so. i have been with my boyfreind for a year now. we had a rough time getting to where we are now, but now that we are on this level things have been great. we live together and so fourth.
I have been home with my family sick with MONO and i get a call from my boyfriend who had just left his frat's mixer with a soroity on campus. He tells me something I already knew... that he had cheated on every girlfriend he ever had except me and his first girlfriend (she broke his heart) and that his honesty plagues him....
he tells me tonight that he could had an opportunity where he was inches away from cheating (twice)... and that he walked away because it was wrong and because he loved me...
Then he started telling me about how all the girls wouldnt let him stop dancing with them and that it felt so wrong having his body up against another girls'
I mean thats good and all
but now i am going to be going nuts every party he goes to and i am not there?!?! how do i deal with this?
2007-11-11 02:29:46 · 11 answers · asked by boots4939 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let it go. he has already proven to you that he has great self control so trust him
2007-11-11 02:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by A heart full 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that he likes the attention and for him to put himself in all of those situations is a recipe for disaster. I say he cheats on you in the near future and maybe tells you, maybe he doesn't. You forgive him and you continue to date and he does it again.....you two finally break up. Why don't you go to those parties and dance with other guys. That usually gets them to wisen up and behave. He definitely would cry like a little baby if he saw you giving another guy "attention" the way he gives other girls attention. Kids play.
2007-11-11 02:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 00:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is so confused, it isn't funny.
He has a problem with honesty???? Ask him what that means.
And I would talk to him about these "mixers" he goes to. If he is so in love with you, he shouldn't be displaying such behavior.
Testing the relationship by testing his urges to cheat. Ok. Yeah.....and I believe in flying monkeys.
2007-11-11 02:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is manipulating you because it empowers him.
Kiss him hard and give him mono then break up with him.
Life is too short to have to deal with scuzzy guys that hit on every pair of legs they see.
Find a nice guy and enjoy life.
2007-11-11 02:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was his way of telling you that your love has made him a changed man. He was proud of himself for being able to say no to those girls and wanted to share that joy with you the only way that he knew how. You have nothing to worry about.
2007-11-11 02:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just said all that to you to see what kind of reaction he would get. be strong and confident, love yourself first. if he truly loves you and you are "the one" for him he won't do anything with anyone else. parties aren't the only place where things can happen...
trust him until he proves you wrong.
2007-11-11 02:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixlstilwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously a trustworthy guy. Any man that calls you and tells you that he felt he did something worng is completely fine by himself.
2007-11-11 02:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's almost like he wants you to be jealous. It's not healthy. I don't think that's right at all, hun, you could do so much better than that!
2007-11-11 02:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Celtic Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either accept his behavior so it doesn't drive you crazy, or dump him before he does cheat on you.
2007-11-11 02:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋