so this guy that i really like doesn't like me, so should i just go out with this guy who really likes me even though i don't really like him? i'm just sick of being alone and i'm kind of depressed.
2007-10-30 16:17:56 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the same situation. The guy that really likes me brought me flowers and practically begged for me to be his girlfriend. I hadn't had a boyfriend in about 3 years so i'm lonely as well but I felt no connection at all to him so I had to turn him down. Even though it is hard being single I know that it would be harder to be lying to myself and him by pretending that I was into him. It turned out for the best, we are just friends now and I think that's the best thing for us both. So to answer your question don't date someone you don't really like just because you are lonely, who knows when the real prince charming will come knocking on your door. Best of luck!
2007-10-30 16:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two things you should keep in mind here:
1. Leading someone on is one of the worst things you can do. If you go on a date with him, make sure he knows its only as friends. See what happens-- you might end up liking him
2. Being depressed and lonely feels terrible, but getting into a relationship for that reason is even worse. You'll come out having hurt someone and feel even worse about your situation
My advice, go on a friendly date and see what happens. If he turns out to be a tool or you two just don't have any chemistry, end it there.
And remember that someone is bound to come along :) it just takes some time
2007-10-30 16:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay if you tell him you are only interested in having a good time with him as a friend and not looking for a relationship. Being up front from the start is always better. He just might go for it. You might end up with a really good friend or you might find you really like him after all and forget the guy you like now who does not like you!
2007-10-30 16:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, why not? You never know. Maybe the two of you could at the least be friends. Don't think of if so much as a date, just go out and have fun, be yourself, sounds like you need to get out more especially if you are depressed. What could it hurt?
2007-10-30 16:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what could happen. Sometimes when you spend time w/ someone you see them differently & can end up liking them. Go have fun, be friends at least, have someone to spend time w/ & get some free meals. :)
Keep your options open. Keep it light & fun without the real commitment aspect. Talk to him so that he knows that you are wanting to be friends so he doesn't get hurt in the process. Don't tell him you just want someone to spend time w/ because that will hurt his feelings & make you seem bitchy. Just tell him that you are willing to see what could happen with each other & start by being friends.
2007-10-30 16:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by SpaGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him now, it is unlikely that you will suddenly start to like him when you are in even greater contact with him. Even if you make it last out of desperation for "not being alone", you will likely dump him as soon as you find someone you percieve as better, which is not very fair.
2007-10-30 16:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by kagato23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. The awkwardness of eventually breaking up with the guy you don't like and probably hurting him is way worse than being alone.
2007-10-30 16:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It will only encourage him into thinking you do like him and you're going to find it so hard to brush him off and tell him the truth without breaking his heart.
If your alone and depressed, seek a friend, seek a hobby, not a rebound.
2007-10-30 16:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lighthouse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you like it if someone did that to you? Don't give him false hope tell him the truth.
As for you, look for someone, go out more, give people you wouldn't usually look twice at a shot, you might find someone you like.
You'll never know unless you try. Good luck finding someone.
2007-10-30 16:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, dont do it. You'll regret it and probably really hurt his feelings in the end as he may be really lonely too and really like you alot, being rejected hurts, especially if you're told someone will date you and you're all excited about having a gf/bf....
2007-10-30 16:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by krisindeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋