How To Deal With Overprotective Parents?

Question

Im 13 & Im a resposible girl. My Parents refuse to let me go out with my friends unless therez "parental supervision". And sometimes they wont let me go even if there iz parental supervision! I love them to death, but they just wont reason with me. Everytime I try to talk to them about it we end up fighting & screaming. I kno their intentions are good but I think thtat Im mature enough to go out on my own & make my own mistakes & learn from them in order to be more prepared 4 the "real world". I'm sick of being the only 1 of my friendz that cant go on the weekends & has 2 be locked up between 4 walls bored all day! Please help

Answer 1

Let them know you're responsible. Start proving to them you are. State your reasons to them but be prepared for them to fight back. You're only 13 - you still have a lot of time to spend with friends.

Answer 2

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Think you're old enough for the "real world" at 13.
Rich!
I don't mean to laugh, but egads -
The stories I could tell you.... *wipes a laughter tear away* the times I've had...
...I've been in some seriously ugly situations, and there's not a single one I don't wish I'd been at least a few years older before it happened to me. A lot of bad sh*t can happen to someone your age, and your parents are in the right on this one.
-Don't rush growing up. You'll just look back and regret it.
-Ask your parents to come along and make time if they won't let you go
-don't argue with them about these issues: you haven't had the experience to understand their reasoning, and pushing them about it will only make you look like more of a kid to them.

If you want to get more responsibilities and get greater trust, show them you can handle it by handling what you have now in chores, etc - show them you're doing good in school, or ask to do more around the house. Use it as leverage: "I finished this project early and took care of my room - is it okay if I ________?"

Even if they don't, well - get your friends to hang out at your house, or try to plan other stuff to do that you can get more involved with. If they think it's lame or look down on you for it,
how good of friends can they really be? Your peers shouldn't make you feel lesser or down because your parents care about you.

Answer 3

You are 13 and you are too young to do those things. However what you should be asking your parents is to step up to the plate and be "the parental supervision".

Honey, you have all your life to learn the lessons of the real world. How bout doing that when you actually have a clue of how to handle the results of those lessons. Of course you think you are mature enough, but in your question, its quite apparent you are not.

Ask them to let you have friends over on the weekend, and to go with you to the movies and to the mall. Eventually they will see you can be trusted and will get bored with having to do things with you. That's the name of the game.

Answer 4

Your parents care about you and love you. You are very lucky. Some parents dont care - they just let their kids do whatever and hope for the best.

Small steps are the best. If your parents know that you are going to be safe then they will let you do something. They might have a trust issue - not necessarily with you but with people in general. And dont blame them because if you watch the news and read the papers there is some scary stuff happening out there.

Try to be grateful that your parents care and that they are protecting you. I wish I had parents like that. I couldnt go to sleep tonight because i was thinking about how my mum put me dangerous situtaions when i was a kid. I was trying to block it out but i feel so sad that she wasnt trying to protect me.

I wish you all the best. Maybe in a year or so your parents will start to let go and trust a bit more. Give them every reason to trust you by always being honest with them and that will help.

xoxxo

Answer 5

You're going to hate me, but I'm siding with your parents on this one. At the age of thirteen, it's perfectly reasonable for them to want parental supervision around you. What if there was an accident and someone had to go to the hospital? What if you get too loud and the neighbors call the cops? You really are not old enough to deal with these types of situations, and the fact that you can't even imagine them happening only emphasizes that fact. You talk about being ready for the "real world" but really you dont' even know what you're talking about... and no, you don't want to learn the hard way, trust me.

Keep working on earning your parents' trust. (Screaming at them is not going to help with this) Let them know that you are at least TRYing to understand their rules. Ask them what sort of behavior they are looking for from you. And try to keep in mind that they are doing this, not to drive you nuts, but because they love you.

Answer 6

i know exactly how you feel. im 15 and i have finally gotten some freedom. even though i learned this a few months ago you should know. getting your parents trust is hard. you are their child and they don't want you to get hurt. they love you! if you are matture, you need to show it, do all your chours, don't whine and act like you are older. When you ask your parents to do something and they say no, tell them how you feel say but talk in a matture way and don't say " well everyone else is going" you need to talk to them and be calm, it might not work at first, but show them that you deserve a good time. do all your homework , study hard, and shoe themt hat you are a matture young lady! good luck, and if this isn't working have your friends come over to your house. good luck! =]

Answer 7

No help that time won't cure .... show them through your choices, deeds & actions they can trust your and your choices in friends ... they will give you more slack.

Sorry ... it's kind of a time honored tradition 13 year old's can make some bad decisions and get influenced alot by peer presure ..... you'll have to suffer on till they see your different and can make good choices......

Sorry Kido.

Answer 8

I think you should try to show respnsibilty, but releasing in slow amounts so your parents can get used to your freedom, like going outside just to exercise and go home on time and stressing good positions in school.