well im 19 years old and i was a virgin until about a 6 months ago. I have been with my bf for about a year and a half. i went and got a pap smear and the doctor told me i might have hpv. she did more test and it turns out i have a high risk type and i going to have that one procedure done(i forgot the name sorry). and im just so scared, ive never had health issues before and I cant beleive this happened to me. i used to say that only sluts got stds but now i feel so devestated. has anyone else gone through this? and i just cant help but be mad at my bf. i love him with all my heart but i just think its his fault although i may be wrong. i did everything right, i used birth control and i have only had sex with him. I am right to be mad at him? he feels really bad but im just really scared, any advice? thank you sooo much!!
2007-10-31 04:08:14 · 8 answers · asked by mari 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Marissa,
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I found out 4 years ago, while I was pregnant that I had HPV. It is a common STD even though I don't feel personally it should be categorized as one, since so many people get it. (50% of women at some time in their lives get it) It does normally clear up on it's own, but does mean you will have to get a pap smear twice a year for a couple years to make sure it hasn't gotten worse. The check that you are going to have is called a colposcopy and it is uncomfortable, but not extremely painful. They will check to make sure that the virus has not formed into something that could be cancerous and they may take a biopsy.
The biggest thing you can take from this experience is that no matter how safe you think you are being, there is no such thing as safe sex. There is always a risk. Also, don't be so quick to get down on your bf, if he has or had been tested for STD's they normally don't test for HPV in men. I wish I could figure that one out myself, since men tend to carry it without symptoms.
Anyways, forgive yourself and him and move on with your life. HPV as long as it is monitored and does not show signs of cervical cancer, is completely livable. It is not as bad as herpes, hiv, hepatitis c or the many other STD's popping their ugly heads up and destroying lives. You will survive.
Good luck.
2007-10-31 08:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is basically no way for a man to know that he has the HPV virus to pass onto a female. He may have not known he had it. You felt only sluts got std's wow. I have had HPV for 20 years and obviously it was passed to me by my ex who was my one and only partner at the time. I understand you being scared and all and I was told I had the high risk type 20 years ago but all pap smears have been low levels until just this year. I am having the LEEP procedure next month. Most likely your having a coposcopy which will give the doctor more info regarding your treatment. I can easily tell you not to be soo scared because I am a 20 year yet with this. It stillmakes me nervous when time for testing. Your at a good place because it has been detected and your under a doctors care for the best treatment and its still early. Good luck.
2007-10-31 06:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that 50% to 75% of sexually active people have some form of HPV, so you almost have to accept that you will get some form of the virus if you have sex with anyone, even once, and even with safe sex. HPV hardly ever has recognizable symptoms in males, so it is easily passed on. Its just pure chance that you end up with a type that poses a risk or causes gential warts.
Its perfectly normal to get mad at something like this and you have to direct the anger somewhere, so the bf is the likely target -even if this isn't exactly warranted. The anger will diminish - tell your bf that you are going to be mad at him for a while but you will eventually get over it.
The good thing is that the docs have found this virus right from the start, so you can keep track of things to make sure it never causes a health problem. You may never develop any symptoms, and if symptoms (warts) appear, they are easily removed. All-in-all, this is not really a big health risk for people with normal immune systems, decent diet, and annual check ups. With most people, HPV is usually nothing more than a nuisance - but many people have difficulty with the weird stigma that gets associated with HPV because it is sexually transmitted.
2007-10-31 04:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I had hpv, but the thing is even if you are a virgin and your boyfriend wasn't he probably contracted it from 1 of his ex's however men don't have any symptoms SO that leaves us... Its not like a regular std however I had a pap like 3 months ago and there was no sigh of it. It also was just recently really found out about they said it causes cervical cancer if untreated, but don't be angry with him, because I am pretty sure that he was unaware of his little situation. Just know that you never know so be careful I was crying when I found out about it lol. Now I am over it, and it can go away, but I believe that it will lay dormant however I hope this helps you out a bit. Good luck.
2007-10-31 04:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by danielle n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's natural to feel resentful, especially when you play by the book and do everything responsibly, but try not to blame your boyfriend...there is no male test for HPV, so he wouldn't have known he could give it to you.
80% of women will be infected at some point in their lives, 50% clear the virus from their bodies in one year, 90% in two. As long as you're getting regular PAP tests, you'll be fine.
2007-10-31 06:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Maple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most HPV can go away on its own and you probably don't need to have the procedure done at this point. Because HPV can cause cervical cancer, you need to get tested regularly to make sure it doesn't progress. You can get HPV vaccine to prevent future exposures to other types of HPV. Condom alone doesn't prevent HPV infection as you can get it just from touching. From what you described, I think you got the HPV from your bf. Although you love him, I doubt you will enjoy having sex with him again.
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2015-05-01 04:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tamarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya u have a right to be mad at him, but try to get over it. he feels really bad because your mad at him all the time. but first of all birth controll does not protect against STDs. anyone can get an STD, they are not just for sluts. now that u know he could have something, have him get tested as well and use condoms or some form of protection when u have sex.
i'm being tested for herpes, i find out nov 1st.
2007-10-31 04:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by LINDSEY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋