I was watching Montel today, and there was a 12 year old girl who was beat up by another girl, because she "gave her dirty looks" and it was video taped and posted on myspace and Utube... I could NOT believe what i saw on the video! The poor girl could not do a thing to fight back, if that was my lil girl i would have taken her to get some boxing lessons, and the next time any kid came up and threatened her or through a punch, i would give her permission to FIGHT BACK! it made this question come to mind.... why don't we teach our children to fight back!? There are so many of these same girls out there, that just pick on other girls, i'm sure the boys do it too..... but the kids getting beat up have no clue how to react because they are not aggressive, but shouldn't there be a point in which we teach our kids a few things about defending themselves when someone is attacking them? especially something like this!? I can not believe these kids get away with this ****!! anyone?
2007-10-30 18:35:47 · 8 answers · asked by I'm the mommy!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Kids these days have been wussy-fied. Even with all the violence on TV and such, they just dont seem to be standing up for themselves. I had an issue with a bully with my oldest son. He did all the right things by reporting it to the teacher, the recess aide and the principal. All did nothing to address the issue. So, one fine day, my son had enough and when the bully approached and started his crap, my boy blackend his eye for him.
Then, the useless principal wanted to suspend him. I laughed, picked him up and bought him his own cell phone for his bravery.
2007-10-30 19:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting violence with more violence is not a practical way to solve any problem. I think it would be better to stop the problem at the source, the kid initiating the fight. Punishment and consequences should be enforced. Parents and teachers should be on the look out for bullying and stop it before it starts. There is always a reason why one kid picks on another, and I'm not talking about being given a dirty look. Thats usually just the excuse, the tipping point.
In the ideal world.
2007-10-31 03:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Addie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really is a touchy subject for me. I have a son whom is a wonderful child RARELY ever in trouble and joined the football team this year. Before the last 3 weeks he was wanting to drop off the team because of his team mates calling him names. busting him in the growing, pulling his hair out on the bus in the dark on the way back from games. I finally went to the coach and told him if my son comes home again sick as a dog cause him teammate wants to hit him in the growings I was going to be very upset. I also told him that I had told my son if these kids did this again, I don't care how much smaller they are than him that he better take up for him self.
He is oversized for his age. Very sweet and loving and is treated so cruley. He has a bit of a speach problem and is made fun of on a daily basis.
Yesterday his bus driver set the perfect example of mean in front of the bus full of kids. My son didn't make it out of the school doors in time to catch the bus at his school, so he ran with his backpack full of books 1 block to the elementary shcool and tried to catch the bus and the woman opened the door and said sorry you didn't catch the bus where you were supposed to, so I can't let you on now and floored the bus. You tell me where there was anything nice in her actions.
My point being there is a lot of teachers, and people in the school whom work there and give this attitude and refelct a lot on the children there.
2007-10-31 02:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of behavior has been going on since antiquity. The only new twist is that it's being recorded and posted on the internet. I think learning to react to bullying should be a required course in schools. Not necessary self-defense as in boxing or the martial arts but just learning how to speak and avoid situations. Being mature. It's really sad though watching that video.
Peace
2007-10-31 01:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Eh Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your right, its not right. Regardless of the comments you will soon get LOL I will teach my kid to fight back and give her permission to do so. Alot of parents try to keep their kids sheltered I guess In a way that they have no idea how to handle such a confrination. I knew how and yes violence doesn't solve anything, but it does when you have some beast pounding on your head!!!
2007-10-31 01:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to get in a lot of fights in elem school. i wouldnt fight back until i was hit. i would stand my ground but wouldnt hit. i got beat up a few times and decided i didnt like it. then in 4th grade a kid picked a fight with me and i punched him bet the eyes and he ran crying. didnt have any more problems until oh 7th grade maybe two fights that year. then two fights in hs. one the muscle bound freak picked a fight with me i got two right hooks on his jaw and he got a pair of bracelets and a night in the jail cell. the other fight i broke up. it wasnt my fight. when i was jr hs a girl was attacked just off the campus. one of the senturies was a tai kwan do sensai and had a dojo. he gave free training after school in self defence. my sister and i and some friends took the classes.
its a shame that the girl got jumped like that.
2007-10-31 01:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by tom5251972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying. You don't want to teach your child to be a thug but want to be able to teach them to stand up for themselves if the situation arose.
If my child was getting beaten up on I wouldn't mind them being suspended for a week if they felt it was appropriate to fight back in order to protect themselves.
I wouldn't want to teach them to start a fight but only to protect themselves. Also boxing or Karate classes can teach self defence but also confidence so that can't be a bad thing. Usually kids with low self esteem and confidence are the ones being beaten up on.
2007-10-31 06:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I agree. Its been 10 years since I was in high school, and it was the same then. Alot more goes on in school than people know about or would even think about. My Junior year, kids would sit at their desk in class and snort cocaine, and they would pass it around. I cant even begin to explain everything that went on that people dont know about. Its alot worse than parents think.
And for fighting back, you have to. When I was in school, if you didnt fight back, then it was over. Everybody would have wanted to fight you then. You had to show people you werent scared. Or they would thrive on those people who wouldnt fight back. Thats how it was in my school. But their was alot of gangs also.
2007-10-31 01:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by RAVEN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋