If you are going to snicker about this, please don't do it openly in your answer. This is something very serious to me.
2007-11-10 21:01:55 · 37 answers · asked by frenzy-CIB- Jim's with Jesus 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I guess I'm just venting on Y!A. Kinda stupid, I guess.
2007-11-10 21:19:07 · update #1
Thanks, all. To those who thought I had never been sexually active before I embarked on this course, that is not the case.
2007-11-11 09:24:18 · update #2
Only you can answer that one.
What were the reasons for your vow of chastity and were your goals accomplished?
There is biblical precedence for chastity and if you are able, then it is a highly desirable trait (at least, according to St. Paul). I think it's admirable that you even made the attempt. And no, I don't think you wasted this time.
I can only presume that you are asking because you are considering ending your vow? If that is the case, then you need to be in communion with God now more than ever. Because this is a very spiritual choice you are about to make and you need to know what His will for you is.
I hope you find a satisfactory answer, and I pray that God guides your thoughts in this matter.
Edit: It's not stupid. There is no reason to feel bad about venting. This is a serious matter for you and I think it's good that you got some other views on the matter. (personal opinion)
2007-11-10 21:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by King James 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The years were only wasted if the benefits you received weren't as valuable as what it cost you to get them. In my experience, it may not always look or feel that way, but in the long run the benefits of sexual purity FAR outweigh anything it might cost to achieve it. When I observe (and read about) people that trusted God's advice and then entered a marriage unburdened by previous sexual mistakes and then compare their life and their marriage to my own experiences, it is crystal clear to me that God knew exactly what he was talking about. I wouldn't wish the sexual baggage I carry (even with God's help) on my worst enemy, let alone my sister in Christ.
Trust that God had a good reason for his advice...he wants to protect you from something that can hurt you in ways you can't possibly imagine. Protecting your heart, your mind, and your body is never a waste of time!
2007-11-11 06:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by KAL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you made a conscious decision to be celibate as you believed it was the right thing for you to do. If so, those years were not wasted - you acted as you did from a love of god and from what you understood would be his wishes.
I also assume that something has now made you reconsider. As I have no idea what it is, but whatever you decide to do in the future, you have not wasted your previous six years. Actually, to remain celibate in our society shows a remarkable moral will.
Good luck. Follow your conscience.
2007-11-10 22:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by fordfalcon1953 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can anything done in obedience to Him be wasted?
Your reward will be in Heaven. If you are ready for a husband, ask the Lord and He will provide one for you. You did well. The world will mock you but the world mocked and in the end executed Christ. Following Him is a lonely path. It means taking up the cross. You will be dead for eternity in glory or not. Jesus did not laugh at the sins of the flesh but His heart is seen as forgiving. (Remember the Samaritan woman at the well? - She had 5 partners. He did not reprimand her but He made clear He knew all about it - and He knows all about you too)/. Go and be blessed and don't worry about this.
2007-11-10 21:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is more of a question you should ask yourself really. But, if it is an answer you seek from others, perhaps I can lend some insight. I want to point out this is MY personal oppinion. I don't believe it right, for any religion or any god to tell their people they can't do something natural to them, such as making love or however you wish to put it. If you are in a steady relationship already and you aren't doing any of that, that is a personal choice. If you're waiting for marriage, a personal choice. Everything you do in these sort of things, is a personal choice, no god of any religion should have the right to tell you that you can or can not make love with someone, be it someone you love, think you might or whatever. But again, that's just my personal view
2007-11-10 21:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Dark_Stryke 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
To live celibately for six years is an exercise in self-discipline.
The years were not wasted.
However, being that there is no deity, the purpose why you did so was meaningless.
The purpose was wasted, but the experience was not.
2007-11-10 21:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It all depends. Why did you obey? From love or fear? What is the rest of your relationship like. Obedience is just one small part.
However, if by celibate you mean not having sex outside marriage, than you definitely did the right thing and should continue.
2007-11-10 21:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by δοῦλος Χριστοῦ Ἰησοῦ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That is for you alone to answer. If you feel like it was wasted time, then it was. If you do not feel like you wasted your time and you feel you accomplished something by this. Then it was not wasted time. A question tough if i may. What kind of God would want to deny you the little pleasure that this life had to offer?
2007-11-10 21:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Friend you have done a very great job, that only few people are gifted enough to do so....According to human standards it may be a waste of time or just a crap, however, being celibate is not a human enterprise, it's God, and for God every moment offered to him is valuable, so it's not a waste of time, it is however, a strong foundation to be in intimate union with Him.......if you think it's just a waste of time, don't entertain it, it's just a temptation for you measuring you how really firm you are to that commitment to God...Satan is very upset of what you've done, imagine six years devoting your life to God, so definitely he will find ways to lure you and to lead you astray....thinking that a waste of time can be one of satan's ways, be careful, trust God...
2007-11-10 21:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by junjun 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Undeniably "Yes" Nothing has ever been proved to confirm any religion existed to the extremes they are known today.
Cult religions / stories! No more. no less! Woven into the fabric of all manner of races & creeds! By men who've used it over centuries to dominate, rule, indoctrinate others.
Give it up! Go out and live your life, u only have 1 & live it to the full!
2007-11-10 21:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋