My mom said something to me....?

Question

You make my life miserable.
No body wants used merchandise.
You look like a whore.
I dont love you anymore.

........ Im starting to believe that what she says is true... do you think she means it?

you make my life miserable- i wanted to return clothes
i dont love you anymore - i was talking to a boy i like
you look like a whore- i was trying on a dress
nobody wants used mechandise - i asked to go to the movies with my friend who is a girl and one of my guy friends

Answer 1

was your mum drunk or something , wow I'm shocked that she would say that to anybody , your mum must be in a bad place at the moment , look its harsh but i would tell your mum how bad it made you feel , i bet she is so sorry, sometimes its hard and we say thing that we don't really mean just to vent our anger and frustration , tell her you love her but feel hurt and confused by her remark , finally if this sort of behavior continues then i think you need to confide in an adult that you trust , just how bad your mum is making you feel , sometimes no matter how we try we just cant make people feel better or make them love us and its not our fault. I don't think you will do yourself any favors if you believe her remarks but think about what she said have you done something to rub her up the wrong way ! I'm not saying your at fault but something might have triggered those remarks ! and finally trust in your own judgment if your a good girl and have a kind heart , then you know you don't deserve those remarks , chin up x

Answer 2

She probably was talking about herself, because ANY mom who would say that to their own child, whether they meant it or not, is the MOST cruel thing that she can say. She doesn't deserve to be a mom.

You are none of those things. Don't you believe her. Next time she talks to you that way, go get a mirror and hold it in front of your face. It will probably piss her off, but tell her that God doesn't make junk, but in her case he made an exception.

Now, I don't know how old you are, or how you dress, but maybe she wants you to be a little more modest. That is NOT an excuse for her talking to you like that, but there is an image that comes to mind when young girls dress so provocatively. You have a right to dress the way you want, but keep in mind that it may not give people the correct assumption about who you really are. You can have your own style but in a classy way and you won't look like you are looking for trouble.

Having said that, she doesn't have the right to talk to you like that.

Call Child protective services and ask them if you can get placed at an aunts or grandparents who actually treat you well. How much time till you are 18?

Could you go live with your dad?

Good luck...stay strong and remember she is jealous of how wonderful you are and she wishes she was half as pretty and smart as you are. She doesn't deserve to be your mom.

Answer 3

No mother says that to her child and means it. Sometimes parents say something out of anger and then regret it later. I am a father of two boys. It is really hard to not say things like that. But, every once in a awhile it might slip out. "That I am very upset with you...(or) why would you do something that stupid!" From the parents point of view they have their own stress issues, like work, bills, but more important than all of that is the child! If your mother says something like that again, let her cool down and think about what she said. Then go and ask her if she was ever told that, and how did that make her feel. That question will provoke her to think about how it hurt you. But remain calm, do not raise your voice. And see what her response is, you will be surprised!

Hoped that helped.

Answer 4

Your mother sounds like a very unhappy and mean person. Nobody deserves the things she is saying/doing to you. Try to focus on your life and your happiness and don't worry about what your mom says. If you can overcome the obstacles she's throwing at you and still be a happy person you will be the better person in the end. Also, I recommed you find someone to talk to, at school, church, friends, other family. Anyone willing to listen and be there for you.

Answer 5

I hope not no mother should ever say that to there child.I think she needs to take a chill pill and call her doctor and get some help before she does something she will be sorry for. Deep down in side she don't mean it.Does your mother drink the hard stuff if so she needs to stop.Where is your father in all this?I think you need to tell some one at you school so they can help you and your mother.If you need a friend to talk to look me up:[e-mail] to let me know how things are going.

Answer 6

She is taking her own frustration out on you for some reason or another. If she is still married to your father, perhaps she feels trapped in the relationship because of you or if divorced taking out her feeling against him on you. It might also be that if you are dating she thinks you are having sex with someone and disapproves and she is showing that by what she says to you. Either way, it is not a good situation for you and you should think about going with your dad if they are divorced, another family member if they are still married, or even out on your own if you are old enough.
You need to work on your self esteem to keep that up and counter all the negative thoughts she is putting in your mind and if she will go for it, get into counseling with her.
I will give you a site for the self esteem and tell you not to take what she says personally because I doubt she really means it but is just very frustrated. Good luck and keep your chin up!!

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear this because as a daughter you would never want to hear these words from your mother. Your mother is always going to love you no matter what. There are times that they say things of that degree that our very hurtful and they are words that you will never forget. Remember, we dont get to choose our mothers. I dont think that it is correct that she is telling you this. It may be that she is going through rough times and is taking it out on you. Your relationship with your mother most likely needs space. I would talk to a school conselour or a therapist ( trust me they help) and they may give you better solutions of how to deal with this situation. BUT REMEMBER you are most likely a wonderful daughter and dont let her words get to you!

Answer 8

Um, any parent who would say something like that to there child obviously means it or is really upset with there child. That is no excuse though, it should not be said. If you have a family member you can talk to or perhaps stay with. Even parents can have a hard time sometimes and can recover please don't give up on them and give them a chance but, still make it known that they are wrong for what they say.

Answer 9

it's always hard when there is trouble in a family, but my guess is that your mom has some other problems that she doesn't know how to deal with, so she's taking it out on you.

if this is a continual thing, or if you have young brothers and sisters, get some counseling and call child services.

i'm really sorry for the things that she said to you. don't believe things like that. you are a valuable person; every one is. don't let one person bring you down, even if it is your mom.

Answer 10

Those are some really harsh words, especially for a mother who bore you 4 9 monthes to say. If she says it though, it doesnt mean it's true. Do u see yourself like that? I would hope not. I dont think it's true about you, but only i YOU dont think so.
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