So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. I just recently moved in with him and now we are fighting more than ever. Our fighting turns physical almost everytime and I always end up with bruzes. I try to leave but I can't stand the pain of it all. He just leaves and dosen't answer his cell. But when we get along it's great. He's out right now, not answering, and I don't know what to do. I hate sounding like a dumb girl but this as really painful. I thought I was stronger than this. My whole life is him. Or at least it was. How do I solve this? Will I ever get over it?
2007-10-30 16:22:30 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one deserves to be treated like that.
You just said it your self, "whole life WAS him."
Looks like subconscientiously you made up your mind already.
Your prob. scared to leave because all youve known is him, but it takes a strong person to say enough and to get out of an abusive relationship.
My advice get out if someone truly loved you they wouldnt treat you like that.
Theres a saying, "to a woman you dont ever hit her, not even with the petal of a rose." It makes more sense in Spanish.
2007-10-30 16:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An abusive relationship is one of the worst things i can ever imagine. I can barely even think of ever hitting a girl, never the less being abusive. You need to get out, b/c guys like him will never change. I assume you are older and an adult. Well you need to stand up and leave. People our age don't change and im sure you can do better. Its your choice, but think about the next 40 years. Is this what you really want?
2007-10-30 23:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're gonna get over this. I know you love him, and the thought of leaving him hurts more then the injuries he causes you... but he is not the 'one'.
You need to leave, right now. Go stay with friends, or family - anyone, just don't stay with him. Or, call the locksmith, have the locks changed and throw all his belongings on the lawn.
You can get over him, you just need to get away from him first.
2007-10-30 23:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie for your safety you need to walk away. I know that it is hard because it is all you know. When you walk away and get a clear break from him you will be a healthier person. I know you can't be happy right now. You will miss him but slowly you will start to get over him and better yourself. He also needs this as well. He needs to work on himself. Being aggressive like that is never okay. Everything will be okay. You deserve better. Good luck!
2007-10-30 23:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, you must leave the relationship. move out maybe back to your parents and if he harasses you then call the cops and get a restraining order. domestic violence is nothing to mess with.
2007-10-30 23:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by megz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought that maybe he could be bipolar? I say leave him before the situation turns worse. Once you get to know more people and get help you will get over it
2007-10-30 23:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by batgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship, find out why you date abusers through therapy and start thinking YOU ARE WORTH MORE than this.
2007-10-30 23:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help. Now! At a church, abuse center, hospital, police, your parents, relatives, anything.
Move out. You should NOT have to live with him.
2007-10-30 23:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should leave him!! don't like a guy hurt u !! here my email addrress if u need a friend!! efrain78223@yahoo.com
2007-10-30 23:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋