Thanksgiving?

Question

This is my first Thanksgiving married to my husband but I have been to his grandparents house on Thanksgiving before (past 2 years while dating) but this year I have been reading things about Turkeys being crammed tightly into henhouses and having their throats slit while conscious and all these horrible things well while I am not vegatarian or vegan I do not want to eat meat this holiday season to help not so many Turkeys suffer I know I am just one person but its really important to me we are eating at his grandparents house first then my parents late in the day I know my family will understand but how do I tell his family that I do not want to eat Turkey while I am there without seeming rude or selfish or stupid?
My husband usually makes my plate and I would just tell him no turkey and explain to him why and he would understand BUT his grandma likes to make sure everyone is eating EVERYTHING she cooks and her heart would be broken if I didnt have her precious turkey on my plate????

I have a feeling the way his fmaily will see it is its one turkey already dead we are eating half of it so wether you eat it or not your not helping any turkeys survive
They are pretty closed minded like that
I dont want the turkey on my plate and trust me she will notice if its not

Answer 1

Well, you could tell his grandmother that you're trying to eat healthier and reduce the cholesterol in your diet (assuming the sides are not fatty or meaty). Or you could say that you're losing your taste for meat/you've gotten ill the last few times you've eaten meat. When people are eating animals, try as hard as possible to make it a personal health issue.

As another poster pointed out, all animals used for food suffer terribly, not just turkeys, so hopefully you won't eat any meat this holiday season and afterwards. However, Thanksgiving is *not* the place to mention it. Maybe later you can mention that you've read some things that make you feel uneasy about eating meat, but leave out the details unless pressed.

Answer 2

Either A you just tell her your not really in the mood for Turkey that day or you could say that you would rather fill up on the other good things made or B you put it on your plate and not eat it...My family wouldnt even notice if I didnt take something they cooked...Weird how she is so observant. I NEVER eat the turkey..I like the other stuff WAY to much :) Good luck!

Answer 3

Just say "no thank you"
You don't need to go into a big explanation why you do not want to eat the turkey and chances are they really don't want you to. I don't think at Thanksgiving dinner is a good time to bring this up if you do not want to get a negative reaction. Just say NO thank you. If they ask why just say you don't feel like eating it.

Answer 4

I would just be polite but be honest and explain that you adore her cooking but explain you are not that much of meat eater and would love a bite of everything else she has cooked so wonderfully.If shes like my granny.shes always in the kitchen and so busy she really doesnt have time to check out everyone elses plate.I would just make sure my plate was piled with the rest of her goodies.
my sisters anorexic she just puts everything on her plate and pushes it around.maybe you could do that to make it look liek you ate it.lol

Answer 5

If you feel so strongly about it I would think you'd be okay with sharing your point of view.

If you want to lie, tell them you're cutting out cholesterol or you're making mini goals for personal growth and this month it's no meat.

Answer 6

Hmm.
This is tough.
My parents are the same way...
I just tell them that they need to respect that, if they ask. [nicely as possible.]
But try to just not put it on your plate and not make a huge deal about it.
That's what I plan on doing!
:D