Which should I get, a maternity bridesmaid dress or a regular bridesmaid dress?

Question

Ok, so my sis's wedding is in July and I'm not using protection right now. I was wondering which type of dress I should be thinking to get. She wants to order the dresses in December. Should I ask if she will let me wait to order my dress until a few months before the wedding just so I know which one to get or what else would you recommend doing?

I'm married by the way :) and I am not necessarily trying but I don't feel the need to prevent myself from getting pregnant either. I would be happy either way.

I'm the matron-of-honor
http://www.houseofbrides.com/product.php?productid=16420&cat=438&page=5
this is the dress she wants us to wear..would it work if I was in advanced pregnancy?
And to someone who wrote, I don't think I should have to make my family decisions (pregnancy, or anything else) based on her getting married.

I never wanted to matron-of-Honor. She was maid-of-honor at my wedding and really wants me to be MOH. If I declined she would be seriously ticked-off. I will not put my life on hold for her and don't really consider her as a friend anymore since she barely even calls me even if I call her all the time.
I'm only going to be her MOH because she would be hurt if I wasn't.
This will be my second child and I know full well how pregnancy is.
I will not be having the traditional responsibilites of MOH like she didn't have the traditional responsiblities at my wedding since she was only 16. The other bridemaids are practically doing everything and I'm pretty much just a figurehead sort-of.

Answer 1

First, If you are trying to get pregnant then I would order the dress a size or two larger because the dress can be taken in at the seams if you're not pregnant in July. If you wait to order the dress you might not be able to get the same dress later on which means your dress would not match the other bridesmaids dresses and your sister then would be upset. You could also check to see if the dress comes in a maternity size. I was in a wedding and pregnant when I went to order the dress--I didn't order the dress in a larger size and I gained
more weight than I thought I would so right before the wedding I had to starve myself just to fit in the dress and I was scared to death I wouldn't lose the weight before the wedding--they were able to take the dress out in the seams for the last few pounds I did't lose so I'm trying to save you from this happening!

Answer 2

What Mandy said is perfect, but I will add that you should at LEAST try not not get pregnant in the near future.

You might be miserable if you are in your third trimester for her wedding. I was pregnant last year. In my third trimester, I berely wanted to MOVE! I couldn't imagine standing up in a wedding. Plus I had to run to the bathroom all the time. As a guest at a wedding in my 7th month, I was extremely uncomfortable.

As a petite person, no one would have imagined that I would have gained over 50 pounds and had a 9 lb 5 oz baby boy! I ate healthy, excercised, etc. But that boy just wanted to be big! My feet were swollen, my back hurt, and he was pulling a ligament so my side hurt, ALL the time.

You are taking on a responsible position as maid of honor. If you think that you could/want to become pregnant, you should decline the MOH position. It will be very hard to be in the last stages of pregnancy AND help out your sister on her big day. Or be there for her 100% and postpone any possible pregnancy.

On the surface, it may seem that you shouldn't put your life on "hold" for her wedding... and for the most part you shouldn't. But be reasonable... to her... and to yourself.

You may be lucky and have a smooth pregnancy and be able to pull it off. Or you could be like me and no matter how "right" you do everything, you just have swollen feet, sharp back pains and a huge baby sitting on your bladder. I couldn't even wear SHOES in my last trimester. I had to go get MEN's slippers. A year later, I still have some numb spots on my feet.

Answer 3

Well, first of all how come you aren't using any kind of birth control? Are you planning on getting pregnant? If so, you may want to go with an empire-waist or maternity dress. Since you don't know exactly how far along you might be, an empire dress in a size or two bigger then normal will probably suffice because a seamstress can make the necessary alterations. If you're not planning on a pregnancy, then you might want to think about using protection if not to prevent a pregnancy then to protect yourself from the diseases out there.

Answer 4

Here's the deal. Maternity dresses are cut and sewn differently from regular dresses. If you are not pregnant and you have to have it taken in it is going to look funny. I would say to wait until almost the last minute to order the dress. See when it will be in and how long alterations will take and plan accordingly. Because who knows when you will become pregnant. Even if you are only a little pregnant you may not need that maternity dress. Good luck

Answer 5

I think seven to eight months is a little early to require everyone order the bridesmaids dresses, but whatever. So much could happen between then and now.

Ask her if she'd mind if you took a few more months. If you waited until as late as March, there shouldn't be a problem with getting the dress on time, and you can get a maternity dress if you need to. If you aren't pregnant at that time, and you got pregnant between the time you order and the wedding day, you probably wouldn't even be far enough along to be showing enough to justify needing a maternity dress.

If that's not possible, talk to the seamstress about the possibility of altering it if you need to. Can you purchase the maternity dress, and through alterations, have it fit you if you aren't pregnant or showing much?

There are some bridesmaids dresses that double well as a maternity dress. With both of my pregnancies, I was a bridesmaid/matron of honor, and both times, we were able to find non-maternity styles that allowed for my baby belly (both times, around 5 months along). Most gowns with an empire waist double well as maternity.

Answer 6

I am having my sister as my bridesmaid next year and her and her husband want to get pregnant. I asked her to wait - maybe I am being selfish but I want her to have an awesome time at my wedding I want her to drink and stay out all night and have FUN and I have being pregnant and all you want to do is go home cause your tired, or the smell of the alcohol is making you sick or your annoyed cause everyone is drinking and your not. Once your pregnant your whole life changes (children are beautiful and I love mine) You should tell her what you are planning then you should prob not get your dress till then and maybe think about if you really want to be the bridesmaid because you will have to be there for everything up until and including the wedding and you might not have the energy if your pregnant

Answer 7

If she is getting married in July thats a ways away. I would wait untill time is near. If you are planning on being pregnant from now untill then. Then you can decide on the dress. Just talk to her about it I'm sure she will understand.

Answer 8

get regualr dress and make sure it will fit anytype of thing you need. its not for having a pg dress. you can do what everyone does. it isn't that big a deal and it will be fun on your day take care.

Answer 9

Order the dress now. if you happen to be pregenet they can always fix it. In the meantime try to be careful between now and the wedding.