I've been going to wal mart alot more recently. I've noticed stuff about the moms with kids there. This is going to be insulting: alot of them like 90% with kids is somewhat overweight, looks tired and worn out even with make up on, but their kids look so cute and energetic. And the husband is in okay shape(better than wife) and also looks tired.
2007-10-30 17:32:47 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i like wal-mart and i know it seems insulting but it's just what i see. You moms are brave because i'm too scared to have kids and think i might regrett not having kids someday. it's like going to china and seeing that most people are asian, it's just what a person sees/observes. a person can't go somewhere and not notice stuff.
2007-10-30 18:16:55 · update #1
We're- i'm not bitc.h.ing, whining or complaining. I can't help what i see. and i'm asking a question.
2007-10-30 18:29:38 · update #2
Actually its not such an off the wall observation...although maybe not very PC. (politically correct)
Women traditionally are the caregivers. The female value is to care for the family. Most times and without realizing it, we tend to address a mother's worth in terms of how well we care for our families. Many many times at their own expense.
There are countless studies that address this issue, right down to neglecting their own needs, wants, health and well-being, as long as their children are cared for and healthy.
I recently went to a conference where this was discussed at length. I was blown away. The researcher stated in one interview when asked when was the last time she visited the dentist, the woman replied "So long I don't even remember. I just don't have the time." When asked when was the last time her children went to the dentist, she answer proudly: "My kids go every six months like clockwork!"
Id recommend to read some Carol Gilligan. That's a good jump-off into the male-female differences and morality discussions.
I'm sure your intent was not to criticize Walmart moms. Just be careful when you state this around women. We are all a little sensitive about our appearance. :)
2007-10-30 20:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by aisydaisylady 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Why are you so worried about it? Welcome to having kids. You're wondering why the moms look tired...? Ever tried chasing after a couple of toddlers for a day? If you did, you'd probably look pretty darn tired too by the end of the day. Parents have a lot of stress on their shoulders, especially after coming home from a full day of work to another full time job at home... it takes a lot to raise kids. As far as the overweight part, I've never really noticed that. When you have kids, your body is forever changed...lol. Some people don't bounce back to their pre-pregnancy weight as quickly as others... it's tough weight to loose. Luckily, I've never had a problem loosing baby weight, so I'm blessed in that department. Instead of obsessing over it, however, you may want to just mind your own beeswax becuase apparently you have no clue what it's like to have children. I hope that you gained some insight into what it's like from some of the answers on this page. Also, when you have kids, the only place you can afford to shop is Walmart... especially when milk is nearly $5 a gallon and your toddler goes through a gallon every day and a half.
2007-10-31 02:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I haven't noticed but I'm sure I always look tired and worn out when I'm there because I AM tired and worn out most of the time. I'm not overweight anymore though but I was up until about a year ago. Looking tired and worn out comes with motherhood and working 40+ hours a week. I think the overweight part comes in with either depression and/or not having/taking the time to care as much about yourself as you do everyone else so you eat whatever is handy and don't get enough exercise.
2016-05-26 04:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wal mart is not the best place to judge if you should have children. i am 30 and have not let my looks go and i own a business and am no more tired then i was without a baby. i still shop, go to the mall, go to the spa, get my hair done and so on...it's like that though in wal mart but if you go to denmark...which is where i live now all the moms here are beautiful , in style, and skinny.
2007-11-01 09:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by aubrey p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you following me? LOL
I am a mom of 7. I had 8 pregnancies in 10 years. I still have A LOT of baby weight to lose. I was diagnosed a few months ago with a thyroid problem, which explains why my exercising and eating right wasnt helping me lose weight!
I look tired because I suffer from insomnia. I get(on a good night) 4-5 hours of sleep. I hit the ground running every morning because I have to get my kids up and ready for school. Then I spend the day cleaning house or running errands. I dont usually wear makeup to walmart because I am not there to impress anyone, I'm there to shop.
My husband looks tired because he works 2 jobs so that I can stay home and take care of the kids.
Of course my kids look cute, I put all my time and energy into making sure they are dressed nice so people at walmart wont judge them! Of course they have energy. I spend a lot of money on food so they are healthy.
Until you've walked in their shoes, You shouldnt be judging someone for the way they look while shopping in Wal-mart!!
2007-10-30 18:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you 100% , it seems a lot of people on here must fit your discription.. they seem so upset, hit a nerve.. no reason to say your sorry or explain further.
I would like to add to the reasons I stay away from Wal-Mart , I've noticed that not only are the little brats running all over, and the people as you describe but here in Florida I find that that I feel a second language would be useful. either way I choose to not shop at WalMart or Sams Club. I don't like the people there nor do I care for the people they hire.
2007-11-01 00:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by slim 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Just what exactly is a Wal-Mart mom?
I don't know about you... but I go to Wal-mart to shop not people watch or to pick people apart. I am certainly not overweight, nor do I feel I look tired and worn out... Of course maybe some times I do look tired and worn out as I am a soccer mom and involved in my "beautiful & energetic" kids lives. Too busy to worry about silly things like this....
2007-10-30 17:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by libragurl66 3 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Children+Husband= no sleep or time to your self(not even in the bath)lol. Thats why they look so tired. And the hubbys are fit because they work come home have tea n go to bed! they dont have crying, demanding kids all day to look after. then after a long day you relise you need to get something from the shop so you get the kids dresses, there fighting, you find your keys and you couldnt give a sh*t how you look as long as you get in and get out. Sad to say but the kids may seem cute in the shops but try taking them home.... then you will know why a mummy whos been up since like 5am with several children and a demanding husband is at the shops without her make up done or a lil overweight... we dont get time to go to the "beautysalon" or hit the gym like single chicks. And when you say overweight i hope you dont mean like a size 8 or something cause thats not!!! even though T.V and magazines say it is.
I BET EVERY MUM AGREES!!!
2007-10-30 19:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by mummy 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
well you've listed a lot of traits there. you're asking if we've ever seen a mom, dad, and at least one kid at walmart where the mom is overweight and tired looking, the dad is in average shape, and the kid(s) are cute and energetic. I'm sure everyone has seen a family like that at one point, but I don't think they'd remember.
2007-10-30 17:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't have the luxury to go to Wal-Mart to scope people out. besides the closest Wal-Mart is 45 min drive from my house. I work during the day. I am not a stay at home mom. I don't feel like doing Malls when I come home after 8 hours of doing hard labour work. Something is up with that then. I don't know what is going on in their house behind closed doors.
Maybe they have low energies, because they don't seem to take care of themselves as much as they take care of their kids. I never buy twinkies and all that crap either. I have lost a lot of weight leaving my ex. I am 5'4" and used to weigh up to 180lbs. I was miserable and I was a stay at home mom, but I wasn't allowed any money. My ex spent it all. After I left him, I started eating better, cut the junk food, went for walks, do things with my son and I feel way better about myself. I weigh around 145lbs. now, but I feel better. I know I need to lose some more, but I am not in a hurry to do so.
2007-10-30 17:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋