Am I obligated to give out my pumpkin pie recipe to my son's friends parents? My spouse and I get along with them very well. They enjoyed the homemade pumpkin pie that I made because it's delicious and not 2 sweet.
The mother asked me for the recipe because her son ate a whole slice because normally he doesn't eat pie.
Is it considered rude if I don't give out my personal recipe? I don't want to give it out and then regret it later because friends come and go.
2007-11-07 12:54:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
This is a recipe that I altered from what I saw online.
2007-11-07 13:04:31 · update #1
NO NO NO, You don't have to give your recipe. Especially your pumpkin pie recipe. Recipes are meant to be kept secret to a chef. Besides, a pie is more than just a recipe, it is equal parts love, work, ingredients and style. Even if you give it to her she probably can't recreate your pie, it requires the your loving touch. If you give her the recipe and she can't recreate the pie, the allure of your pie will be lost. Keep it to yourself, but remember to share the end product with your friends and family.
2007-11-07 13:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Christopher H 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not obligated, but it's not like the recipe was Great Aunt Lois's pumpkin pie recipe that would have strong sentimental ties and be a family tradition. I could understand being posessive of something like that, but an internet recipe? Naaa, not worth be chincy about. If you really don't want to part with it, make a joke and say, sorry it's a family secret! or just give her the un-modified version of the recipe.
2007-11-08 11:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already said you would give it to her, you probably should - it would be a little rude to change your mind. If you were vague, though, you can just tell them that it's a family secret, and no one is allowed to learn it but your children. You're not obligated to give it to them at all, and keeping recipes in the family is fairly common practice. If they're offended, offer to gift them a pie on Thanksgiving. However, it's probably more important to keep their friendship than to keep the recipe (unless you're running a business). But hey, it's not like pie is healthy, so their son doesn't really need it. Now if you have a great recipe that will get him to eat his veggies - hand it over.
2007-11-07 21:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by hobo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No of course not. You are not obligated to give the recipe out. A lot of times people will ask for a recipe because they like the item, but then they end up never making it. Or they just ask once and then forget about it.Even if you do give it to her and she does make it,it probably won't taste the same.You could tell her where you got it from and that may work out for both of you if you really don't want to give it out.If you give it to her, she may end up calling it 'your' recipe or'your' pie. But I still say you don't have to.
2007-11-08 01:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by auntiee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your dilemma.
Possibly lose a friend or a pie recipe (I didn't mean that sarcastic). Good recipes are hard to come by, and you've probably tinkered with the recipe over the years.
Maybe you could give her MOST of the recipe, but maybe leaving out something, or lessening the quantity of something-which wouldn't alter the end consistency. I hope that doesn't sound too mean. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE feeding people great food, but I must admit, I'm guarded with my recipes.
Rude is subjective. But consider if it were your child who didn't like pie, and you wanted the recipe. Would you understand or would you be disappointed?
Hope this helps.
2007-11-07 21:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by b_lobi 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Unless you have a business where your livelyhood depends on a secret recipe of some sort you should give out the recipe. You are not obligated but it's a nice thing to do even if you part ways it's not going to hurt you if she has your recipe.
2007-11-08 14:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It's your option. If you dont want to, then don't. I wouldn't personally. It would kindly tell the person that it was a long family tradition or whatever was the truth. I wouldn't if I was you. Your pie must be delicious, and there's nothing worse then envy when the person you gave it to shows off. It would be a waste of the recipe to, maybe she won't make it as yummy as you.
2007-11-07 21:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you do not have a moral obligation to share your recipe. That being said, I always have found it odd when people feel that they have to horde their recipes. Two people can use the same recipe and the end result still taste different.
Frankly if someone admires a dish that I have made enough to request a recipe I am flattered and gladly share it. If your recipes are so special, then feel free to keep them to yourself. As for not wanting to share because "friends come and go" - in your case, I quite understand why. Someday you may find yourself the proud owner of "secret" recipes and no one to share them with.
2007-11-07 21:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just find a good pumpkin pie recipe online, and give them that. No, your not obligated to do anything you dont want to. If you give her a fake one, maybe it will have a placebo effect, the kid will like it, youll be a hero to her, and you still have your secret recipe!
ps: That advice will cost you 1 pie recipe.
2007-11-07 20:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you have a delicious pie recipe, why not share it? Are you going to market it and therefor do not want anyone to have it? If not, share it! This world needs all the sweetness it can get. :)
Pumpkin pie lover
2007-11-07 20:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by College Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋