How would I know when I need mental help? Odd ? I know. I think Iam extremely depressed. Mabey even manic. i -

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have never been diagnosed. My life is extremely screwed up right now. I keep trying to be strong and get through it. Yet there are more times where Iam extremely depressed,putting things off and sometimes think of suicide. I get real scared and basically have panic attacks on a regular basis. The only thing that keeps me going is I get to see my children every weekend. Whenever I think of them during the week, I start to cry. If it wasn't for them, I would already be gone. All my problems are my fault. I just really have no more fight in me. I don't have alot of cash for a psychiatrist. I have insurance but copay is still a bit. I guess I'm just needing someone else's opinion. There isn't really anyone here I can talk to. I have friends but they have their own problems. I try not to burden other people. I have family but they are all out of state. They dont need to be worried about me so far away. Iam just so tired from this all Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.Thank you

Answer 1

My oh' my. This is my story. If you think you have messed up you're life, think again.

In Oct I left my abusive husband, in Feb I went back to him. One night we got into a verbal fight and I hit him, he called the cops and I went to jail.

For 7 days I could not see my children

He STILL has a restraining order on me

For 6 mo's I have to take a urine test to see if there's alcohol in it. (Even though I don't drink)

For 36 weeks I have to take a domestic violence class at 20 bucks a pop

For 6 mo's I have to go to counceling once a week (at my own cost)

I became pregnant

I don't have a car

I am going through a divorce

I have to be on probation and see a probation officer for 18 months.

I now have a criminal record

Everyone has problems. The thing that gets me through is knowing that each and everyday is a chance to start over and move ahead. Lean on you're friends. That's why they are called friends. People mess up their lives everday and yet are given a chance to redeem themselves. I still don't have my children full time, but Im working on it. Im moving ahead towards my goal. I often find myself getting into the funk you are talking about but I say "ok, that was in the past, Im learning from it and moving towards something better"

I know this is going to be unbearable to stand but take that time that you do not have you're children for yourself. If that means talking to a therapist or councelor DO IT! It's you're life hun. There are openings all around you, you just have to look for them. Control what you can, let go of what you can't. Everything will fall into place. For God's sake though, TALK to someone! My best friend and I take turns talking about our own drama, it helps us both cope. If you need someone to lean on, you can email me :)

Answer 2

Life, it really is a blessing. It's a gift to be here.... This is not advice coming from someone who has what you may consider has everything too. I have been burned many times and have lost love, but I try to see the brighter side of things and keep my mind occupied. There will be brighter days in your life, just be patient. If you are depressed and do not have a reason why, then you may have a chemical imbalance which medication could fix. However they do have certain side effects. Your children depend on you, suicide is not the answer. Be around positive people...that alone should help you.

Answer 3

Get in touch with your family. Stay with them for a while. Take their help. You needn't go through this alone.

It looks like you need company right now. I am glad you are considerate about not burdening anyone. However, explain your problem clearly and live with someone without burdening them.

It is the first step to realise that the problems are your fault. The second step would be to correct them now. Make up for them now.

Try locating a helpline if you can't afford a psychiatrist.
Take care of yourself, eat only healthy food, get good exercise. It will help you cope up with this better.
All the best. Stay strong.

Answer 4

Go to a church, and make an appointment with the pastor. You might need to try a few of them before you find one you are comfortable with.

Many life events we do not have control over, and that lack of "feeling in control" fuels the depression.

Gain as much control over your circumstances. Keep your house clean, keep your body fit, read good books, and only watch television and films that motivate you.

Your kids are going to be okay. And they will do even better if they see that you can handle the challenges of life. They do not need both parents to be there all the time. But they do need both parents to love them. And you do!

Buy small presents for your "ex" when you get stuff for the kids. It's okay to be nice, without expecting things to change.

Answer 5

Go to a Psychiatrist for yourself and your children. You can not be a good parent to them if you are depressed. I saw nothing in this question indicating your manic!

I am Bipolar and do very well on medication and therapy.

Answer 6

honey, if you have to ask you already know. God gives each and everyone of us the inner voice Get medical help asap. I will keep you in my prayers God bless

Answer 7

the key factor in diagnosing any mental illness: when you can no longer function appropiately.