i am 17yrs old. i have my boyfriend last month his family went to taiwan and they will stay there for good. i dunno but i just agreed to still maintain our relationship and we'll wait for each other. i dunno how to manage this thing. it just bothers me alot. my parents aren't around for me to ask them advice. i miss him so much we give each other calls but i have a very bad premonition. i am not very sure that he'll keep his promise.
how am i to deal with this?
this is my first time to encounter such thing.
please help
2007-10-30 19:18:07 · 12 answers · asked by soinlovewd08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships are hard...but they are not impossible to manage. A long distance takes communication, trust, and honesty. If BOTH of you can do this then there is a chance. If it helps i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in the U.S., we started dating when we were 16 and now we are almost 21. We have only seen eachother for a year if you combine the weeks. If you are sure that you can do what is required then talk to your bf and see if he can do it too. When i first started dating long distance i was very jealous and very insecure about him, but i learned to trust him and learned that if hes doing all the work to keep us together then he doesn't have time for anyone else and he doesnt' want anyone else. If you don't have one get webcams (both of you) that way you get to see eachother online. Also letters are great because they are more personal. Be completely honest about how you feel dont' hold things in because then...you going to blow up one day and get really fustrated. Also don't isolate yourself and dont make him isolate himself either, if you keep yourself locked up in your house then it can get lonely (that doesn't mean to cheat on him/her) you need support from the people around you (friends, family, etc.) It is very hard, and after a while it still isn't always easy so be prepared for that. Not everyone can have a long distance relationship, but there are a few of us who make it work. Good luck and i hope that things work out for the best. Let me know if you have anymore questions. :)
2007-10-30 19:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust . a relationshp is built aound trust. if u cant trust each other there is no relationship. I'm not sayin he will or wont keep his promise but realistically....lets just say he's young ad far away. when do u think he will come back? Does he have a plan for ya'lls future? How long were ya'll together before he left? All these things have to come in to consderation. But i really dont know what to tell you except I hope everything works out for you. I am a newlywed. Married my life while on leave from Iraq. I still have 10 months left here and I trust her enough not worry about her cheatin or leaving. have to deal with her ex being around cause she shares a id with him but that comes wth the territory
2007-10-31 02:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by megabite_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i remember being 17 or 18 and moving away to college. I was young and in love and tried the long distance thing. It worked for about 2 years, i think! The truth is, you are soooo YOUNG and you dont want to hold yourself back!! It will be hard at first, but you will miss out on so many opportunities to meet new people if you are tied down! If its meant to be, you guys will reunite some day. My friend just reunited with her ex-boyfriend after 6 years. She moved away for college too. Keep in contact if you want, but just as friends for now!
2007-10-31 02:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very complicated question. The best answer to a complicated question like this is a simple one. It's all about YOU! Its whatever makes you happy. If it makes you happy to wait with bated breath for someone that you hope is doing the same, then so be it. If it makes you happy to tell the person it's a waste of your precious time (and it is precious) then do so. I recommend you do some research on the statistics of long distance relationships and their outcomes. Best of luck!
2007-10-31 02:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Banjo and Sullivan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him. If he's going to stay there for good, then there's a very slim chance of your relationship to last.
I know someone who's in the same situation as you but his boyfriend won't be staying in that country for good. He'll still go back.
But in your case, it's very hard to make that relationship last. Yeah, you might be talking to each other everyday but still...the distance factor.
2007-10-31 02:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are still very young, just let him vanish from your love life and start anew maybe a year to see if he will communicate to you. If not then you can accept a young man searching for love. There is no hurry after all. Love comes the least you expect.
2007-10-31 02:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by lui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like any relationship you need to work on it --- if you are both committed to each other are honest trusting and faithful then it can work --- at some point (and this will be difficult for you within the forseeable future) you need to move closer or together ---- im in a long distance relationship (much older) and have no wish to be with any other lady ----- best wishes
2007-10-31 02:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. You seem to not trust him, which is a bad sign whether he is trustworthy or not.
2007-10-31 02:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but let him go. Your young there will be others. I tried the LD it doesn't work. Even if it did i would say its not worth it for you in that situation. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-10-31 02:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by chelgirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationship works only on internet. if u have common interest on topics, u can chat. for close intimate relations, distance is a barrier.
2007-10-31 02:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋