im 17...he's in his late 30's!!!?

Question

There is this guy down my local pub...i go down there only sometimes and he lives two doors away from me. He is in his late 30's i think, he is married and has two young children. One night down the pub, a year ago he kept staring at me and saying 'i like those kinky boot's' and down in the pool area i coud see him glancing up to me all the time. The past few days every time i go down to the pub he is there staring at me all the time, i find it quite weird but i sort of like it! Once at a party he was saying how attractive i was and making a conversation..my mate overheard him saying to someone about me and my friend that we were so gorgeous. Oh and also the other night he wanted to know how i got on when i went home (i kind of stole my parents champagne for a laugh feel so bad lol :S) and he says i should talk to him more. what do i do? does he like me in that way? should i just avoid him...im so confused because i kind of enjoy what he is doing...it turns me on!? :S

Answer 1

omg you better avoid him woman!
he is marry! you are tempting him to cheat on his wife and that is so so so wrong and so on the dirt level and if you believe in Christianity, a sin to god
also if you become involve with him you will just be giving him and his family problems 'cause its against the law for someone of the age of 30 to have any sexual relation with someone under 18,
he just wants you for your body!
:P

Answer 2

First off he is married and has two kids! I think you should avoid him its just calling for trouble majorly. You're 17 don't throw your life away on a guy who wants to cheat on his wife with you. It's just wrong. Surely you can get a guy atleast around your age or in his early 20's or something. But hey if you want to help the man ruin his family then thats your deal if he's going to be acting like that then his family is already down the drain anyway. I'm sorry if this makes you mad or whatever but my dad was 42 and cheated on my mom with a 24 year old in front of me(holding hands and what not) when I was 11, and to this day I will never forgive him and I don't care what happens to him. And the girl well lets just put it this way if I ever see her again she will bloody and bruised before the day is done.

Answer 3

You just like all the attention that this guy is giving you, but seriously- STAY AWAY FROM HIM and what the flip are you doing in a pub? They call girls like you 'jail bait' for a reason and guys like him 'pedophile' and 'sex offender' for a reason.

If he tries flirting with you again flat out tell him he's too old for you and you don't date married men.

And, I really think you should tell your parents about this guy. Who knows what could happen if he catches you alone at night. It's also very creepy that he asks about when you're alone and tells you to talk to him more- he's trying to control you. Don't let him- have all the fantasies you want in your head, but don't act on any of them. he really sounds like trouble.

I know you feel excited, but please come down off the high and enter back into reality. If he gets you pregnant or gives you a disease do you really think he'd leave his family to help you? NOT IN A LIFETIME.

Answer 4

It is nice to get attention from men. Just let him squirm, but don't give in. Mostly because he's a freekin jerk! Put yourself in his wife and kid's position. If you were his kid, would you want a young woman to give your dad attention, and lead him on? Do you want your husband to do that? If the answer is no, then there is no way you should talk to him more.

Remember he is a perv to talk that way to a girl your age. A guy may think those things, but a decent guy wouldn't act on it. I'll bet he visits porn sites a lot and talks to other women that way, hoping to get a bite.

I have experience with this, have seen it a lot too. This is not a one time thing for him because he can't resist you personally. This is a jerk personality of his own that he would try with anyone attractive, whether you were there or not. Trust me. Be flattered! but please don't encourage it.

Answer 5

I know you like the attention but there are plenty of young men that will pay attention to you and have nicer thoughts of you than some married jerk who is willing to go after a young girl. You're not likely his only target and God knows what he does with others that could be of consequence to you. I'm guessing that you're in Britain and are a legal adult there but please be careful. He's only interested in one thing. Who knows, he might be disease-ridden! I say avoid him and let someone closer to your age and single pay attention to you. Why would you want to complicate your life at such a young age? You're whole future lies before you and he shouldn't be a part of it. He has a life, with a wife and kids.

Currently, here in the U.S., there's a case where a 23 year old mother has gone missing and her police officer husband is the prime suspect. He was married to his 2nd wife when he started the affair with her. He was in his 30's and she was 16. His 2nd wife died under mysterious circumstances that they are only now beginning to investigate. I doubt they will find his current wife alive. I'm attaching a link below so you can read up on it.

Answer 6

He sounds interested thats for sure, but to be honest , I am 99% positive that he is interested in only 'one' thing. Take it from someone who's been there, YOU DON"T NEED THAT! This guy will use you and drop you like a hot potato. Here is another question to ask yourself, do you REALLY wanna get involved with a married man, hurt his wife, and his kids? I know this is a very interesting and maybe fun (remember I said I've been there) but in the end you will be hurt and miserable. So my answer is ....STAY FAR FAR AWAY FROM HIM!!! If he is married and looking at someone else he is a CREEP and you deserve far better than him!

Answer 7

lol stay away.. he likes you, but he'll never love you. He just wants your pussy .. sorry to be so explict, but your young and he's older so he wants a taste of that younger stuff. He already has children and a wife and i doubt he'll never leave them so you should just burn this fantasy. Feelings always arise after sex so yea and that is where this thing is going. He wants it and you may give it since you said it turns you on. Love shouldn't really have an age limit, but he is clearly past the limit when his kids and wife are in the picture. Burn this fantasy up to ashes and each time he flirts maybe smile, but clearly show him your not interested.

Answer 8

It's OK to enjoy attention from guys.

But I think you might find yourself in a dangerous situation if you don't watch it. I think you are paying him too much attention in return and he's going to get the wrong idea.

You DO NOT want to get involved with an older, married guy with kids. Maybe you are too young to see that now, but it would turn into a huge mess.

So, in short, enjoy the attention all you want....but don't take these guys seriously. No good could come of it.

Answer 9

Well, if I were you, i would avoid this guy. He is WAY off your limit and is already married with kids. Do you ever think that this guy could be stalking you? He just thinks that you are attractive. It's like an old guy telling a little girl they dont even know how pretty they look or how cute they are.

Answer 10

Don't toy with a man's feelings. He is inappropriate for two reasons: 1. you are far too young for him. 2. he is married.
Avoid him, or say something which will put him in his place, like, "you're like a father to me....can you give me some advice about this boy I like?"

He's a perv. Stay away from the Pub. You're too young for that, too.