do i have anxiety?? please help, please please please i really need help?

Question

I think i have anxiety. I am always scared that something bad will happen to my mom dad or brother. I am scared that my mom will always get into a car accident or my brotehr will get kidnapped. sometimes i dont get together with friends ebcause i want to watch my mom.. btw my mom is an ex drug attic.. i am always worried about something.. i never participate in class cause i am scared i will say something stupid.. or if i do right before i raise my hand i get all these tingling feelings in my legs and stomach.. if teh teacher calls on me though i am not nervous or anything.. i am allwayyss scared that something bad will happen to my mom dad or rbother and it will be myyy fault. so whenever my mom goes anywhere i go with her. my mom knows i have anxiety.. and sometimes she says "We whould do smthg about this" but then she never does.. i went to the doctor and the doctor just wants me 2 go 2 a therapist but i dnt have tiem for that and she wont give me medicine and i dont know what to d

p.s. i am a 15 years old girl
i think im fat even tho my mom and borther say im not
and i often alwaysss feel sad or like im such an idiot
i also think im ugly or not ugly but not pretty
im not very confident at all
but im always sad.. like im worried my mom will use drugs.. and shes only been clean a couple months and she has used them all my life and my dad is always at work.. oh also i am always iritable.. anything my brother does annoys me.. liek any little noise and i cant concentrate on whatever im doing.. i used 2 not be like this
and eating always makes me feel better for a few min

i do do sportss....

she may be an ex.. but she has oly been clean for like 5 months

i have been like this for about 3 1/2 years

Answer 1

With all the stuff they show in the news, and in the horror movies, it's no wonder young people these days have let their imaginations carry them away and riddled them with worry. And there are so many commercials with various diseases and associated drug remedies, that we all start believing that we MUST have one of these diseases...right?
You do sound a little anxious; but try to remember, as any medical professional would say, you have control of yourself. You CAN control this. You have to realize that this is just life, you have very understandable & very normal anxiety- related experiences...no different from anyone. We all worry about bad things happening to our loved ones every time we are apart. It's normal to worry. It's not normal to let it control your life.
You need to take a deep breath.....talk about what you are afraid of, and what's making you so anxious, and then ask yourself to justify those feelings....ask yourself just how feasible they are....like, can they REALLY happen?
You're an example of how most anxiety starts...we worry about things a little, then we have some bad experiences, and it makes us worry more....soon, it's out of control, running our lives, keeping us from doing what we used to do....
Well, don't let "anxiety" win the battle. You are strong. Know that it's in God's hands, and if it's time for someone to go, then it's time. You have no control over what may or may not happen. You worry & worry, going with your mother everywhere....what is it exactly, that you think you can do to help her from harm? You can protect her? This is an awful lot of responsibility to put on yourself, especially since you really can't protect her....see what I'm saying.
I have had anxiety...I have also treated people with anxiety....it's all about controlling your thoughts, taking deep breaths, not getting caught up in the moment, and rationalizing. You have to get control, before it gets control of you. You can see a therapist, if you think it may help you to talk to someone who can help you become strong enough to conquer this. Just try not to become dependent on them....you have inner strength that you probably don't know you have, that you can use....better than any coma-inducing, numbing medication.

Answer 2

You have no idea how much I relate to you. The fact that your mom had a drug problem (as my mom does), hell thats enough to make you worry all the time. About therapy, if your reluctant I understand. I've never been able to talk to a therapist. Or really open up to anyone. That right there is the major cause of my anxiety. I keep all my worries and thoughts in. I have taken medicine for my anxiety, but you seem like a smart person, meds are not for everyone. I guess im wondering how long this has been going on. The reason is, depending on your age, an antianxiety drug may help. Your mom needs to look past her own drug history, and try to get you on some medicine. For me, feeling anxious is just about the worst feeling ever. I'd rather break a bone!!!
The reason I said that about your mom, is she's probebly scared that if you are on a benzo ( antianxiety meds), you could become addicted. If used right they can help immensley.
Hope you feel better soon. I totally know what your going through.

Answer 3

I do not recommend medication because it will not solve your problem, only suppress it so it can pop out in another form, perhaps in a process happening within your body that you will not notice until it is too late. As for anxiety attacks, I had an acquaintance who was in the same situation. I did not help her because she refused help, but I have some strange methods to deal with this. It sounds as if there are no tremendous problems in your life, but I'm only assuming from the "suffer from attacks of anxiety for no apparent reason" quote. It would be helpful for you to seek an opportunity where you can focus on other people in third world countries, perhaps volunteering to distribute malaria relief or food, even. When you're dealing with a real crisis, sometimes these things take the backdrop and leave you alone. On the other hand, pressure can mount higher and you'll find yourself worse off, but I doubt this.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I understand exactly how you feel. I went through the same thing for a number of years only everyone ignored me when I acknowledged there was something wrong. What you can do is try to control your thoughts, like trusting your mom to make the right decisions or understanding that you can never say anything stupid in class because most likely someone is thinking the exact same thing as you. Its hard to believe yourself at 15, I know, cause there's so much going on just with regular stuff and its easy to ignore what you say but it helps. The best thing to do though, is to talk to a therapist or some sort of professional. I know it sounds weird 'going to see a therapist' and kinda lame, but it really does help and you got to make the time for it. I went years dealing with the same problems and eventually my anxiety grew into panic attacks and finally a nervous breakdown ( or along the lines of one) my senior year. I'm not saying thats gonna happen to you though, I'm just saying its better to take action now. Getting help will relieve some of your thoughts and all the added stress associated with them. If you really, really, really can't go or dont want to, then I suggest finding positive people in your life, like friends, who can help you with your anxiety or just life problems i general. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to IM or Email me. I hope all goes well and you find a solution to your problem. Best of luck.

Answer 5

You have issues with God. It does no good to worry. See? It just unsets you. You don't need man made medicines, look at all the side effects they have. The meds are worse than the ailment. You must trust that God knows what he is doing.
And sadly, yes, you will loose loved ones along the way. It is the way of nature. Don't be afraid of anything. What will happen is going to happen. You must learn to deal with it. Meditation is good, and yes, you do have time for that. Your dreams will guide you as well as the guardian angels that were assigned to you when you were born. Learn to listen to them, they are there to help you. And honey, don't get use to life in this physical world. It is only temperary, and it is meant to teach you. The rest is up to you. Everyone has their time on earth, then when God id ready, he will show you something a whole lot better! Blessed Be!

Answer 6

The best thing to do is go to your local Library or surf the Internet for some resources on anxiety disorder first. The first step to overcome any problem is to arm your self with the proper knowledge. A therapist can also help-full, but S/He has to have a medical licence to prescribe medications. Also talk to a family member or friend about your feelings

Answer 7

My dear friend, I hope the people around you now how lucky they are to have you . your a good person, Now listen to me anixety is caused by faceing a fear in our past, this fear leaves lke a scare behind that takes time to heal and as its healing what you feel are the side effects .
now the funny thing is. This
chemical thing never goes away if you dont do the work. you have to get to a therapist and you 15 now you need to make the appointment yourself if you have too. listen this can go away now while your young or you can do the work at 40 years old
its your choice , one of the side effects of this condition is we cant see how beautiful we are or how wonderful we are . Im telling you that you can beat this but you need to do it now okay go see your school nurse tell your teacher its cramps but go see her/him this person can direct you in the right direction In the long run you cant take care of the whole world till you start to take care of you

Answer 8

Alot of people I know have the same proublem u are having and I am one of them . I worry about everyone all the time and I have learned to trust in GOD and to beleive in him and it has helped me in along way...I worry but not as much as I use to and so u know u never stop worring about your family members and thats a good thing.... If you go to church talk with your pastor they will help u in every way...I because a ordain pastor it will be 3 years ago this dec. and I amd so happy that I did...I u ever want to talk just write me or join my IM at [e-mail] I wish u all the best and GOD Bless...Pastor Pamela Bell

Answer 9

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Answer 10

What I think you should do is go to therapy. You need to MAKE time for it. My children have been through a LOT in the past 5 or 6 years, and therapy helps us all cope, and to discover ways to deal with our anxieties in a positive manner. The psych can teach you those things, and, if it's true anxiety disorder, they can prescribe meds to HELP. They are NOT a magic pill that will make it all better. You need those tools, and you need to learn how to use them.