My bf asked me if i wanted to go on a drive after office. And i said yes. He told me to wrap my work and i did. But then suddenly some queries came on a report i had sent and my boss asked me to discuss it with him and answer the queries. Consulting him and sending the reply took me almost an hour. My bf was calling and i told him that something very urgent - important has come up and he'll have to wait. I said sorry even and asked him to wait. As soon as i finished my work his msg came that 'by the time you'll read this msg i'll be gone and dont call me'. I didn't call, but i was so hurt. Night had fallen and i was thinking didn't he even care how i'll go back. He has a car so he could leave me home, i usually take a bus back home. Im sure a lot was going in his mind too but did he over react by leaving me? I feel so bad... it has been 5 days now but its hurting so much that i didn't talk to him on phone even when he asked me to. Tell me what to think
2007-11-11 01:39:19 · 11 answers · asked by spicy cola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was dead wrong. However, refusing contact is a relationship killer. Never close lines of communication! Here is how I see it. Do you know how to explain true love? It is when you return to your senses after behaving like a jackass and there is still someone there to apologize too.
I do not know the man or his situation. He was wrong to do what he did but we do not know what other factors motivated him. Do not be too quick to pull the plug especially if this is the first such episode.
As I have advised many a business person who had an employee who screwed up badly. It is easy to fire someone but much more difficult to replace them. Sometimes, if a person really screws up and feels really badly about it, they become a much better person. To get rid of them now is dopey.
There are only two kinds of people in the world; those who have screwed up and those that are going to screw up. The trick is to find the ones who screw up less or on less important things and strive to avoid those missteps in the future.
Someday, you may need that sort of understanding when you screw up.
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2007-11-11 01:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you bf did over react. He told you to wrap up your work, but its not that simple. You cant just leave work when it is convinient for HIM. If he wants to go on a date and has nothing to do he cant just excpect you to not have anything going on either. Just because he was free at the moment doesnt mean you were. If he loved you he would understand that your job is really important and that if he was mature he could have just said "Lets just do it tomorrow okay? Dont sweat.". You DID NOT make a mistake. You can always go on a date any other time, but your job was at jeopardy. Infact you even notified him that you had something urgent to attend to. Dont think of anything. Dont make it a bigger deal then it really is. Be mature in this situation and if he chooses to be immature then thats his problem.
2007-11-11 01:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How was having to do something for your boss, that kept you late at work, a mistake? That's your paycheck (how you eat and pay rent). Your boyfriend was an azz for getting upset that you take your job seriously and had to cancel a fun little drive to take care of business.
If this is typical behavior of his, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship. His priorities apparently aren't lined up appropriately for success (in work or relationships).
2007-11-11 01:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did overreact to what had to be done. I mean it is a job and you are being paid for it. You are expected to finish your work and if he is going to react like that he needs to grow up. I was with a girl at work that had to stay over every day because she had to do extra reports than everyone else. It wasn't even her job, it was our bosses job but she didn't because it was given to her everyday to finish. She did the job because she was being paid to perform to the best of her ability.
2007-11-11 01:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by myfav1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is jealous, and thinks you are playing with the boss. He needs to grow up, and realize you have a job, there are times when you can not jump at his every whim. Ask him if he would like a statement from your boss, showing you were actually working?
Let him apologize to you, you did nothing wrong.
2007-11-11 01:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your putting work first ,which will get you through life and pay your bills. he doesnt want to be second and cant handle having to wait. it sounds like you would be better off letting him move on. he doesnt understand that you cant get off at a excact time and hes only thinking about himself. he needs to see that theres enough time in a day to spend together after work ends even if its for a few hours. if you want to try to work out with him then youll have to tell him that youll contact him when you get home. or tell him that you dont have time for his games of wanting what he wants only in life and you need someone more understanding.
2007-11-11 01:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's deffinitly overeacting and that u should just leave him be because he's a retard and left u for something that all good boyfriends would say ok, lets just do something tomorow maybe
2007-11-11 01:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he over reacted! He should have been more understanding if he really cared about you!
2007-11-11 01:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guys a loser. if hes gunna flip about stupid lil' stuff like this you dont need him.
sorry and good luck! =)
2007-11-11 01:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stupid selfish guy. Better off without him!
2007-11-11 01:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by irish.cadyboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋