i need help imma virgin and i would like to no how bad does it exactly hurt and how much does it bleeed. oh also those of u who are answering and are not a virgin could u help me like tell me exactly what will happen like the day after or while u are having sex.
**thanks in advance**
2007-10-30 17:07:22 · 42 answers · asked by ~**ThE oNe AnD oNlY**~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Help is at hand as soon as your 16 let me know and I will be gentle with you
2007-10-30 17:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
um...I would advise that u wait 'til ur an adult. Because there are a lot of other consequences besides hurting and bleeding u'll need to possibly worry about and handle. So please take this advice. But if u are an adult and have thought about all the consequences...emotional, social, physical, psycological....then ok, I'll tell ya. IT varies with every girl, some hurt and bleed a lot. Some hurt and bleed a little, some don't hurt or bleed at all. For most, it's a variation of hurting and bleeding...ie...hurt a little, bleed a lot vice versa....Sex is differnt for everyone too. Just because I tell u what my experience was, doesn't mean urs will be the same. The experience during and after will only depend on the two of u. HOw u are, where u are, what mindset ur in etc. U just relax, and tell him to go slowly and sentually...to make u feel comfortable. Good luck, and no regrets hopefully.
2007-10-30 17:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help you! I dont remember the first time I ever had sex with a "boyfriend". But I know from exp. That if you have not had sex in awhile/virgin you bleed sort of like you do on your first day of the Month. Everyone is different though, some a little less than, some a little more than. But I would say [like if it is the first day of your monthly cycle] is kind of average. Alot probably depends on your lover too. If he is gentle enough, then it will not hurt alot at all. ASK him to take it slow and NOT rush you. Nothing happens the next day , I would assume you just are a little sore.
2007-10-30 17:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt, but it's not the worst pain in the world or anything. And everyone doesn't bleed, but I did, sort of like a light period. Not a ton of blood. The important thing is to be relaxed and make sure to use lube the first time. Both of those things will make it easier on you.
I can't tell you about how it feels and all that, since the experience is so different for every person. Me sharing details would be too private for me and useless to you.
If you are young though, please wait a little longer. You don't have to wait until a certain age or anything, but just make sure you are ready enough so it's not something you regret your whole life. Use protection when you do decide the time is right!
2007-10-30 17:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A STRONG word of advice....... Go to your mom, and ask her.... You may think that you can't or don't feel comfortable talking to her about this type thing.... but this is a serious matter, and it needs to be stroked with some love and some truth....
Truth is, your not suppose to have sex until after you are married.... that's the Word..... anything outside of marriage concerning anytype sex is a sin..... and being young, and sinning..... you can run into a whole heap of trouble, regret, heartache and pain.......
Sex should be the last thing on your mind, although it's great to ask questions.... just know that you want your first time to be with your husband, someone that will love you, cherish the moment, and be with you til death do you part......
Just think.... if you decide to lay down with your boyfriend or whatever, and it does not work out, or it ends up being a one night stand, or it could be that he was using you....you will be hurt, feel ashamed, feel used, and you will regret you ever laid down with him...."You will loose a very important part of you"..... Having sex really does change things... and most of the time if it's done in sin, and for all the wrong reasons.... it changes things for the worst....
Talk to your mom, and be truthful with her......Play it smart....
Respect yourself, love yourself, take care of your temple....
4 Real Peace
2007-10-30 17:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by 4 Real Peace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the female's vagina. If the vagina is tight, then it will definitely hurt when a penis in inserted into it. However, the vagina size will increase a little every time you have sex, then slowly the pain will reduce.
For bleeding, it depends if your hymen (a tissue that a virgin has) is still intact. Some hymen may be broken due to rough activities like gymnastics. If your hymen is intact during your first sex, then you will bleed. The amount of bleeding depends on the tear of your hymen.
Have fun =)
2007-10-30 17:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Peace =) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will happen?
I thought I would be a "new man" the next day, but I wasn't.
I just lost my virginity this summer, but I may be coming down with an STD. It wouldn't have been worth it if so is the case.
I'm going to the doctor on Friday.
That is why it is good to only get involved with someone you know a lot, and your safest bet is marriage.
2007-10-30 17:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you've used tampons, you probably won't bleed your first time since you've probably already ruptured your hymen (what most people refer to as your cherry). As for the pain part, it really does depend on the situation you're in. If you're mentally ready and physically excited and WANT to make this move, you'll be lubricated and it shouldn't hurt that much. If you're not into it mentally and you're "dry", it will definitely hurt then, and the next day.
2007-10-30 17:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a man so i cant answer the question like a woman will but " i need sex" i dont think is a good thing to say it is nothing so special about it,,, it is when 2 people love but then is just a thing that after u do it will be normal.... for answering ur question,, if u got a boyfriend tell him to use a condon and tell him to be gentle with you becouse is your first time and yea it will hurt if he doesnt do it right.. i dont mean the sex i mean the penetration.. after that ull be ok.. i lost my virginity when i was 14 but wasnt that pretty was with hooker hehhe.. but i had a gf and she was virgin and i was her first time so she told me to be gentle and i did and evrything went ok.. just be sure to tell ur bf that u are a virgin so he can be gentle.. join hehehe
2007-10-30 17:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by gazper123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not as painful as some say. but i guess it also depends on how big the guy is as well. it's more of a pressure/stretching pain than anything else. for me the pain wasn't bad during, but the next day i was so sore i could hardly walk lol. also bleeding depends on the person too. some only bleed a little or one or two days. for me, I bled off and on for about 3 days, and I bled a little the second time I had sex as well. it's nothing to worry about tho. everyone's body reacts to sex differently when you first start.
2007-10-30 17:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
truthfully, my first time didn't hurt and i didn't bleed. but i know a lot of other girls have had different experiences. my friend only bled a little. and i've never heard anyone complain about it actually hurting. and if so, it's NOT excrusiating. the day after, nothing should happen. life should just go on like normal. just remember to use protection! :]
2007-10-30 17:13:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋