Ok so here is the predicament that we are in. I am the bride, my parents are divorced and my dad re-married.?

Question

my dad and my stepmother are paying for the wedding and I think the invitation should be addressed that my dad and my step mother be hosting and say there names. The problem is is that my mother is upset if i do not mention her in the invitation but technically since she is not paying and i do not think that she should be mentioned but i dont want to hurt her feelings. Any suggestions on wording for the invitations so that i dont hurt anyones feelings?

Answer 1

I agree with crazyem. She's your mother!!

Answer 2

Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
&
Ms. Mary Johnson (your mother's maiden name)
request the honor of your presence at the wedding of
Jennifer Marie Jones
to
Mr. John Simpson
son of Mr. and Mrs. Steven Simpson Sr.
on Saturday August 9, 2008
at five o'clock in the afternoon
at St. Bartomolews Church
2314 Church Street
Cleveland OH

P.S. I would not hurt your mother on the occasion of her daughter getting married. It is just a piece of paper announcing your wedding for goodness sake. Don't be so technical...she is your Mother and bore you and brought you up just like your Father. So she didn't have the money to contribute...well who would after a divorce? Be fair by mentioning all parents involved whether they paid for the wedding or not. This is not a time to cause trouble and resentment.

Answer 3

Unless there is some major problem between you and your mom she should not be excluded. I saw how horrible my mother felt when one of my older sisters got married. She has a different dad than me who also remarried. Well it was my mom and her dad that paid for the wedding only she decided to leave my mom out of the whole invitation thing. Big mistake!!! I have never seen my mother so crushed. There are ways to put all the names on the invitation...figure it out dont leave your mom out!

Answer 4

Personally, I think a wedding ought to be about the people getting married, not the parents. How about something like this:

Together with their parents
Marjorie Jean Overkind
and
Jacques Bernard Smith
request the honor of your presence
at their marriage
on Saturday, the 12th of January
two thousand and five
at five o'clock
Saint Michael's Church
Smalltown, Massachusetts

Answer 5

I think you should include her in the invitation. Regardless of whether she is paying or not - she is your mother and deserves some special notice on your wedding day. My fiance and I are in the same situation - his mom is remarried and contributing financially to the wedding. His dad has a common-law wife and not contributing. But we're still including both sets in the invitation.

Answer 6

Forget what the "rules" are - this is your wedding - you should do what you want to. After the wedding is said and done will you be comfortable with leaving your mom off the invitation just because your dad was paying?

You could try ::

Together with their parents - John Michael and Lisa Lynn request the honor....

Answer 7

Have invitations in this format:
The honor of your presence (or pleasure of your company)
is requested at the marriage of
Miss Ramona Rocket, daughter of
Richard Rocket and Natalie Newname
to Mr James Jett, son of .... and so on.

Within the invitations, enclose a reception card in this format:
Richard and Arlene Rocket
request the pleasure of your company
at a small supper
to celebrate the marriage of
Ramona Rocket and James Jett, and so on.

In this way, your bio-mom gets billing as your bio-mom while your step mother gets billing as hostess.

Answer 8

You should put all names on the invitation or only the bride and grooms name.

Or you could state:

The parents of
Bride
and
The parents of
Groom
yadda yadda

or

Mr and Mrs Smith along with Ms Mom,
present their daughter,
Bride
and
Mr and Mrs Jones,
present their son,
Groom
yadda yadda

or

The parents of
Bride and Groom
yadda yadda

or just say

Bride
and
Groom
yadda yadda

Answer 9

just because your dad and stepmother is paying for the wedding does not mean you leave your mom out. she gave birth to you, probably did more for you than your dad ever thought of doing for you, hell it probably was not even his idea that he pays for the wedding , you put your dad and stepmother on the invitation but you in no way leave your mom out. think about it don't be stupid by it.

Answer 10

here is an example of how this will work

The parents of

josephine A Smith

&
The parents of

Robert B Jones

Cordially invite to the wedding of their children.



There is no mention of specific names and NO ONE gets hurt.

good luck.

Answer 11

If you want to know what the etiquette way is: you are supposed to put the people that are paying for the wedding on the invitation.

BUT: with the modern day we live in you can choose as you wish. You are the bride and if you want your mom on their you can. If you don't want your step mom on their you don't have to either. But, it really depends on what you want.

Here is a website that might help with wording:

http://www.shopwiki.com/wiki/Divorced+Parents+and+Step+Families+at+Weddings

Congrats and good luck with everything!!