I am a virgin and I am dating someone who is sexually experienced. We have tried to have sex already but I just couldn't. I need to get over this before it ruins our relationship
2007-10-30 19:06:45 · 13 answers · asked by yoman025 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Yoman, If you want to have sex and he isn't pushing you into it. You need to have oral sex before you have intercourse this will help get you ready to have intercourse and make it a lot easier on you.You might just enjoy oral sex this helps to get you hot and ready without any problems. Your first time will hurt some and probably 3 or 4 times before you can enjoy having sex with someone you care about. Tell him to start out slow and be gentle this also helps.
A Friend,
poppy1
2007-10-30 19:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by poppy1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with having sex then it's just not your time to be starting to have sex. You have to wait until you're ready, otherwise it will only damage you emotionally in the end. If your "inability" to have sex is what ruins the relationship then I believe that that person that you're in a relationship should be left as it is. If they leave you because you can't have sex then you're not together for the right reasons. That being said, I think that you should try to relax, as it might be that you're nervous. Try out some of the KY gels and such that are out there to get you "in the mood" and remember the protection!! If you make the situation more comfortable then maybe it will help....but I don't know the complete situation so I can't help you out much past this....
2007-10-30 19:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. You
don't need to 'get over' what makes you comfortable. When sex feels right, you'll desire it, and know surely as if watching the sun rise that sexual activity can be initiated. It is to your credit that you've had courage to appreciate that the time for virginity loss has not yet arrived. Suggest in-lieu-of sex you share more romantic films, dance, and things that close couples do. Work out the kinks. Consider some adult toys to satisy your partner if prospect of conception is to be better avoided. Provide a source for latter if reader and partner can agree to same.
2007-10-30 19:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if NOT having sex will ruin your relationship...then its not the right person to be having sex with.
It needs to feel right.
If he understands your inhibitions, then it shouldn't eb a problem to wait.
If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? Please don't be doing this until you are at least 21...
actually, if he is the one, why don't you just wait till you get married?
Sex is like tying two bodiues together. If you could seperate the emotional from the physical, then sex for sex sake is fine. However, sex comes with HUGE emotional ties.
You will regret it if he isn't the right one. It also hurts the first few times, so you need to be absolutely sure you can trust him.
2007-10-30 19:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by treemeadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hw can sex ruins ur relationship? SEX is absolutely not an experimental thing u knw...
And Iam agree, u will knw when u're ready 4 it. Don't rush...specialy with some1 who's sexually experienced, I just wondering, where r all the "ex"s? I don't think that ur partner r ready 4 commitment, don't you want commitments takes part in this relationship?
2007-10-30 19:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by QUEENY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to lose your virginity before your married? I really don't think that a girl or guy for that matter should want to lose her virginity before marriage it is not a turn on, it kinda means that I don't respect my body for my future wife or husband. Honestly if you think that not losing your virginity will end your relationship than is it really a relationship? Well I hope that you make the right decision. Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-30 19:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kaden H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready then you aren't ready. Are you sure you want to do this with this person? Are you talking marriage? How long have you been in a relationship? These are things you need to consider.
You say this person is experienced, well what about protection? You don't want an unexpected pregnancy nor dieases either. Be careful and decide for yourself. If they love and care for you they will wait.
2007-10-30 19:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is set the mood.Cozy atmosphere,candle lite, champagne,and soft romantic music.Start with physical contact, like a massage, then gentle kisses and continue from there.Remember it's not a race so make sure to give pleasure to your partner as well as your self.
2007-10-30 19:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing or decision you have to do is ask yourself, if your ready to this kind of personal or private human thing. it's perfect to make a choices, to involved or to get ready.
but for sake of relationship it's better to wait the right time, and the place and the person. just think about it!
coz your so young and you've not enough to face the consequences if you will through it.just be yourself, you only the right to deside.
2007-10-30 19:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever confuse sex for love.
You have probably heard this before but it is true so listen again, if he leaves you because you aren't ready to make that move then he doesn't deserve you and is a jerk.
Wait until you are ready. Don' t push yourself.
2007-10-30 19:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Rena 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋