Should I or should I not accept him back into my life?

Question

Ok here's the heads up...I was with this guy for over a year and stuff, we broke up and he starting going with his "so-called" friend (that he had while we were together) and to make matters worst he got her pregnant. Now he's trying to come back into my life and sumtimes I feel like a ***** because I'm rude to him from time to time because of the **** he did to me. (callin playin on my phone, questioning me about his gf, and all kind of crazy stuff) He's really trying now, in fact harder than he ever have. But I still feel like what we had is over and I have doubts so its no point in getting back involved. Then he popped the question last night..."Will you marry me?" Because I'm unsure and I think he is too, I said I cant answer that question right now. What should I do?? I say let him go, but what do you think?

ok sorry for misleading you guys...correction she has already had the baby (im sorry) Thanks all of ur answers are gr8

Answer 1

screw that sh*t he already f*cked up and you are a beautiful girl you can get a better 1 anywhere in a minute

be tough, don't toy with your heart, because it will toy with your head

Answer 2

I say no.

The only way I will start arguing with myself is if you said you still love him so much and want to try and work it out, but it doesnt seem like you're very determined. In fact you sound like you're still pretty pist off. I say no, do not get back with him. At least not right now. He has obviously other things he needs to straighten out if his baby mama is going to have his kid. He needs to be man enough to know his priorities and he's definetly far from that right now if he's trying to pursue you while his baby mama is having his kid. What does that tell you about this guy? You don't need to put yourself in so much drama right now.. because there WILL BE DRAMA. And asking you to marry him!?!?! I think he said it because he was desperate and totally not out of love.

I constantly tell girls this.. you have ...a whole life time to make a decision so important. marriage is sacred and I can tell you, he's not treating it as a sacred act right now. He needs to show you A LOT more than that.

if you don't even want to try. simple as this.. Let him go.
not picking up his calls and don't give him an opportunity to see you would be the easiest way to do that.


Goodluck

Answer 3

Its time to move on girl!! I know how you feel, but you got to stop putting your self down for the wrong he has done. Your a very beautiful woman and you don't have to settle for a man who has a baby after cheating on you. There are plenty of great men out there who is willing to treat you right. Yes, you may get lonely and you may think about the good times you both had. But all that is over and the only thing that can come out of yalls relationship is DRAMA and you don't need that. Move on!!!!

Answer 4

You should let him go if you feel that what ever you felt for him before is gone, then there is no sense is wasting your time again. You should move on, meet new people and see what the world has in store for you. You shouldn't have to carry around dead weight.

One thing that I always think about is...."Do I see myself in the future with this person, and what will my future look like if I do keep him in my life?"

Answer 5

Think about this.. Do you really want to be with someone who is having a child with another girl? If he loved you that wouldn't of happened. Not to mention the fact that you are going to have a LOT of baby mama drama. Is that what you want for you?

Answer 6

I think u should let him go because if Ur having doubts about this guy then do u really think that it's worth it pulse he got a baby now.

Answer 7

locate Him. he's not hiding. he's been there all alongside. the place can He be got here across? everywhere. pretty interior the Bible, at Church, and in Christian literature, Christian television and radio. seem, seek for and locate. Confess which you have made blunders (all of us have) and function no longer performed Gods will including no longer retaining the ten commandments. understand that there is a holy, greater ability, a writer, an all understanding, all useful, onmipresent cutting-edge, loving redeemer/Savior=Jesus Christ. understand that Jesus died to forgive our sins and furnish us everlasting, pleasing existence in Heaven. study of Him and settle for Him into your existence. enable Him exchange you for the extra appropriate.

Answer 8

i think you shuld let him go..and move an. I think he knows that you are a good person, and he is a LOSER. If he really loved you he would never go out and find someone else. Plus it sounds like you dont want to be with him. If you be with him imagine what kinda of drama he is going to bring into your life?

Answer 9

Why would you want to be with a guy who treated you the way he did, got a girl pregnant and can't seem to live up to his responsibilities? Unless, that is, you like the drama that goes along with getting together with a guy like him.

Answer 10

Well, it doesn't sound like you want to get back together with him at all. But none of us here would really know your full situation. Ask yourself why either of you want to be married, if you're really ready to be married, if it's him you want to be married to and if it would be a happy marriage. You both sound too young for all this, imo.

Answer 11

Don't marry him, Honey. If he got this other girl pregnant and isn't man enough to at least support his offspring, you have no guarantee that he'll deal honorably with you. It doesn't help matters that he tried to use you to spy on her. At best, he's a user.