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I compete in ballroom dance competitions and I have a partner whom I'm really good friends with. Since we started competing together he comes over to practice with me every night that he has off from work which is about three times a week. We get along really well and he loves hanging out at my house and loves my family too. He has never asked me out and always implies that I am too young for him. I am a year and a half younger. He dates other girls and mentions it to me. Our personalities match so well and I really enjoy him. I'm afraid to let myself fall for him because I don't think he's interested. Does anyone think he could be interested in me or will he always just consider me a friend?

2007-10-30 19:55:17 · 2 answers · asked by Diane 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It is odd that he keeps bringing up your age differences in light of potential dating/dates he has with other women. Unless he is picking up YOUR interest vibes and trying to fend you off, (or a sadistic guy and playing with you), it sounds like he could actually be gauging your reaction because HE is interested. He does sound conflicted though (saying stuff about the dates and esp. about your age could also be a way to try and convince himself he shouldn't), so tread carefully!!!

Have you ever mentioned a date you had (even if it's fictional)? What is his reaction? (Be VERY careful not to try like you're trying to make him jealous though!!!) The best way to mention something is just to VERY subtlely drop a guys name (maybe mention a movie you saw recently and say something like, "Yeah, I saw that movie X; I liked it but George hated it. I thought the movie had great acting blah blah...(and keep going, but see what he did when you mentioned George)."

You mention he hangs out around your family too. The fact that he hangs out with you so much really does say a lot. You could try including him on more outings that do not involve the dancing. Maybe a coffee or drink after dance? ("Hey, I'm parched. Wanna get something?")

Keep it casual, but see if he seems truly like just friends or if there is sexual tension there. If that goes well, very slowly keep it up, inviting him to do little stuff that interests you two (like if he mentions a movie he like to see, maybe say something about it like, "I heard it got great reviews. I was planning on going on Sat. with some friends. Wanna join us?" And if he doesn't accept, still go and mention the movie later, so it doesn't seem like you were totally just fishing for his acceptance.) Again, keep it light/friendly at first. If he keeps accepting, you can eventually try one on one.

The key here will be to go slowly, however and pay attn to his reactions. Keep your own feelings in check, keep them subtle at best, and let them be expressed as he seems comfy or you could scare him away. You could lose not only potential for more, but the friendship as well. Take your time. It sounds like you are blessed with circumstance that allows you plenty of access and opportunities to be close to him--lucky girl!!!

Best of luck!!!

2007-10-30 20:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 1 0

i think u guys r in the friends category soz babe plz answer my latest question

2007-10-30 20:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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