How often should I tell her I love her?

Question

I don't tell my gf that I love her that often. Maybe once a week I'll slip it into a conversation. Don't get me wrong, I do lover...more than life itself!! But, I don't want to wear it off and plus I don't think she wants to hear it all the time. I think it make the guy come of as "soft" guy. Also, I think it means more when used less. The problem is that sometimes, I want to tell her so bad and don't which is painful...and other times I do tell her and don't get much of a reaction. What's up with that?

Answer 1

Tell her when you feel like it. She can tell that you're holding something up. Just be yourself. Do not wait for a reaction or expect something from her. If you love her that much, then give much without expecting anything in return. Love is not selfish, right? If you think more of yourself and how much it is going to hurt you if she does not react or give you what you expect, then it isn't love. It is just an infatuation, or an obsession. Just be yourself. Love her the way you do. Not what she thinks of you. Think about it. Good luck.

Answer 2

not very often. my dad used to tell me every day. (but he's dead). my mom tells me. my sister tells me. occasionally other family members do ........ or a freind does, but that kind of love is different than romantic love. And even in that cirumstance, i've not heard it often. I am not told "I love you" very often. I am not told "I appreciate you" or "Thank You" very often either. Hugs aren't common either. And though i'm the kind of person of whom is somewhat secure and i don't need to hear it every day, every once in a while it is nice to know that i am cared about and appreciated. But I think the phrase becomes commonplace after a while and loses it's meaning if used TOO much or in the wrong context. Like when i guy plays the "I love you" card just to get you to do him OR a friend or family member plays the "I love you" card just because they want something from you. Not everyone is like that, but some are. And the phrase does lose it's credibility and meaning after a while of being used improperly in such circumstances. I try to let the people in my life know that i care about them often. I always say "Love You!" or "I Love You!" but that's just because that's the way that i am. I've always been like that. I like people to know that they are loved and cared about. And that it is genuine, as i expect nothing in return. I am sorry you've had such horrible circumstances. I know the feeling, believe me. I can offer you a hug! ---> ♥hugs!!♥ And i hope it gets better. Just because SOME people in your life have treated you like crap doesn't mean that you are. You deserve as much love and respect as the next person. Don't settle for less than the best. LOVE YOU!!♥ ♥♥♥♥♥

Answer 3

That's great that you want to tell her all the time. You should change the way you say it though. Don't just use words, use actions too. There is more than one way to say I love you and sometimes it is difficult to find a way. It could be a random gift given in a special way, or even just a smile. It's all in the presentation. I look at it as the more thought, the more meaning.

Answer 4

say it whenever the time is right. this may mean multiple times a day, once a day or once a week like you do now. It doesnt lose its meaning just because its said a decent amount. It only loses its meaning when you let it. I feel you can never say it too much when your heart feels that way. My boyfriend and I tell each other about 15 times a day and i LOVE it.

Answer 5

Tell Her I Love Her

Answer 6

What if tomorrow never comes...? Would she know how much you love her? I think that as a woman myself I like to know that I am loved. I don't think that it makes a guy a "soft guy." It makes his girlfriend acknowlege how much he cares for her. It will never wear off. "I Love You" is something everyone likes to hear and know. I don't know why you don't get much of a reaction when you tell her....You might want to ask her! Does she say it back? Does she tell you and you don't react?

Answer 7

Tell her every time you think it. If it seems very often, just find different ways to do it and be more specific. You could tell her how much you love a characteristic of hers, write her a little note and leave it for her to find, massage her feet, put chocolate on her pillow, etc. A truly passionate man doesn't care how "soft" he looks, nor does he always need the instant gratification of her response.

Answer 8

I think everytime you feel like telling her, DO IT! Why not? If she has a problem with it, She will say something. Trust me! Maybe you don't get a response when you say it because she thinks that it is forced. Explain to her exactly what you posted. Saying i love you doesn't make you weak, It makes you STRONGER!

It doesnt matter if you say it a million times in one day, If thats how you feel, You should say it! I think she will be flattered, and feel loved! Good luck!

Answer 9

Pretty much what others have said. You never know if thsi time is going to be the last. So make it count[not saying you should go all the way everyday && make a big thing out of things every moment of the day], but at least tell her how you feel. You should feel better cuz at least she knows how you feel.

Answer 10

You dont have to say it everyday but at least show how that you do .. I mean if you do say it everynight i would want to hear it right before bed .. give me something special to go to bed with at night ...my husband tells me all the time he loves me and now that he is deployed we say it every email and even on the phones ...