The bully is a big cat...several pounds bigger than the others, and he seems to want to establish dominance on the other two on a daily basis. It's getting old, but I hate the idea of giving him or the other two away. But the female that's being bullied has become afraid to use the litter boxes, I guess he is attacking her while she's relieving herself, I haven't seen him doing it, but she has begun having bowel movements around the house. Somebody help me with this! Thanks.
2007-10-30 23:55:09 · 9 answers · asked by uriahisonline 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
Is the bully neutered? It is the only thing I can think of. Also giving them all attention and feeding them together helps. How long have they been together? If it is less than a few months, wait, they will manage to settle the difference amongst themselves.
2007-10-31 00:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, get more than one litter box if there's a bully in the house. Sometimes it's a good idea when there are multiple cats. I had this problem with and old roomates cat. It would attack mine while in the litter box as well. The cat going to the bathroom around the house may also be stressed. Get a spray bottle and spray water on the bully whenever it's "bad". Sooner or later the cat should get the point. From my experience i've noticed that boy and girl cat's sometimes don't get along. Talk to your vet. If things don't improve it would probably be best to give the bully away for the other cats sake.
Good luck!
2007-10-31 10:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of good answers here. Get the other cat its own tray and put it somewhere she can get at it. Cats do take dominance when there is more thn one cat in the house. The cat that was there first will usually dominate the newcomers, and may continue through life the same. Females don't like new males.....because males are the dominant one in the cat world. I had a female and I got the male kitten a year later. He is shy anyway, and she has always beaten him up since he arrived. They're 5 and 6 now, and he steps out of her way if she passes him in a confined area...then she'll take a swipe anyway. They are ok though. It is not serious unless one is getting seriously hurt. Normally they sort it out, as cats do, and you all learn that is just how they are. Remember, each cat has a different personality, and that will determine how they cohabitate. He may be a bully, but the others will learn to stay out of his way. Good luck with it. Any need to remove the boy needs careful thought because it could be a cruel reaction, if you made him leave, to something that is normal in the cat world. Cats are not human remember...they have very different ways of doing things. Bully's are usually very insecure.......Just give him lots of love and don't cuddle the new one in front of him. It is your attention that he needs too.
2007-11-04 04:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lyra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem and did tons of research. It even got to the point where I got home one day and he had bitten the other cats ear and we had to have surgery for it since it got a hematoma. So I know it sounds weird but they react to you and how you behave around them. The more misbehaved he gets and the bullier he is the more you protect the other ones right? Well this is bad it opens the gap even more and he gets more jealous. What I found works is pet the bully more when around the other cats. Dont pet one without petting the other at the same time, you have 2 hands it is hard but can be done. Also when the others go to the bathroom bring the other one close and let him watch while you pet him and tell him what a good cat he is. If he gets aggresive dont punish him, just no petting for that day, ignore him and not let him see you pet the others either. He will get the picture. Good Luck!
2007-10-31 09:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try flower essences. There is one called Bully that was made for your bully. And there are others you could use on the other ones that might help them to assert themselves.
Flower essences are not guaranteed to work, and not everyone believes they DO work. But the worst that can happen with them is that they don't work. So you're out a few dollars - you take bigger gambles going to Vegas, so what's $15?
I personally have used Scaredy Cat on Poppy, and I do believe she's improved.
2007-10-31 09:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullying is naturall to cats. I have too cats and my older cat always wants to take control. Try closing the door where ever the litter box is and let the bully watch the cat use the litter box. If he trys to conqor, then disaplen him and tell him no.
2007-10-31 08:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Pet lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you've got a pariah cat on your hands. These cats simply don't have aggressive personalities, the best thing you can do is to set up a second litter box and feeding area where the pariah likes to hang out.
2007-10-31 08:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by thechief66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes that can happen. i would get anouther litter box and put it somewhere else and show her where it is. then she will have her own place to go. with out the outher cat bulling her. but if u see this say NO to the outhe cat. afte a bit things should chill out.
when i got my kittens and they ate together one always hissed and grawled and i kept yelling no bad. and after a bit things were ok. and now they eat together no probs so good luck.
2007-10-31 08:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by nvywife72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way to solve this problem is separate the big cat in a big cage, this is my answer, anyway i think you should ask vet for proper solution. remember don't hurt your big cat just because you want to punish him, anyway you can scould the bully. treat them well in order to respect them.
2007-10-31 07:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by albert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋