolf caught in a trap, gnawing and gnawing trying to escape. The only real solution, is to cut it off completely and let it heal. If you can. My heart is with you, get up and go out today and find something fun to do to take your mind off things. Good luck.

Answer 3

I am there right now.....my husband has done a lot of stupid things.....I have done some also, He left almost 2 weeks ago, I can forgive what he has done and want him home, he refuses even though I have done everything he has asked of me. We have been together 16 years (I'm 33 now) so a long time! We have one child together. So he is messing with him also. I am so angry....done it all.....I am now taking the upper hand on my happiness.....I love him but I can't live like this....I have made myself sick I am on meds now. I am going to play it cool with him......If he doesn't want me and his family then it is his loss.....It has been like I said almost 2 weeks......I guess time does mend all because it is starting to get a little easier...I still feel deperate and alone but it isn't quite as hard so hang in there....try not to do anything too rash Good Luck! God knows I know how you feel.

Answer 4

When I was young I went back again and again. Now that I am older I realized that I deserve better and will not put up with the games anymore. You have to say enough is enough and tell yourself you deserve better. Imagine yourself with someone who makes you happy not causes you all that stress. She is obviously not wanting to change so you can stay in tis chaos or move on to peace and tranquility. In the end the ultimate decision is yours. She cannot think for you nor can you change her. Good luck and hang in there. I know it's hard but you are worth more than this and you deserve happiness which you are not having now.

Answer 5

Have a break apart for a while,get some mates together and get drunk(in moderation of course He! He!) and have a talk with your friends and get it off your chest,all relationships have ups and downs,i have not seen one when there was not some disagreement or friction,this is probably why you like each other so much and have been together for 11 years.

Answer 6

I am not sure how bad it is. You do not say what she keeps doing. If it is really bad and bringing you down, you might need to walk away and not look back. You don't stop loving somebody... that would be too easy.
Go for a walk or find something else to do that is away from her until you are calm.

Answer 7

well, if it has been going on that long, put a stop to it. my fiance just broke up with me 8 days ago and he said that things had been bad for a year, when he proposed a year ago. he just held everything inside and then let it blow. i cried and got it all out of my system and now i am finally getting treatment for my depression, which was a big factor but he did not want me to get treated. i wish he could have told me sooner. and if its my moods he cant stand, then he should give me a chance after I get help. he never gave me a chance. i dont know what to stay to you as far as advice because I can't even give myself advice. I don't know what to do anymore.

Answer 8

a person that loves you back wouldnt want to see you hurt, so if she knows that what ever the issue is causing you this much pain and anger, she needs to give it up and look after your well being, because ur happiness should be her priority. if you keep getting burned, and you cant or wont stand up for yourself and say 'enough is enough is enough' she will continue to play you as long as she can. so i suggest you grow some pair (of balls) and put your leg down and learn to watch out for yourself, because obviously she isn't doing that for you. sorry it sounds harsh, but i am just giving you my honest opinion. good luck.

Answer 9

ok,, here is what you need to do.

Take a good look in the mirror,, all this is your fault.

Now,, think about your whole life and write down where you are in life as far as business, friends, fitness, relationships, hobbies, etc.

This is where you are today because of the choices you have made in your life.......

Now write down the perfect situation you would want in all aspects of your life.........

Now you will see where you need to go in life and what you have to do.

She is holding you back. You must concentrate on making your life better!!!!!!!!!

Make it a priority to make your life exactly how you want it and then find a new girl.

Answer 10

I think you have to know what you can control and stop getting frustrated over things you can't control. I realize you're pissed, but you really have to get away from it for awhile and clear your head a little.