I'm nearly sixteen and I'm still sharing a bedroom with my sister who is a year younger than me. I feel like this is imparing on my life and I'm unsure whether this is a "healthy" thing for an adolesent to be still doing. I've shared a bedroom with my sister since she was born and it looks like I'll only have my own bedroom when I'm twenty and leave home... I even have my doubts then! We are moving house... or looking for a home to move to and the only request I have made is to have my own bedroom, but they seam to only be looking at three-five bedroomed houses. (We, unfortunately, are a family of NINE people and I don't think four bedrooms will be enough for anyone to not have to have their own and it's always my brother who has his own bedroom... he is also younger than me!)
So... Is it healthy to be sleeping in the same room as my sister, at the age of 16?
2007-11-11 01:20:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Up until the last 20years siblings always shared rooms. House built like mansions with a large number of rooms were unheard of.
My suggestion, since you don't feel your parents are adequately providing the life you would like to become accustom to, is that you plan on doing better than they have when you become a parent. Otherwise, since humility and gratitude is a lesson that you apparently missed, I suggest you keep a copy of this letter with you until you are 40 and then take it out and read it. Hopefully the reflection back will mean something to you then.
I think the only person who this situation isn't healthy for is your sister. She's the one who has to put up with you.
2007-11-11 01:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful you have a room. Who cares if your brother has his own room? If he's the only boy he should. Are you suggesting that he should room with your younger sister just so you can have your own room? Why would you think sleeping in the same room as her would be unhealthy? Or is it that you want the privacy to do other things? I'm not saying you don't deserve some alone time. Maybe you can talk to your mom about setting up some time during the day when the room is just yours. Keep in mind your sister has the right to this as well.
2007-11-11 02:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My brother and I shared a bedroom until I was eighteen. My parents moved into another house then and it had the extra bedroom.
There is four years difference in our ages and we always got along so it wasn't so bad. I think we became closer because of it but you have to be more considerate of the other person when you share small quarters.
You might look back on it some day with fond memories.
2007-11-11 02:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by unclebirchy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it's healthy, or rather it isn't unhealthy. Cripes, when you go off to college you'll still share a room if you live in a dorm, unless you are lucky. Now, if your brother and sister were sharing a room, that might be a problem, which is probably why he gets his own even though he is younger. I come from a family of nine as well (seven kids) and it was my sister that got the solo room. Never even crossed my mind that this wasn't fair.
2007-11-11 01:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by busterwasmycat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol... yes, it's perfectly healthy. When you leave home, you'll likely be in a dorm room which you will (surprise!) share with another person. Is it annoying? Also yes.
I grew up in a big family too. I was the oldest of nine kids and we only had one bathroom (you think you got it tough). I occasionally got to have my own room, but mostly I shared with one or more of my sisters. It's annoying, but before you know it, you'll be out on your own with your own space and your own rent check to pay. Who knows, maybe home won't look so bad.
2007-11-11 02:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can really see your point but you need to understand that your parents may be limited to what they can provide. They're doing their best and maybe you should be grateful that there are only two of you in a room. Three would suck. Be thankful for what you have and remember some people don't even have homes to live in.
2007-11-11 01:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its fine you twit. You watch too many American TV show's with everyone in their own huge villa/room. Welcome to the real world where people share rooms.
No, it is not unhealthy to still be sharing with your sister, it is fine. Perhaps instead of whinging about getting your own room, you could be trying to make your parents life eaiser by simply thanking them for doing their best in raising you well.
2007-11-11 01:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by davesonlineaccount1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only ..."Not recomended if your sister was a brother"
Sorry ... gotta make do..... try a divder wall in the room to give ya more "You Space"....
Good Luck
2007-11-11 01:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋